My neighbour has been annoying me for months and months

[Neighbourissuedaily]

I couldn’t take it any more today and snapped at her to just fuck off and leave us alone.

She moved in just over 2 years ago and was overly friendly from the start but I thought it was just her trying to be nice. About a year ago she seemed to be there every time either of us left the house.
She started asking could she add a few bits to our weekly grocery delivery and then didn’t pay us back so after 3 weeks I said sorry we won’t be doing that any more.
If dh goes in the garden she’s there asking for help with something, in spring and summer she wants him to cut her grass for her and when he said sorry he’s busy and doing ours then we have plans she text me to say I’m controlling not allowing him to help her ??

Knocking all the time asking to ‘borrow’ Dh for lifting something / fixing something / etc etc

Wanting to park on our drive often and when I say no she does it anyway ??

EVERY bloody weekday morning she’s there waiting by the car wanting a lift to school and sometimes dh drops me to work on the way and then there isn’t enough room for her and her dc and she will say that I should make my own way then storms off !

There’s more as well I can’t list it all but she’s suffocating and relentless and so so needy.

Today she has been texting asking can dh drop her to the out of hours as she hasn’t felt well. I said no we are busy she should get a taxi. She then came round to ask dh herself and when i said he was busy she said ‘you don’t own him !!’

I’ve told her to never contact us again that we find her exhausting and are considering moving . She told me she wouldn’t be so persistent if we were ‘better natured’ and ‘helped without pressure’ 😂😂 which was when I told her to FO and shut the door.

She text afterwards to tell me I’m very selfish and I don’t have a ‘village mindset’ !!

People like her see kindness as weakness,the borrow a wee bit push it further add groceries to your delivery.
Well done op on putting a stop to that little number.

Gosh, I thought you were going to say 70s or 80s even.
A good lesson in ageism for you then.

I think it would be a common assumption for most ppl tbh, based on single woman next door asking for a lot of help.
We know now that she has dcs too and is younger, and just a CF. My assumption wouldn't be unusual, sorry if I touched a raw nerve.

Honestly I’d just reply and say ‘yes a village mindset goes both ways but you don’t stop taking’ and block her from both phones then completely ignore her if you see her.

The big over hear headphones in a noticeable colour. Don’t even need to be playing any sounds …. When she talks - just point & gesture to the giant headphones. I can’t hear you!!

I’ve used this strategy for years to not listen to neighbor, weird men and charity/survey beggars.

I thought you'd say she was older because then maybe she really couldn't manage some of these things herself so 37 made me laugh. She's lazy and entitled Op. Our neighbours borrow a lot of tools from us because it's their first home and they don't own them, not a problem, but they don't ask us to go and do the work. Anyone who talks about a village just wants someone else to do their adulting for them

You should have text her back and told her to move to a village where like-minded cunts would welcome her!

She also sounds somewhat deranged!

What a weirdo. No I agree with you except telling her to F off. That wasn’t necessary. I get the sentiment and reason why but it just isn’t ever appropriate.

Interesting to see if she backs off now….

Haha, the lunch scene is definitely worth a watch than. They're different ages, but she has a creepy obsession with the "head-master."

Well I'm old and have never heard of such blatant piss taking in all my many years!

When she was stood by your car expecting a lift the 1st time didn't you say WTF right then??

I feel sorry for her child having such an awful person as a parent. Either the child Will emulate his mum or Will cringe with embarrassment!

Yanbu. Does she ever ask for your help? Sounds like she fancies your dh (if he's anything like mine he's probably terrified 😂)

Sounds very wrong to me. I do hope your situation improves.

I had a neighbour I barely knew come round and say they needed to borrow my car. I offered to drive them somewhere if they needed a lift. They said no that would not work because they were going to a wedding and wanted to pretend the car was theirs!
I was so gobsmacked I just muttered something about insurance and shut the door.

This sounds outrageous. Genuine question - could her behaviour qualify as harassment? Especially as she’s been nasty to you. I’d be tempted to look into reporting this if it didn’t stop.

She started asking could she add a few bits to our weekly grocery delivery and then didn’t pay us back so after 3 weeks I said sorry we won’t be doing that any more
She was testing the water & your response gave her the green light, I'd have said a flat 'no'.
Or maybe money up front and £10 for my trouble (also up front) or no dice😈

She see you ad the barrier to her getting what she wants/ needs. I wonder if her damsel in distress act works in your husband. If he is more accommodating when you aren't around. The only way to nip this in the bud is with a united front. You need to agree no lifts EVER, no lending, no lifting, no carrying, no mowing, no car trouble help. NOTHING! If she can't do it herself then she needs to pay someone else to do it.

It’s a miracle you haven’t killed her!!!

I can just imagine this CF creepy woman curtain twitching while op's dh cuts her lawn, 😂👀

This reminds me of a colleague at work

We became mates (going for a coffee type mates) and she wanted to re-paint her house but claimed to be skint (always has enough to buy weed/crap/buy new clothes from primark)

Anyway,we'd just finished decorating our house and I said she could have all our leftover paint-as long as she didn't mind blues,greys and greens-all decent brands

All good,I got dp to run the paint round and had put in a roller and a few other bits for her

A few weeks later,I got a text asking when I was planning on going round to paint her whole house!

I laughed-no way!she expected me to go round,clear hoarders level of crap,take it all to the tip,slap the paint on the walls,gloss all the woodwork and do all this over the one weekend I had off work! (with her untrained dog up my arse and by myself as she doesn't trust dp in her house)

She bitched about me to work-apparently I was being unreasonable

As far as I know,the paint is still in the tins

Only someone with some sort of mental issues would behave in this way. Would be wary. At least you have rmanaged to finally tell her whats what. Do any other neighbours have the same issues. I absolutely can not stand thosr people who are overly friendly, I really hate it as they usually want something from you. Keep well away from her as she will be trouble.

Do you know any of your other neighbours? Does she try this with them too?

@Neighbourissuedaily if she has a car, why does she want a lift to school?? why does she want to park on your drive?? I, personally, would currently spending time in prison if I was you. you have the patience of a saint to only be blocking her number now. how did she even get your number? I couldnt tell you any of my neighbours numbers!

I'd message back with "and what have you done for the village".

I can’t get over a sausage roll and six fried eggs.

You and your husband both need to block her on your phones.

Just say No to any of her requests and give her the dead stare. Start ignoring her more.