WFH- partner came over unannounced

[Inchacha]

I mainly WFH. I was in a video call meeting earlier when DP arrived at my house unannounced (we don’t live together). He was unwell yesterday and I know he is really worried about his health, I made my excuses from my call for a few mins whilst I said hello to and made him a cup of tea, checked how he was feeling and apologised that I couldn’t take more time out of my meeting (sometimes when he pops over unannounced I might be able to grab 15 mins but not always). I rejoined my call.

DP then interrupted me after 20 mins or so by coming into my office, made stupid noises and laughed when I muted my call and asked him to keep it down. I was really embarrassed. He left but 20 mins later came back and said he was going and it was clear he was pretty cross that I hadn’t made more effort to fuss round him.

I understand that he is scared about his health and wanted more support than I gave him. But AIBU to think that I shouldn’t have just dropped everything? I know that when I call him in a minute he’ll say something along the lines of “as your partner I should take priority over work” or something like that and it will be the start of a reason to be cross with me.

Don’t let him in next time, he clearly doesn’t respect you for interrupting you at work, I would be furious

I would be absolutely livid! Why on earth couldn’t he have called/texted and checked if it was a good time?

Why are you worrying about him being cross with you? He’s a complete idiot!

Unless there is some kind of emergency with his health, like he needs to go to hospital, it's ridiculous of him to think he takes priority over work during working hours.

Is this really the relationship you want to be in??

Why would you call? Change the locks and wait to see if he gives you a heartfelt apology.

FFS boundaries.

“as your partner I should take priority over work”

He sounds like a big baby.

I'd be dumping him for that remark alone.

Odd.

Why is he so worried about his health?

That is the most completely childish and disrespectful thing I've read in a while.

Absolutely not on interrupting your work, invading your personal space and all because he can't be an adult!

Please read him the riot act and state exactly why this is not ok and must not be repeated - in my book it would be a dumpable offence just for the disrespect signalling a huge mismatch.

That’s narcissistic behaviour

You shouldn't have interrupted your meeting in the first place. He sounds like a liability.

He sounds awful

Why would you make him a cup of tea? That’s rewarding him for being inconsiderate.

He sounds like a right knobber tbh.

Your home is your workplace during your working hours, not a drop in centre. He wouldn't drop into your office and interrupt you in the middle of the working day if you were office based.

The reaction you're anticipating from him isn't okay! He shouldn't be trying to make you feel guilty for not pandering to his inappropriate behaviour.

What an embarrassment of a man. Do you seriously want to keep dating such an entitled man?

He sounds like a prick. He wouldn’t turn up if you worked in a an office so he shouldn’t turn up when you’re working from home.

In what other ways is he controlling? Because that’s what’s happening here. He’s trying to control you. Bin him off.

I wouldn't be taking 15 minutes out of a meeting to make someone a cup of tea, let alone someone who just let themselves into my house knowing I was working. I WFH everyday, and I would only leave a meeting for a real emergency.

I made my excuses from my call for a few mins whilst I said hello to and made him a cup of tea, checked how he was feeling and apologised that I couldn’t take more time out of my meeting

You did what??

I voted YABU for this alone. You were at work and inconvenienced someone else for this nonsense?

Tell him to grow the fuck up and lock the door so he can't get in next time.

Why did you let him in? Or does he have keys?

My 4 year old niece knows to keep the noise down and not be stupid when daddy’s on a work call. But your DP doesn’t?

He sounds really irritating and childish. Ick.

Does he work?

I don’t understand why he would act like this if he does work, as presumably he understands how that works - you give your time to work; work pay you for their (exclusive) use of periods of your time.

Sorry, unless there is something life threatening going on, which is not in your op, he’s a fool. A fully grown, unattractive idiot.

You’re both unreasonable!

Utterly ridiculous behaviour from him, I would not be in a relationship with someone who had so little respect for me or my work.

If you make him tea and apologize for not spending more time with him it implies like you've done something wrong? Why would you be ringing him now? Are you not annoyed at him? Let him ring you.

What on earth do you see in this man child OP?