For being rude to an old lady

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Doing my food shop at m&s, I was rushing to pick someone up after. I needed some jam. Lady was in the way. I said “excuse me sorry can I just grab that” she just stood there so I proceeded to reach for the jam.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

So because today has been a long day I said “ I did actually say excuse me and I did actually ask you to move out of the way” to which she responded “it’s such a me first attitude” I said “you do realise you’re in a supermarket. And you don’t own the supermarket. We all have places to be and people to see darling” and I walked off.

am I missing something here. Have I not used correct supermarket etiquette

@ThePerkyCoralPoet I'm more affronted that you describe a 60 year old as on old lady. How old are you I wonder?

If you waited more than a minute or if she was just standing looking after 30 seconds , then it was not u reasonable for you to ask her to let you reach in. I don’t think yo would have been unreasonable to say Excuse me loudly and reached in at that point.

She was a bit rude to ignore you but you were also rude and unreasonable to be quite so patronising

I’m talking about the many many posters falling over themselves to claim 60 isn’t old.

I think you were very rude to expect her to move quickly just because YOU were in a hurry. Even more rude calling her 'darling'. I understand your frustration because you were rushing but your behaviour was very rude.

I am in agreement with you 👍

Of course it is. 60 is 3/4 of the way through average life expectancy. Do you think someone is only “old” for 3 years or something?

I think you were fine. Some people have no idea how much of a dash others are in. You knew what you wanted, she was in the way, it's a brief moment of inconvenience for you both, then all sorted. Give and take. You sounded polite initially and she was then unpleasant.

It’s weirder how desperate you are to claim it’s not old. By how close it is to average life expectancy it literally is old.
It’s not an insult, no need to keep denying it. Strange.

You were rude, mean, condescending and sound rather foolish to refer to a 60 year old (or thereabouts) woman as "old".

I would have more respect for you if you just admitted you were in the wrong and stopped being so defensive.

If you are so convinced you did nothing wrong why bother posting?

I generally hate people using the term chavvy but in this case I'm making an exception. I don't think M and S food hall is the right place for the OP.

I bet she does

It doesn't matter how old posters think is old. The word implies a load of negative stereotypes and is completely irrelevant to the story.

Yabu purely for your casual ageism. Her age is irrelevant and your tone is sneery.

You were rude and so was she. Draw a line under it and call it a day. I appreciate people who dilly dally are annoying but we live in society and have to make some reasonable allowances for each other.

Darling used in a condescending manner 🙄, nice.

You sound charming, the sort of person who runs a red light because "we all have places to be and people to see".

I can't help thinking that AIBU should be retitled IADNBU, as in 'I Am Definitely Not Being Unreasonable' because so many OP's double down on their justification for their actions. Even when virtually everyone is telling them they are rude or arrogant or just plain wrong, they front it out. Occasionally you will see someone admit that they have misjudged a situation or overreacted or behaved badly, but it's definitely a rarity.

As evidenced by the previous poster who said just get out of the way and let me get my shopping

Well if that's what you're advocating for, why so snippy that she didn't move? You did your bit to make the world a little more unpleasant today. Well done.

She is still of working age. The implication when talking about 'old' people in the way in the supermarket is that they have all the time in the world when busy, busy people like the OP think their needs are more important.

Bloody hell. I’m 63 and would not take kindly at being thought of as old. You’ve lost my support lol. And as for the ‘darling’ quip, we all know that's just a substitute for Get out of my way bitch.

I would have ignored the dirty look personally and not got into the back chat. You asked her to move politely and then reached round - no big deal.