My new boyfriend hates me speaking to my kids dad

[Purplepanda17]

So I've been with a new boyfriend for about 5/6 months and right from day one he's always hated me speaking to my kids dad.
Me and him split up about 5 years ago, when our youngest was under a year old, and we've always co-parented well together, and communicated well regarding our 2 kids. I get on well with his new partner and also communicate with her well too.
However my last partner hated my speaking to my baby daddy, and now my new partner does too. My new partner seems to get angry and really jealous.
So a typical convo with my baby daddy might go something like;
Him - hi, how are the boys today? I'll be finishing work at 5 so I can pick them up on my way home and give them some tea.
Me - The boys are fine and OK that's great thanks.

Or he might ask me questions about school, or I'll text him and tell him if something has happened that he needs to know about, but generally when we talk it's regarding who's house the kids are at and who's doing them tea. Nothing more.

My new partner says I flirt with him and I've still got feelings for him and I shouldn't talk to him as nicely as I do. He gets insanely jealous if me and my kids dad have to ring each other for something and says we flirt on the phone. Which I can guarantee we don't. He says our texts should be short one word answers and we don't need to tell each other things about the kids.
To me, I think this is wrong. Both the kids are still in primary school, they aren't old enough to remember to tell their parents things yet so they still need both their parents to be their voice.
Also when me and their dad split up, we both agreed we'd never argue or be angry infront of the kids, because we only ever wanted them to see us getting along, but now I have a new partner, I feel like I can't even talk to the kids dad about anything without my partner being jealous.

Am I being unreasonable here?

A lot of people would love the co-parenting relationship that you have with your ex, so hold on to that and ditch the bloke.

He is insecure, jealous and controlling and this will only get worse over time.

Well done on seeing that and getting confirmation on here that you need to end this relationship.

Hopefully you will meet somebody who understands the importance of a good relationship with your ex. Not all of us have that, so it is worth holding on to.

I only read the first few lines and think you need to dump him , it'll always be a problem

Nope. Not acceptable. Not demonstrating a healthy relationship to your kids either. Into the bin!

You're so clever! No one else has spotted this!

I also seriously cannot believe people are focusing on the term “Baby Daddy” over the abusive and controlling behaviour her new date is exhibiting.

Priorities!!!!

Unreasonable for using the term 'baby daddy'.
Apart from that, sack the boyfriend, he's unreasonably controlling. Speak to whomever you like.

*I also seriously cannot believe people are focusing on the term “Baby Daddy” over the abusive and controlling behaviour her new date is exhibiting(
Priorities!
Most people are looking at both parts of the post and saying ditch the clown ( and get better boyfriends as the previous one was the same) and also stop using stupid language.
It's not one or the other.

Baby daddy = Children's father
kids = children

controlling and possessive = dump

lesson - choose better man

Those aren’t the comments I am speaking about.

But who fucking cares about the term “baby daddy” as if that’s the actual issue right here.

OP should not have apologised for using the term. Just ignored the idiots and focused on the actual sensible comments.

If your last two boyfriends have behaved like complete cavemen, I'd suggest you do the freedom programme.
It should help you filter out fuckwits far earlier so you (and your children !) are never in this situation again.
In case I wasn't clear, your boyfriend is cunt, behaves like he owns you.
You are not a possession.

Man, people get suuuuuuuper-triggered by ebonics.

The new boyfriend is a giant, giant red flag. I think it might be helpful for you to do the Freedom Programme or similar as honestly, this is the sort of thing that, for me, would result in a dumping the first time he tried it on, not after multiple attempts.

Fucking hell. Your boyfriend is an abusive, controlling prick. He’s a danger to you.

Just had a look into the freedom programme, thanks to all who have mentioned it 😊

Wow! You added so much to this thread. Well done. 👏....👏....👏

No loss so don't worry 🙄

Ditch him. Who dies he think he is?? It's really not healthy to have such a jealous and controlling man around your children.

Definitely get rid of the new boyfriend. It sounds like you’ve managed to maintain a great co-parenting relationship with you ex, which is fantastic for your children, and of course they will always be the most important thing. New boyfriend is controlling. Good job you spotted it so early so haven’t wasted too much of your precious time on him.

He sounds pathetic. I hope he isn’t living with you, because you need to dump him. So nice to hear people co-parenting well though.

FFS ready the bloody updates!!

Incredibly triggered!

This. And I note the OP says her last boyfriend ‘didn’t like it’ either, which suggests the OP is choosing/being targeted by the same bad type.

This definitely.

Huge red flags, get out now.

Ditch the boyfriends until you find yourself a proper grown up one.

I have had my ex husband in my home, my now husband has no issues. At my ds graduation, all the family attended and celebrated...My ex husband , his parents, his sister and her husband, me, my dh, my parents, we all get on so well. Just because our marriage did not work we always put our son first. He is nearly 30yrs old now and has said on many occasions, how proud he is we all get on, as alot of his friends who have divorced parents, say they can only remember their parents rows and how much it upset them...Life is too short, you are going about things the best way, your ds comes first. If your dp cannot get a grip, he isn't the right partner for you. Your dc will grow up thanking you, trust me.