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AIBU?

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Original poster

DP says I am......................

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 09:24

Ok I know its early in the morning and a sunny day but please AIBU?
DP does re-enacting (this means he dresses up as a German and marches round in the mud, (I wont even get started on what I find wrong with that) any way he has brough a very old camera to go with his dress up stuff and decided to put a digital camera inside it so it will take photos, now this is where I am being Unreasonable according to him..... He wanted to use my camera, this meant dismantleing it I said NO.
He said that
1 it is old
2 it is not very good
3 he would replace it with a new and better one

I still did not want him to take it apart but after much pleading I gave in for some peace and quite, so he took it apart, got a shock off of it then found it was too big so put it back together again, but still says I was unreasonable not to want him to do it in the first place.

We shall put it to the good ladies of mumsnet to say who was and was not.....

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PeaGreene · 11/05/2008 10:29

Sorry No19 I wasn't having a go, just a bit at whole dressing up rigmarole!

Though the way Kimi describes it sounds fair enough. He knows he's being "the bad guy" in that context.

Is there a hierarchy? Could he get promoted to acting another country at some stage?

mrsruffallo · 11/05/2008 10:31

Do they have to do accents?

No19 · 11/05/2008 10:32

Yes me too PG but if it's some sort of educational pageant I suppose it's ok, though am still not clear.

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 10:34

LOL pea, I dont know how you get your "role" in fairness I do not like it and I am hard on him for it, but as I said the events do raise money for the WW2 vets who do seem to enjoy going along to watch. Some of the members are in their 70s.
As yet he has only been to one event so far but has been getting all the stuff ready.

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PeaGreene · 11/05/2008 10:35

These re-enactment people are a weird bunch. We often come across them cos we like visitng the odd castle or two, and I do feel sorry for the kids they drag along, and how they get sooooo into being a medieval peasant for the day, just tending their cooking pot. And the acting is usually unforgiveable. Oh well, keeps em off the streets...

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 10:36

As for accents.....anyone watch allo allo?
Goood mornink

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PeaGreene · 11/05/2008 10:36

The down side for you Kimi is that it keeps them off the streets and in your house!

[sympathetic]

hercules1 · 11/05/2008 10:37

I would be highly concerned if my dh had this as a hobby never mind about the camera.

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mrsruffallo · 11/05/2008 10:38

I was pissing by the door kind of thing? LOLOL

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 10:44

It is not in my house, it is in large muddy filds and school playgrounds.
I have been to re-enacting things with romans and medivil and so on but I just don't like the WW1/WW2 stuff.

I guess if it does teach the ipod generation who think call of duty is a fun playstation game that real war is evil, the Gurmans were evil, ethnic cleansing is evil then it is a "good" thing.

I have to admit that on seeing the photos I thought they looked more funny then scary.

But I do not like it, and the fact that my DP is such a humanaterian (sp) in real life makes it harder to work out.
His mother is mortifide the child she never let have actionman or a water pistol even re-enacts.

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mrsruffallo · 11/05/2008 10:46

This friend sounds like a bad influence

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 10:46

I seem to have lost all ability to spell today

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Quattrocento · 11/05/2008 10:48

It may be old and not very good but I suspect that you liked it just the way it was and it is (was?) functioning so YANBU

This marching around dressed as a german thing then, erm, tell us more about that. Do you have to dress up too? Is it a bit like Allo Allo?

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 10:49

Have to say his friend is really in to it and wants DP to "invest" in a motorbike WW2 style I said no fecking way.

DP has seen this now and is sad people wopuld think he is anti semitic as he is not.

However he still wants DS1s camera

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 10:53

Quattrocento it is very Allo Allo.
I do not /have not/ and will not dress up.

It would seem 1000s of people do this on a weekend, google WW2 re-enacting and you will see .

Most german crap went home with his friend after the weekend avay and I am more then happy for it to stay there as it is all old and dirty and as someone with OCD I hate it for that reason as well as the face this stuff was used in a fecking war.

On the one side I see it can be educational on the other I find it macarb

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Pan · 11/05/2008 10:56

Or, General Blucher at the Battle of Waterloo. Granted he was Prussian, but after unification in 1870-71 we could ascribe him "German" staus.

tricky I know.

anyway. You are being perfectly reasonable. He needs to get out more.

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 11:05

No pan it going out thats the problem

I feel bad that people now think DP is sick and evil as I have said he is a really nice chap and this is so far away from who he is that I just don't get it.

I know not all Germans were Nazi's but I call it all Nazi crap anyway and none of it is allowed in the house apart from the uniform (£400 worth) in a suit bag hidden away.
The gun (I have such issues with that) is now at his friends and will hopefully stay there,

It would also seem the WW2 vets like the German re-enacters more then the English ones as they have a thing about the English ones useing WW1/WW2 medels

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kslatts · 11/05/2008 11:07

If he's buying you a new camera I think YABU.

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Kimi · 11/05/2008 11:09

www.ww2reenacting.com/ tis this kind of thing I guess.

Do you think it would be unreasonable for my to stick a pot plant in his helmet over the camera thing?

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kittywise · 11/05/2008 11:14

kimi, you do what you like with your property.

I find this whole re enactment malarky very creepy tbh

TheHedgeWitch · 11/05/2008 11:44

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kittywise · 11/05/2008 11:55

It's still creepy. Grown adults running around playing make believe like they were still at primary school. .

Sometimes we go to these country shows where they always seem to have a wild west theme.Cue portly ladies in bonnets sewing whilst their menfolk are all dressed up like Davey Crocket, looking like they have had various bits of rabbit glued to their bodies!!!

Pan · 11/05/2008 11:58

just wondered if the uniform-bit is confined to the 'battle-field'...cough..

Lulumama · 11/05/2008 12:01

actually, as a jewish person, i would find it very unnerving that someone would dress as a german soldier, and reeanct things, and buy nazi memorabilia. it might not be anti semitic per se , but it is deeply disturbing, why could he not dress as an italian or french or british soldier from that era. buying nazi memorabilia is something i persoanlly find repugnant.

am sure the OPs DP is lovely, but i would find this aspect of his personality unnerving

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