Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Being locked in?

257 replies

DazedandConfusedbyPolitics · 18/02/2025 21:20

New house to us, so please bear with me. DH nipping out the back door and conservatory so he can smoke a Marlboro in the back garden. He locks both doors behind him because he doesn't want dogs to follow. Fair enough, garden is not completely secure yet. He leaves keys in doors so I'm locked in with dogs and I feel trapped. I can't get out unless he turns or removes keys. AIBU to ask him to remove the keys so I can leave when I want?

OP posts:
Catza · 21/02/2025 09:07

DazedandConfusedbyPolitics · 20/02/2025 22:27

No worse than living in an apartment block?

Made me chuckle too. Not everyone has two doors and most people manage to keep themselves safe just fine.

jannier · 21/02/2025 09:27

DazedandConfusedbyPolitics · 20/02/2025 23:03

We both have control of our dogs, because they have been trained. Thanks for your insight.
We have new door locks, as previously mentioned.
Maybe read the whole thread?

I have you train the dog not to touch the door, your husband is outside by the door he tells the dog no. Although why the dog isn't allowed out with him is nuts.

CurtainsCurtain · 21/02/2025 09:34

ForZanyAquaViewer · 21/02/2025 09:05

I’ve read the whole thread. Nothing you’ve said explains why, despite being married, you’d house belongs to your DH - as opposed to both of you.

Or why you described yourself as depressed, oppressed, unhappy and dejected.

Yes, indeed.

Mrsgus · 21/02/2025 10:04

This sounds like an absolutely ridiculous post. Locking 2 doors to prevent dogs getting out everytime he has a cigarette, why not let the dogs out into the back garden whilst hes out there? If any of us are in our back garden our 2 dogs are too, unless its piddling down and then they are mysteriously no-where to be seen!!

If it's a HA/council house and the previous tenant took the key then they would have changed the lock. Similarly if you bought the house the Estate Agent surely would have sorted out a new lock for the front door to show around any potential new owner rather than having to traipse around the back to gain access. If it was a repossession, they definitely would have changed all the locks so I can't see how you would have only had keys for an inside porch door, back door and whatever other door he's locking 🤷‍♀️

FormidableMizzP · 21/02/2025 11:43

DazedandConfusedbyPolitics · 18/02/2025 21:37

We have a front door that is locked. Previous owner took the only(?) key and DH sees no reason to change that lock as it only leads to a porch door that has new locks "so no-one can get in". Fair enough, but when he's off smoking and locking back doors I (and dogs) can't get out of the house.

What!? So many red flags. By Law the vendor must supply the keys. Also, "noone can get in" but that means you can't get out in an emergency. Doors are for access, out as well as in and ventilation. Even IF this is a temporary situation it is totally unacceptable - get more keys cut ASAP. But honestly, your marriage raises bigger questions, your 'DH' is not, if he thinks it's okay for you to be locked indoors several times a day at his choosing!?

iliketobereasonable · 21/02/2025 11:45

Why don’t you get another front door key cut?

RandalsAunty · 21/02/2025 18:29

DazedandConfusedbyPolitics · 20/02/2025 23:03

We both have control of our dogs, because they have been trained. Thanks for your insight.
We have new door locks, as previously mentioned.
Maybe read the whole thread?

You previously said that the front door is not useable as the previous owner took only key with him - so you don’t have new locks everywhere!

Do windows open? If they do I’m not really sure I understand why you feel trapped?!

New posts on this thread. Refresh page