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AIBU?

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Original poster

DP says I am......................

93 replies

Kimi · 11/05/2008 09:24

Ok I know its early in the morning and a sunny day but please AIBU?
DP does re-enacting (this means he dresses up as a German and marches round in the mud, (I wont even get started on what I find wrong with that) any way he has brough a very old camera to go with his dress up stuff and decided to put a digital camera inside it so it will take photos, now this is where I am being Unreasonable according to him..... He wanted to use my camera, this meant dismantleing it I said NO.
He said that
1 it is old
2 it is not very good
3 he would replace it with a new and better one

I still did not want him to take it apart but after much pleading I gave in for some peace and quite, so he took it apart, got a shock off of it then found it was too big so put it back together again, but still says I was unreasonable not to want him to do it in the first place.

We shall put it to the good ladies of mumsnet to say who was and was not.....

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Dior · 11/05/2008 09:27

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alittleone2 · 11/05/2008 09:27

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micci25 · 11/05/2008 09:28

tell him to get you the new one first yanbu! ime someone promising to get you a new one and actually getting you one is a whole different thing

asda and tesco are open on sudays from 10 send him down there to get you a new one then you will both be happy

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 09:29

He has put my one back together as it was too big and is not after the one DS1 has (againg with the offer of a new and better one in its place)

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 09:29

is NOW

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BerkshireBella · 11/05/2008 09:30

That is so funny but let the man do his strange things and make sure you get a shiny new camera at the end of today!

Alderney · 11/05/2008 09:30

I suspect this was simply because it was related to his hobby which you don't support...

If he had wanted to take your old camera and replace it, without it being to do with his re-enacting, would you be as narked..?

shouldbeworking · 11/05/2008 09:37

If he'd taken my camera apart I would still want a new one even if he'd put it back together again. A deal is a deal!!!!!

TakeMeHome · 11/05/2008 09:39

YANBU about the camera (I would be annoyed about it too), but to be honest, I'd be a little more worried about the whole dressing up as a German soldier business !

edam · 11/05/2008 09:42

YANBU at all - it's your camera! You get to decide whether to give someone else your possessions or not. How would he like it if you just demanded something of his whether he liked it or not? Replacing it isn't the point, he's not your boss and he can't issue orders (maybe his distasteful hobby is starting to affect RL...).

edam · 11/05/2008 09:43

How would he like it if you took his dressing up clothes and insisted on swapping them for something new - say, an WW2 RAF uniform?

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 09:49

ok so maybe I was BU about the camera, and yes I do hate his hobby, it got in to it via a very stupid friend he has.
Why can't he play with trains or spot planes? I find it all in very bad taste tbh and do not get me started on the cost, let alone the crap that he buys from eBay.... of the shows and I won't mention the authentic WW2 nazi gun.

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edam · 11/05/2008 09:51

YANBU about the camera at all. But his hobby is fucking weird. Is he the only person in Western Europe who doesn't realise what they got up to?

edam · 11/05/2008 09:52

No idea why I said western Europe, tbh, in the world?

No19 · 11/05/2008 09:56

Well re the camera if he has offered to replace it, or returned it as good as new, seems ok, unless he actually wrested it from your gripping hands or something. TBH I am much more intrigued by the mud-marching, how and where does this happen, is he alone or with some sort of club, what do they re-enact? Sorry to be so nosy just find it extraordinary.

NYC6723 · 11/05/2008 10:08

my concern is not with his camera dismantling it is with the anti semitic 'hobby' as you put it... as a partial MOT I find this very offensive and disturbing that anyone would don Nazi gear!

No19 · 11/05/2008 10:09

Do you mean he dresses up as a German or as a Nazi????

NYC6723 · 11/05/2008 10:11

She said he has Nazi gear?

No19 · 11/05/2008 10:13

Yes I have only just seen the bit about the gun.

mrsruffallo · 11/05/2008 10:19

YABU I f he replaces the camera swiftly. If not then YANBU.
He is being completely unreasonable by dressing up as a nazi

mrsruffallo · 11/05/2008 10:21

So are he and his friend part of a club?
I would be very concerned if dh and his friend dressed up as nazis and rolled around in mud together

PeaGreene · 11/05/2008 10:23

If it's WW2, surely dressing as a German and dressing as a Nazi is the same thing. What on earth is he up to???

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 10:24

To be fair to DP he is a very good person and very kind hearted and this hobby is so out of place for him as a day to day person.
He is not in the least anti semitic by the way, in fact I have never met anyone more live and let live and help everyone then DP, so I guess that is why I hate the mud marching so much.

To clearify he is part of a huge group of people who dress up and go to events and re-enact, there are Germans, English, Russian, Italian and so on, they do raise alot of money for vetrens and alot of WW2 vets go along to these events. Also DP sees it as a way to remind people of the evils done by the Germans, schools and stuff even have re-enacters visit.

I do not like what he does, I would not like it if he was dressed as any other nation either, I do not like the amount of money everything costs, I do not like the old dirty stuff that turns up from ebay, I would not go and watch, although alot of events are fully og WW2 vets and familys so I am told.

But I guess my think with the camera is more to do with why he wanted it and not that he wanted it.
Maybe if he was a roundhead or a roman I would mind less?

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No19 · 11/05/2008 10:24

The OP didn't specify WW2. Might have been Bismarck types in pointy helmets. But she did later mention a Nazi gun.

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 10:27

I call it all nazi crap tbh as I don't like it, but it is just German stuff although I do find it hard to seperate the two.

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