To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

As has been pointed out on nearly all the approximately 346774345 threads there have been on aspects of women's honorific titles, Miss, Ms, Mrs are all contractions of mistress. They mean nothing other than what social convention at a particular point in time decides they mean. However, as almost every one of these threads shows, whichever title you choose, someone will make assumptions and judgements about you. It matters, because this is something men simply don't have to go through- thry are all Mr by default, just as adult women in various other countries are all Frau, Madame, Señora, because they're adult, not because they're married or divorced or anything.

And it matters, because it's part of how we're addressed. I am Emma, not Em, and I'm Ms, not Miss or Mrs. Mrs Bearhug was my mother, my aunt, my grandmother, but it really isn't me. I don't usually answer to it,because my first assumption is they don't mean me. This is not something men ever have to think about, because it just doesn't happen to them.

Surely Miss and Ms both just means someone isn't married. Why does the pharmacist need to know your exact marital status?

No, Ms just means a woman. Nothing to do with being married or not.

It is in fact the one you'd most likely use if agreeing with the view that the pharmacist doesn't need to know your marital status!

Someone that would get annoyed with this, imo would be either, someone older that has never married and they feel embarrassed, which is odd. If a pharmacist said “Miss Smith”, I’d assume they were meaning the 23 year old and not the 63 year old. The 63 year old would want to be known as Ms so no one knows what the situation.

The other would be someone who was previously married and who isn’t now but doesn’t want to remain as Mrs because of the connections to the ex but as previously, doesn’t want to be called Miss.

Perhaps someone who hasn’t changed their name after getting married.

I assume you must fit in to one of the above OP.

Wouldn’t bother me one little bit!

I’m not that hung up on the whole thing.

Where is this proud to be married club? I may ask to join.

@Futb I'm not in either of the categories you've mentioned. I've been happily married for almost 40 years and was a Miss until I was married and chose to be a Mrs as soon as I married my husband. It was my choice to use the title of Mrs and it irritates me if someone refers to me as a Ms because that's not my title. It's got nothing to be proud to be a Mrs - it's the title I chose to use and it's bloody rude not to use the correct title. It doesn't bother me in the slightest if someone who doesn't know me refers to me as Ms initially, but once they know my title, then I don't think it's unreasonable to expect to be addressed correctly.

@Mayana1 Ms. I'm a married woman. Also a feminist. HTH?

It’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things those is it. I’m sure the pharmacist isn’t doing it on purpose to piss off the OP. It’s not rude if they don’t know.
For whatever reason they assume she’s Miss.

As an NHS consultant of 30y, I say get them to change it. I make huge efforts to ask patients what they want to be called, and how to pronounce their names if complex. It’s basic courtesy and costs nothing. A decent pharmacy will understand the importance and change it to Ms as per your wishes.

You say "you're not in either category" yet you would take exception to someone not calling you Mrs after you'd told them that was your title.

That's exactly the situation the OP has- she has previously told them her correct title.

Your post shows what a load of nonsense it is that there isn't a female equivalent in English of "Mr"

Other countries manage perfectly well with Madame, Frau etc for all adult females. Only the UK clings to the idea that a woman must disclose her marital status on all occasions whether or not it's relevant.

I'm married. I never use Mrs.

I actually agree with this. 3 different titles, different people pissed off for different reasons if their preferred title isn’t used

Men don’t have to deal with this shit.

Exactly. And it's the same for the OP and other women who choose to be Ms.

They do know. It's literally written on her prescription.

Well that’s different. __

@IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle Yes I know I'm in the same position as the OP - I've made this clear in each of my posts on this thread. I don't give a toss about the reasons someone might have for choosing the title they want to use or what title they decide to adopt - everyone has the right to be addressed by whatever title they want and other people should respect that. I would never dream of addressing someone who chooses to call themselves a Ms as anything else, and would never question their reasons for not being a Miss or a Mrs. I would expect the same courtesy with how people address me. The OP didn't start this thread as a discussion about the rights or wrongs of referring to herself as a Ms, but to ask for views on whether she was being unreasonable in expecting the pharmacy to use the title that she has chosen to use and that is on her prescription.

Exactly!

My response to that is, I don’t think is an issue. It wouldn’t bother me.

35 year old happily married for 12 years and been a Ms since I opened my first bank account at 18 so wouldn't be annoyed for any of the reasons you've imagined there. I'd be annoyed because it's my title to choose and it's been incorrectly entered if it was more than once I'd ask for it to be correct. Titles either matter or they don't, if they don't matter the system should note them down but if you need a title it should be the title people have provided.

Who cares?

Quite clearly the OP and others on this thread, for reasons they have stated...

Unfortunately, the use of 'Ms' invariably causes some people to lose the run of themselves. Twas ever thus!

Is it a weight loss drug like Montjaro?
I’m interested to know how much it costs. Is it £50 per month or for longer?

This

You might have a PhD but your use of that insulting, unimiginative, lame and misogynistic "Karen" insult says a lot more about you than your PhD does.

I agree. @Thalia31 you may have a PhD but that doesn't make up for you using sexist slurs. Oh and I have a PhD too (newsflash - it doesn't make you a better person).