Being locked in?

[DazedandConfusedbyPolitics]

New house to us, so please bear with me. DH nipping out the back door and conservatory so he can smoke a Marlboro in the back garden. He locks both doors behind him because he doesn't want dogs to follow. Fair enough, garden is not completely secure yet. He leaves keys in doors so I'm locked in with dogs and I feel trapped. I can't get out unless he turns or removes keys. AIBU to ask him to remove the keys so I can leave when I want?

You need to get a new lock fitted for the front door. It is not okay to only have one exit.

You don't need your husband's permission to change the lock on the front door. Also, why do you need to go out at the exact same moment he goes for a smoke? I assume you guys talk to each other so just tell him you'll lock the door behind him when he goes out..

You need to sort out the missing front door key asap
ask the estate agent initially
it used to be the case that when buying a house you had to be provided with at least one key for each lockable door

I wouldn’t like it, but it also depends if there’s a pattern of other behaviours?

Right, so you bought a house that you didn't get a front door key for? But you changed the locks on your porch door beyond it? 🤔

Yes, absolutely explains it all 🤣

Dogs don't have opposable thumbs, they can't open doors.

I don't understand why he needs to lock them?

makes perfect sense to leave the key in the door whilst outside

OP what does new to us house mean?

do you mean you’ve recently moved and have a new house? As in the house isn’t brand new but you’ve moved to a new house?

But you see a reason to change it (and it's dumb not two have to exits from a house when you can). So get it changed.

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask him to remove the keys when he goes outside, are you second guessing yourself or have you asked and he's refused?

The sellers have breached their contract by not providing you with a front door key. Talk to your solicitor. You can claim the cost of replacement locks and keys from them.

My sisters dog used to jump up at the door and has caught the handle and opened it

Large/medium dogs can open doors with lever handles. My dog did it accidentally the first time by jumping excitedly at a door and as she landed her paw caught the lever handle and it opened - then she remembered it forever.

This isn't safe at all. What happens if there is a fire and it's blocking your only exit?

So the lrevious owner kept the key - why? Write and ask for it back so you can have more keys cut or alternatively (much safer and more sensible) change the frint door lock and get keys for you both plus two spares. It is not at all safe to only have one exit.

why does your partner lock you in? That sounds horrible. Buy a second hate stairgate to put across the doorway to the room with the back door or ask partner to remove key after he has locked the door and make sure you have a key to it with you. Or shut dogs in a different room. Can’t he just let dogs have last garden visit at the same time as smoking and save doing it later?

You are definitely not being unreasonable and need to take action for yourself.

None of this makes sense. You need a front door that opens and closes! Regardless of anything else re back doors and conservatory doors

Surely you contact the solicitor and they get the key? You're essentially saying the people who used to own your house could come at any time and let themselves in?

If you can't contact the solicitor for any reason then why on earth wouldn't you replace the lock on the door?

I think you need to change the front door lock for safety purposes; you really need two exits.

But setting that aside, do you need to leave when your husband is smoking, or is it a mental thing? Why do you think he wouldn't let you out if you needed to get out?

What does he say when you raise this with him? I ask because it would be a massive red flag if he's intentionally locking you in. Do you go out without him ever?

You absolutely should replace the lock on the front door, it's a fire hazard, you only have one exit out of the property. This should be a priority. Why does your husband need to lock the doors, when he goes out for a cigarette?! Why can't he just shut the doors behind him to keep the dogs in? Unless your dogs are clever and can open closed doors?!!!!!

I can't believe a grown adult can't simply ask their husband not to lock them in. This isn't an AIBU, it's a simple conversation.

Kindly OP take some ownership of yourself! Just because your husband has an opinion doesn’t mean that’s the end of it. You can the locks changed or sort the keys out.

Sorry what he wants to leave the house forever locked?! FFS get those keys off the previous owner or get your locks changed this is ludicrous

Why haven't you changed the lock on the front door, knowing you don't have a key for it? I can't figure out how you get in and out of the house unless you only use the back door.
Why are you worried that your husband will leave you locked in the house in the event that some terrible calamity will befall you in the 5 minutes he's having a cigarette in the garden? Would he watch you die through the window rather than unlock the door?

Why on earth haven't you demanded the front door key from the previous owner? What do you do when, say, someone delivers a parcel to the front door?

He's in the garden not down the pub.... Trapped in?? Bloody hell dramatic....