To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

Or over yours? Nobody cares if you’re not married at 50. It’s fine to be a Miss. There’s no need to be a Ms to keep people guessing, they’re not sat there discussing it after you’ve left the pharmacy.

Yes, like I said, the point went flying over your head at 40,000 feet.

It has nothing to do with whether we think they will care or whether we think they will discuss it among themselves.

So why the big deal then? I’m sure it doesn’t even register with the pharmacy staff.

Because it's not about the pharmacy staff. It's about you and how you want to be referred to.

As is clear from this thread, some people have bigoted and outdated views about use of the title "Ms". You're entitled to hold those views if you wish, but you should keep them to yourself and use people's correct title the same way you should get their name right.

Every time this subject comes up on Mumsnet there are posters who say we should abolish Mrs and Miss and just call all adult women Ms, because categorising women according to their marital status is backwards and patriarchal. And what happens every time that suggestion is made? A chorus of other posters start objecting loudly, saying, "No! I like being a Mrs! I'm proud to be married. I don't want to be referred to as Ms. I choose to be Mrs and nobody should be taking that choice away from me." And so on.

Well, fine. But any woman who likes being a Mrs because she wants everyone to know she is married (and there is really no other reason for the title to exist) should respect other women's right to be called Ms because we don't want to be defined by our marital status.

If the OP was complaining that the pharmacist was ignoring the "Mrs" written on the prescription and dispensing the medication to a fictional "Ms" instead (perhaps because the pharmacist is a militant feminist who thinks the titles Mrs and Miss have no good reason to exist in the 21st century), you can bet your life that the replies would be different.

so much angst!

I’d change my user name to MsScarlet if I were you!

Yes, and like I said, it’s completely over your head that the only people that care are the pretentious who want a special title.

We don't want a special title, we want to be men's equals.

It's gobsmacking that so many women find this so difficult to comprehend.

But you're not me, so you don't get to choose my name or my title for me.

Are you "proud to be married", like so many women who cling to being called Mrs Husbandsname then?

I’m just “married” there is really no more to it than that.

It’s not something I really think about.

Oh damn! I really thought I did.
🤣

It’s gobsmacking that women think they’ve the right to dictate to other women.

And you don’t get to dictate my title either, yet you’ve spent so much energy on this post alone, trying to do that!

The irony!

Why is it ok for you to do this? Please do explain?

Incidentally I’ve not dictated to you, I’ve just said it’s a lot of fuss about anything at a pharmacy, that’s used presumably no more than once a month.

I'm not dictating your title. You call yourself whatever you like. Just respect other women's right to make different choices, it's not hard. And don't patronise them by saying that people persistently getting their name wrong is not a big deal.

That is quite obvious.

You’re being extremely rude and asking very rude questions like “am I one of those woman who is proud to be married”, like I shouldn’t be? Like it’s an issue to you, like it’s any of your business! It’s not!

I still think it’s a huge fuss about nothing in a pharmacy.

Can I not have my own opinion?

OP, are you on regular monthly prescription??
if yes you can use Hey Pharmacist app, and have your all prescribed medicine deliver to your home.

In my opinion you have been rude and patronising in most of your posts.

Well we will
have to agree to disagree?

The OP was AIBU, my answer to her and others is yes, ridiculous thing to get upset about,

Problem solved!

Their names are not wrong, it’s their title!

The important thing is that the medication is correct....?

Honestly Op why do you care? I literally couldn't get worked up about what the label on my medicine says!!
Surely Miss and Ms both just means someone isn't married...... Why does the pharmacist need to know your exact marital status? I find it really odd that it bothers you. You must have a charmed life to worry about such things.

The only place I'd be worried about correct title would be on official paperwork (passport, bank, mortgage etc.)

As someone else pointed out, the responses from the proud to be married club would be very different if the pharmacist was calling everyone Ms.

But it's not relevant whether you think it's a fuss about nothing. You're not the person it's happening to, and the person it is happening to is annoyed by it.