Being locked in?

[DazedandConfusedbyPolitics]

New house to us, so please bear with me. DH nipping out the back door and conservatory so he can smoke a Marlboro in the back garden. He locks both doors behind him because he doesn't want dogs to follow. Fair enough, garden is not completely secure yet. He leaves keys in doors so I'm locked in with dogs and I feel trapped. I can't get out unless he turns or removes keys. AIBU to ask him to remove the keys so I can leave when I want?

Such a fire risk. You need to be able to have a secondary route of escape in a fire.

why don’t you just contact a locksmith yourself and arrange a new lock?

Contact the solicitors and have them request (demand) the key from the previous owner

The issue isn’t with her having no key - it’s that he leaves the key in the outside of the lock so that she can’t use her key to unlock from inside.

(Although it seems like the real issue is that she’s in a marriage with an abusive arse).

Surely that was the least confusing bit of this story!

Wait, what?! That sounds like a fire nightmare!
What if you needed to get out that way in an emergency?!
Get another lock fitted for goodness sake.

I’ve never owned a dog, but isn’t there a sort of ‘stay’ instruction that would mean that your dog won’t try to follow him out? Still get the front door lock changed though.

It will do your head in if you find it! It was the most frustrating post. We never did find out what the problem was!

You don't need his permission to call a locksmith.

I'm confused. Are you genuinely writing off your front door as never to be used again just because the previous owners took the key?

If so, you're going to have lots of fun every time Amazon/Evri/DPD need a signature and you need to climb out of an upstairs window.

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It's not a non issue at all. She's trapped multiple times a day. This and the other door not opening are fire hazards.

Joke reply deleted. Just realised this thread is not funny. Take care, OP.

HRTFT but you're talking about 5 minutes, FFS. What a non-issue. Any problems you can scream out of a window. Unless there's a massive dripfeed that your back garden is three miles long and he's gone to check the boundary fence, or he's been keeping you a prisoner for years, you're creating a problen from thin air.
Even with an insecure fence can't the dog be in the garden if he's there. How else do you let him out to use the bathroom. My dogs are walked twice but let out several times a day.

The OP really believes that the security freak husband is happy with the idea of the previous owners having a key to the front door?

If he were that safety conscious, he'd have had a new lock fitted by now.

I'm guessing that the OP's husband is lying.

She should've just expanded into the spare thread that nobody was using but was simultaneously full 😉

Why is it left the husband cant a wife organise this?

I'm certain that she could. However, the OP has indicated that she's not allowed to because the house is her husband's. Sounds like coercive control to me.

OP, your marriage does not sound healthy. If DH won’t ensure your safety and comfort he is seriously abusive. Trying to keep you confined is a classic sign of this.
As an aside, it is, to my mind, essential to change all locks when you move into a new home. You just never know to whom the previous owner my have given a key and there could be consequences years later - eg you start off friendly with a neighbour but then fall out, a tradesman’s son with a drug problem thinks he’ll come round and help himself to things to sell……

What will this solve? They need a new lock.

This is one of those weird threads where something worrying is said and the OP seems to disappear.

Get the locks changed. When did you move in? Surely having only one set of keys was never the long term plan, unless as others have said it if is a form of control and you are effectively locked in permanently and only allowed out when your husband says so.

We moved years ago so maybe this is one of those myths I fell for, but when we moved in we changed all the locks anyway as I thought this was the norm (as I said, one too many urban legend type things where people warn that you don't know who still has a key and you might get some random relative of the former owner let themselves in). We changed the locks ourselves, depending on the job this can be done by buying a kit from a DIY shop if your husband doesn't want to pay a locksmith.

So the previous owners could let themselves back into your house?

Why can't he just close the doors? There's no need to lock them too.

Why are you with this man, @DazedandConfusedbyPolitics ? You know this is controlling behaviour. You know by the picture of the locks you posted, that an animal could not open one of these locks. Well, maybe a clever octopus could, but not a dog...
Why is this house not in both your names?