To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

Actually, I'm with @Ihavealwayslivedinacastle on this (including that you did claim that anyone who uses Ms is pretentious). Why are you claiming that all 22% of posters are bullies? I voted YANBU too so am one of the 22% you refer to... why does that make me a bully?!

It's not.

There's no point in engaging with you. It's ridiculous to deny you said Ms was pretentious because you merely agreed with a previous post saying it was pretentious.

I'm not going to trawl back through your posts from the point you started saying querying the mistake at the dentist was unreasonable but it might be reasonable on other occasions. You know perfectly well you said it and several posters responded to it.

I’ve got a different opinion to you, that’s fine, surely?

But you’re now saying I’m not a woman because of that?

You’re not prepared to prove yourself right by showing the posts you accuse me of.

Shameful really!

I will leave this now on this post, but you’re an utter disgrace to think you’re right.

Im glad that the 78% agree that the OP YBU.

When I said earlier that a woman using 'Ms' makes some posters lose the run of themselves, I wasn't expecting such a prompt and agitated example.

But you’re now saying I’m not a woman because of that?

Please point to where I said that? I did not.

I'll go back and find the posts you're denying

The comments you deny making LovelyLeitrim.

Yours are in bold- couple of responses in italics.

The pharmacy is not the hill to die on

Like where? Genuine question.

Something a teeny bit more important than a pharmacist you see now and then?

Yeah possible that nice a month, ie now and then.

Sorry this makes no sense - where are the important places according to you we can correct your details without it being a fuss?

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In my experience these are the same women who also tell women who haven't changed their names on marriage that they are making a fuss over nothing when people refer to them as Mrs Husbandsname (which shows up the "it's only a title, they're not getting her name wrong" argument for what it is).

They are invariably women who gleefully shed their birth names and took their husband's name as a badge of pride the moment they got married, often without even thinking for a nanosecond about the alternative, and now feel personally judged by women who choose to do differently for feminist reasons, and can't bring themselves to respect that choice.

But the "Ms" thing seems to invoke particular rage. Unmarried women who use Ms should know their place and use Miss, which is apparently the correct title for an unmarried woman of any age (even if it makes her feel about 12), and married women who use Ms are actively rejecting the belief system that they have wholeheartedly bought into, which is even worse.

Well, sorry, but I'm not about to make what I consider to be an unfeminist choice about my own name just to make you feel more secure in having made that choice.

@MissScarletInTheBallroom You're very wrong in your sweeping judgement as far as I'm concerned, and most of my friends. I became a Mrs when I got married and it had nothing to do with it being 'a badge of pride'. I totally accept that a proportion of women choose not to change their name on marriage and fortunately we live in a country where people have the freedom of choice. I have no views whatsoever on the right or wrongs of using the title Ms, Mrs, or Miss - it is every woman's right to use whatever title she chooses and it is not for anyone to pass judgement on their choice. However, when a woman makes a choice about her title, it is then extremely rude for anyone who is aware of her choice not address her by a different title, and I feel it is just as rude as getting any other part of someone's name wrong. I have always been meticulous in checking how people I work with wish to be addressed and expect the same courtesy in return. It's nothing to do with feminism, it's just basic manners. And just because someone is a woman, it really doesn't make them a feminist.

If you accept other women's choice to use Ms and/or not change her name then you're not one of the women I'm talking about.

In terms of the vote - I wonder if it is people who are genuinely misogynistic and think women should be identified by their marital status

OR

people who think wrong title are no big deal as long as gender is correct.

I have met many a person who think shortening people’s names against their will, giving them unwanted nicknames, pronouncing their names incorrectly etc. is simply “no big deal” and I personally have experienced this attitude more from women so maybe that is what’s going on here.

I wonder what the results would have been if OP was “Mrs” but they kept using “Miss” in error and she wanted it corrected.

If the results would be the same then probably not sexism. If they would not be the same….well.

(Personally I don’t see the issue in asking for your contact details (including title) to be correct on your prescription info.)

Yes I don’t quite get why “Ms” is pretentious but “Miss” and “Mrs” are not.

Doesn’t surprise me. We still live in a world where most people think a woman’s ultimate purpose in life is marriage and children and she has somehow “failed” as a human if she has mot achieved that. Hence why the title becomes such a big thing.

Two of my female friends are married (one with children) and neither use their husbands surnames nor wear wedding rings. It constantly surprises me that they both receive varying amounts of negativity for both those things.

Why is “Ms” pretentious?

The debate has moved on.

I think somewhere in this thread has said it's not weight loss but a drug being prescribed for arthritis (but primarily used for cancer) - but I might be completely imagining this

It's not. That poster was just being hostile.

It sort of is - the premise of this section of the forum is whether the OP is being unreasonable and literally invites others' opinions!

Sorry, misled you about the arthritis drug. In OP's original post - before she deleted it and wrote a new one - she said it was cannabis

I want to know why they think it’s pretentious.

You are responding to a two day old post saying “the debate has moved on”?

Ok.

Get a life!

This is exactly how the patriarchy wins. Pitting women against each other.

It had moved on by the time you posted...

ok

And before you know it the pharmacies will be very few and far between.