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Fore · 2025-02-22T20:55:43+00:00

My DH bought 8 cans of beer and a small bottle of bubbly last night. I've rationed the bubbly so I had some last night and whatever I feel like tonight. By 6pm tonight, DH had drank all his 8 cans. There's a bottle of wine I bought a few months back to keep on our cocktail cabinet as I love the bottle. He hinted he'd like some but then muttered 'hm the bottle that I can't have'. I then heard him say, 'i'm going to have some'. I asked him if he would please not. He has now been sulking with me all evening. AIBU?

AquaPeer · 23/02/2025 09:03

Toobadsosad · 22/02/2025 22:55

Obviously never seen real binge drinking.

I would say 3 beers are just an initial thirst quencher at the door getting in… after that I may consider what I might like to drink for the evening.

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Are you mad?

every pub on the high street is people binge drinking

according to my units app, I binge drank on 23 occasions in 2024- meals out, Xmas, holidays, anniversaries.

you seem to have mixed up the horror of shooting up heroin with binge drinking.

getting drunk is binge drinking. If you think I haven’t seen anyone getting drunk you probably are expecting we all live in monasteries.

we’re children of the 80s. Of course we know about binge drinking. How have you come across so many people who drink alcohol but don’t get drunk?!

edited to add- actually the 23 occasions are weeks where I consumed more than 10 units so my necessarily one occasion although I think it’s likely in at least half those weeks that was the case as I don’t drink on many days of the week

wherearemypastnames · 23/02/2025 09:04

6-8 cans in one go is a drink problem - your weekly max units in one go? It's called binge drinking and it's bad for you

Buying what you think you want and then needing more is a drink problem

AquaPeer · 23/02/2025 09:10

AquaPeer · 23/02/2025 09:03

Are you mad?

every pub on the high street is people binge drinking

according to my units app, I binge drank on 23 occasions in 2024- meals out, Xmas, holidays, anniversaries.

you seem to have mixed up the horror of shooting up heroin with binge drinking.

getting drunk is binge drinking. If you think I haven’t seen anyone getting drunk you probably are expecting we all live in monasteries.

we’re children of the 80s. Of course we know about binge drinking. How have you come across so many people who drink alcohol but don’t get drunk?!

edited to add- actually the 23 occasions are weeks where I consumed more than 10 units so my necessarily one occasion although I think it’s likely in at least half those weeks that was the case as I don’t drink on many days of the week

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Yorkshirelass04 · 23/02/2025 09:26

Ge can go and get his own additional alcohol if the beer wasn't enough for him.

Sounds childish.

hididdlyho · 23/02/2025 10:14

I wouldn't keep a full bottle of wine as decoration and let it go to waste, but I'm not sure why PPs are convinced wine expires so quickly? OP says she's had it for a few months, I'm sure most wine will keep for at least a year. Maybe she intends to drink it herself or share a glass with her husband when she fancies it, rather than letting him neck it when he's already had a few. I have a bottle of champagne which we didn't end up drinking on my birthday as DH was ill. I wouldn't drink it on my own at home just because I fancied opening a second bottle of wine and that was the only one left in the house.

Sounds like the husband should buy himself a crate of beer for the weekend rather than a couple of 4 packs if he knows he likes a drink.

Nothatgingerpirate · 23/02/2025 10:53

Are you his mother?
I know it's alcohol, but he's an adult, let him get on with it!
Some time ago, I saw a post where a wife wouldn't let her husband have some of "Christmas treats" couple of days earlier.
I don't understand people like this and definitely wouldn't tell my husband what he can and cannot have.
🙄

notatinydancer · 23/02/2025 16:03

MrsKeats · 22/02/2025 21:22

6-8 cans of beer. That's binge drinking surely?

Not over 2 days. No.

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Fore · 23/02/2025 18:12

hididdlyho · 23/02/2025 10:14

I wouldn't keep a full bottle of wine as decoration and let it go to waste, but I'm not sure why PPs are convinced wine expires so quickly? OP says she's had it for a few months, I'm sure most wine will keep for at least a year. Maybe she intends to drink it herself or share a glass with her husband when she fancies it, rather than letting him neck it when he's already had a few. I have a bottle of champagne which we didn't end up drinking on my birthday as DH was ill. I wouldn't drink it on my own at home just because I fancied opening a second bottle of wine and that was the only one left in the house.

Sounds like the husband should buy himself a crate of beer for the weekend rather than a couple of 4 packs if he knows he likes a drink.

This pretty much summarises how I feel about it, thank you x

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JayAlfredPrufrock · 23/02/2025 19:53

champagne doesn’t keep well. Drink it

Tumblingthrough · 23/02/2025 21:08

I do wonder how many of the posters criticising a few beers and quoting government health guidelines have sat there on a Saturday evening and consumed a large pizza, ice cream and a bar of chocolate.

AquaPeer · 23/02/2025 21:10

Tumblingthrough · 23/02/2025 21:08

I do wonder how many of the posters criticising a few beers and quoting government health guidelines have sat there on a Saturday evening and consumed a large pizza, ice cream and a bar of chocolate.

It’s also completely irrelevant- the situation is an emotional relationship problem, not about him risking harm to his health.

hididdlyho · 24/02/2025 09:36

JayAlfredPrufrock · 23/02/2025 19:53

champagne doesn’t keep well. Drink it

It's unopened and stored in the cellar, so I'm sure it's survived 6 months. Will be drinking it for DH's birthday in a couple of weeks.

SapphireSeptember · 25/02/2025 07:15

Fore · 22/02/2025 21:01

Because I know be won't replace it. He's done this in the past with things he's broken for example, promised to replace and never does.

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Y'all are missing this titbit. He's broken some of OP's things, said he'll replace them then never does. He wouldn't be having my wine if he's never going to replace it.

TheseCalmSeas · 25/02/2025 18:38

Tumblingthrough · 23/02/2025 21:08

I do wonder how many of the posters criticising a few beers and quoting government health guidelines have sat there on a Saturday evening and consumed a large pizza, ice cream and a bar of chocolate.

100% and those people bought those things themselves