For being rude to an old lady

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Doing my food shop at m&s, I was rushing to pick someone up after. I needed some jam. Lady was in the way. I said “excuse me sorry can I just grab that” she just stood there so I proceeded to reach for the jam.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

So because today has been a long day I said “ I did actually say excuse me and I did actually ask you to move out of the way” to which she responded “it’s such a me first attitude” I said “you do realise you’re in a supermarket. And you don’t own the supermarket. We all have places to be and people to see darling” and I walked off.

am I missing something here. Have I not used correct supermarket etiquette

Do you know something, I've worked with the elderly and have so much respect for them, however I don't believe we should bow down and put up with some of their rudeness just because they're elderly. I was on the bus with my newborn at the time, she was obviously in her pram parked in the buggy area, an old lady gets on with her walker and says move I need to sit down there (foldable seat by the buggy) I kindly moved the buggy up towards me which was actually squashing me and my postpartum tummy but I was being nice, she continued to huff and puff and sigh and she actually whacked the umberella on the buggy and said it was going to poke her eye out, it was nowhere near her, she kept saying she had no room, there was plenty and there was also a perfectly good seat with space for her walker at the other side, after 5 minutes I just told her to stop being so rude and making a fuss, there's just no need

You were rude. She was just standing some people aren't as agile as others

I don't think anyone on here has said we should put up with the elderly being rude. It was the OP who was rude here - to an older lady.

By old I mean 60 at best. She wasn’t lacking agility.

She was hardly 90.

She was right up against the produce! I asked, waited, asked again. And then she started going on about how I was acting as though I couldn’t wait. Well no sorry Cheryl I have to pick someone’s son up so I can’t be staring at every jar until 10 pm!

You think that’s old? Seriously? She’s still got another eight years of working life ahead of her.

OMG know when to stop FFS!

So a 60 year old is an OLD LADY now?!

You HAVE to be on the wind up now! She is either 'old' or she isn't that old and had plenty of agility? Make your mind up!

60 is not old. Not at all.

You are really desperate to get this thread into Classics aren't you? Ain't gonna happen. People have to nominate a thread for Classics, and no-one is nominating this shitshow of a thread.

Why are you calling the woman Cheryl?

Okay so. If we want to play that. My mum was pushed over into the road and slammed her face into metal railings when she went running the other day. She had to be rushed to an and e, was pooling blood. Rang me and told me to pick her immediately. The phone cut before I could get to the location and I had 3 mins on the sat nav before I could get there and my heart sank and I didn’t know what happened to my mother at the other end of the phone for 3 whole mins. I could not think of anything other than knowing what happened and getting to my mother. I rushed straight away to find her. And she was stood in a corner with blood everywhere. I then had the panic of whether she had concussion as her head was profusely bleeding.

we all have things happening okay. I too had a lot on my mind mentally. Let’s not blow this out of proportion over a damn jar of jam. I asked nicely.

None of this is 'Cheryl's' fault though is it hun?

Oh sorry. Excuse me please whilst I shop in a public area and you choose not to move. That’s just entitled behaviour. If I posted this saying “Aibu for not moving out the way of an old lady who asked me politely to excuse myself.” We know what the comments would be.

Let’s not blow this out of proportion over a damn jar of jam.

Bit late for that. You did it when you released your tirade at her. And, once again, she isn’t old.

After a big enough trauma, I didn't have the energy to care for anything as nothing seemed to matter. Certainly not a jam jar. It also made me more aware that other people might be suffering in that moment, so made me more compassionate in my outlook. If I'd had the energy to be rude, especially over a jam jar, not a big deal.

No, you haven't. She was there first and isn't obliged to move just because you're in a rush. I don't like supermarket faffers but you were extremely rude.

You don't even know if she heard you. My DH is younger than that and wouldn't have heard you if you didn't speak clearly and directly to his face. He's waiting for surgery on his ears to help that. You assume a lot. Age might teach you a few lessons.

I don’t know why you’re even asking if you’re so sure you’re not being unreasonable.

You're presenting more unpleasantly with every post you make.

I said that ageism is ageism.

And I stand by that.

Whether the percieved victim is 94, 54, 34 or 14, being judged and/or disciriminated against based on age is ageism.

Another way of looking at it, if you're in that much of a hurry that you can't handle the speed of the supermarket, you're too busy to shop at that moment. Jam is hardly an essential item.

This. ^ Sadly, the OP can't see it. Too desperate to try and get this thread into Classics. Ain't gonna happen!)

I doubt if age will teach her any lessons either. Unpleasant younger people just evolve into unpleasant older people.

@ThePerkyCoralPoet " Let’s not blow this out of proportion over a damn jar of jam. I asked nicely."

but you were very rude when she didn't move, so you were the one getting bent out of shape over a damn jar of jam. She might not have heard you.

let me guess - the damn jar of jam is the only bright spot in your life, is going to be your next excuse!

you were rude to her and now on AIBU to justify it. You know you were rude.

calm down and apply to Trump's team for a job in the morning if you still feel like being rude.