My new boyfriend hates me speaking to my kids dad

[Purplepanda17]

So I've been with a new boyfriend for about 5/6 months and right from day one he's always hated me speaking to my kids dad.
Me and him split up about 5 years ago, when our youngest was under a year old, and we've always co-parented well together, and communicated well regarding our 2 kids. I get on well with his new partner and also communicate with her well too.
However my last partner hated my speaking to my baby daddy, and now my new partner does too. My new partner seems to get angry and really jealous.
So a typical convo with my baby daddy might go something like;
Him - hi, how are the boys today? I'll be finishing work at 5 so I can pick them up on my way home and give them some tea.
Me - The boys are fine and OK that's great thanks.

Or he might ask me questions about school, or I'll text him and tell him if something has happened that he needs to know about, but generally when we talk it's regarding who's house the kids are at and who's doing them tea. Nothing more.

My new partner says I flirt with him and I've still got feelings for him and I shouldn't talk to him as nicely as I do. He gets insanely jealous if me and my kids dad have to ring each other for something and says we flirt on the phone. Which I can guarantee we don't. He says our texts should be short one word answers and we don't need to tell each other things about the kids.
To me, I think this is wrong. Both the kids are still in primary school, they aren't old enough to remember to tell their parents things yet so they still need both their parents to be their voice.
Also when me and their dad split up, we both agreed we'd never argue or be angry infront of the kids, because we only ever wanted them to see us getting along, but now I have a new partner, I feel like I can't even talk to the kids dad about anything without my partner being jealous.

Am I being unreasonable here?

You lost me at baby daddy.

You should definitely get rid of the boyfriend he is controlling and possessive.

It sounds like you have a good relationship with your ex which is great.

Awful cringeworthy term, and it didn’t make sense to start with

Dump him as soon as possible. He's toxic and controlling. In a few more months once he's got his feet under the table this will get worse. Your children's lives going smoothly should be your priority, not some creepy guy who hasn't been around long.

New BF needs to go. He’s making this all about his ego when its about what’s best for your kids.

Baby daddy lol

The mere fact that you think an angry, jealous man's thoughts and opinions have any worth or value shows you really should not be dating at all.

Work extensively on your standards and only ever date a man if he brings peace and enhances your life.
Hopefully your kids weren't made to meet this angry man.

First of all, well done to you and your ex for having such a civil and mature approach to raising your kids. So many parents don't including my dm who bitched about my father to me from the age of 7. She also bitched about his new wife even though my dm had also remarried. It's emotional abuse and very damaging to children.
Your new boyfriend isn't acting maturely. He isn't considering your childrens' feelings at all. In addition, he is massively controlling and needlessly jealous. Both are huge red flags. You and your children deserve someone much better than this man-child. Get rid!

Your DC always comes first and having a good co parenting relationship is a positive.

Your bf is an insecure jealous arsehole who needs to be dumped

So what are you going to about this loser boy (boy bring keyword) friend then, OP?

First response nails it. APU.

'Baby daddy', seriously? Does he mind this expression of he minds you speaking with your child's father? If somebody said to me 'baby daddy' I would feel sick!

The term ‘baby daddy’ is overly affectionate, it has sexual undertones and suggests you’re still attracted to him or still wanting a relationship. If this isn’t the case then stop using the term! Your youngest child isn’t even a baby anymore. If you refer to your ex as your ‘baby daddy’ no wonder your current partner is unhappy! Besides the fact ‘baby daddy’ is disgustingly infantile it makes it sound like you still want a sexual relationship with him. Refer to him as your ex partner or the kids dad like a normal adult and maybe you will find your partner feels more comfortable in believing things are over between you both.

Lose the boyfriend. He's controlling and a dickhead.

Who gives a shit what your boyfriend thinks? He got into a relationship with you knowing you had kids and they will always be your priority. How dare he interfere in what sounds like a very positive setup?

Dump.

Dump him. Things will not improve and you don't need this man in your life.

Your relationship with your ex sounds normal and healthy. It is good for your children that you are friendly and communicative.

The problem with men like your current partner is that they will sulk/kick off when your child(ren) chat about their dad in order to train them not to discuss him. That’s really sad.
The fact that he thinks that your messages are flirty when they aren’t is also a massive red flag. He’s basically saying that you’re a slut who will shag your ex first chance you get.
Over time, the control will get worse. Run now.

You already know the answer.

Any new relationships going forward you make it clear, you have a good coparenting relationship with the father of your children, if they are not going to like that at anytime in the future then you call it quits there and then.

Yes. This is the answer.

Goodbye of the current partner and hello to the term children's father.

Childlike and ridiculous behaviour. Get rid!

Your new boyfriends are clowns that you shouldn't want to be around gor the sake of your children.
Also ditch the term 'baby daddy' it is ridiculous.

Don't ever allow a partner to get between yourself and a good co-parenting relationship with your ex. As a child of divorced parents, their excellent co-parenting has made it so easy for me.

You and your ex aren't the problem, it's brilliant you can co-parent so amicably - it's the best thing for you, him, and more importantly the kids!

Your current boyfriend is unreasonable, controlling, and will hopefully be your ex any minute now.

YABU for not seeing the bright red flags your new bf is waving.

Can people on here ever get over anything? She said baby daddy, oh no that's such a big deal!