Being naked in front of DP/DH

[SnowflakeSmasher86]

Are you comfortable being visibly naked in front of your partner? Would you be ok with the lights on/daylight etc and walk around with nothing on?

Or would you have a towel/underwear/a sheet over you?

i’m not bothered about my wobbly bits on a daily basis, and felt just the same way when I was several stone lighter, so I don’t see it as a body image thing as such, I juat wouldn’t walk around naked in front of him. He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship.

YABU - I think its normal to feel 100% at ease walking about naked in front of my DP/DH

YANBU - I’d rather keep some things undercover and feel self conscious naked standing up and walking about the bedroom/house.

You’re a really spiteful poster. You seem very unhappy and I might suggest a better hobby than posting spite.

Mind your own business.

My DH has seen it all, watched me birth his children, wiped my arse when I had severe food poisoning dressed me when I was so ill I couldn’t. I’ve never had a problem walking around naked in front of him and I am absolutely not slim, round body, currently 16/18 been as big as a 22, J cup boobs and yes the hang low, can’t quite tie them in a bow though.

Well, you’re on weight loss injections yourself and you’re here ripping into women, calling them fat, and telling them to cover up…

It was just me, my sister, and my mum growing up. We were always really relaxed about nudity. My sister and took baths together for years and we'd both sit and chat to my mum in the bath too.

I think it probably did help me to feel relaxed in my own body because I was aware of what a normal woman's body looks like. I knew from childhood that it was totally normal to have a few wobbly bits.

No I don't feel comfortable walking around naked, even in my own home with just DH there. I mean, why walk around naked? I just find it a bit weird. I would be cold too. As well as feeling very vulnerable and exposed.

I am 3-4 stone overweight and feel self conscious anyway, but even so I wouldn't. Never used to when I was a size 10 either . Also, when my DH and I were much younger, some days he would use any opportunity to grab and grope me - if he felt horny... And if he saw me naked he would grab me and pull me down on the bed, or couch, or floor, for a shag. (This was the 1990s.)

It got on my nerves so much being used as a fucking machine, that I started locking the bathroom door behind me and making sure I was fully clothed when I came out of the shower. And I got dressed in the morning (and night) in the bathroom. (So he rarely saw me naked.) And I shut the kitchen door when I was in there as I got fed up of him coming up behind me and slapping my arse and my grabbing and kneading my breasts.

Yes I know, fucking awful behaviour, and I did put a stop to it eventually after several years, by yelling at him and telling him I was fucked off with him pawing me and grabbing me for a fuck when it suited him. He sulked for a while and said 'can't I even touch my own WIFE now?!' And I said 'if you want a fucking machine go to a prostitute.' Hasn't been like this for 25+ years but for a few years, he was fucking annoying.

tl;dr, this is why I stopped being naked in front of him - ever, unless we were actually going to shag, as I didn't want to risk him trying to get his end away like a randy dog! First sign of my tits and fanny and he would be like 'phwoarrrrr!' (And thought I should be 'flattered' that he fancies me!)

I would never have stayed with him if he had carried on like this.

The only reason I am currently more modest, is to avoid traumatising my 14 yo DS 😂If DS is out of the house, I have no problems being naked. Even DS sees me in my bra and pants - he's not phased by that, and I feel it's important that 'normal' bodies are seen.
However, if someone else has an issue with being naked, I don't see an issue with that, either.

@Marshbird - I have no brothers, just one sister and she is almost 8 years younger than me. My dad didn't wander around naked and my mother was, I think, the most prudish woman I've ever known. But I was a teenager during the Summer of Love and perhaps that put paid to all my moral standards?

<on edit> I don't tend to spend much time walking around the house naked ... why would I? But I happily walk from the bedroom to the bathroom and back and get dressed/undressed in front of MrG without even thinking about it.

Blimey. 😳

This might blow your mind.

When you love someone, whether romantically or platonically, things like their weight don't bother you. Physical flaws don't bother you. My ex partner was technically overweight, but I thought she had the most beautiful body I'd ever seen. My DH is hideously scarred from the waist down and all up his ribs, I think he's the most beautiful man I've ever seen.

Our kids don't give a fuck about daddy's scars, and my ex partner's kids don't give a fuck about their mummy's round belly. Both of these people are human beings, and fucking wonderful ones. Far better than you with your self indulgent vitriol.

I'd suggest therapy over weight loss injections. You can change the outside but it's your mind that needs the real help.

I know. 😕Even now I can't believe I put up with it for several years.

He sounds really controlling to keep nagging you about this. I couldn't be doing with it. And the fake sensitivity regarding the comedian is a bit manipulative and weird. He sounds like an arse.

I don't think it's important or indicative of anything. I don't particularly mind someone seeing me naked (although I hide my mum tum) but I don't like the feeling of being naked. I'm very slim but even so, bits wobble about and I don't like that feeling. I'm autistic and prefer the slight pressure of tights or leggings....it feels safer.

His watched me push babies out, throw up and help me put suppositories in. He sees me shower naked daily.

His free to close his eyes and not look.

I think this is common. Sadly . If men didn’t grow up seeing women naked it doesn’t seem to take much for some of them.
sadly, it goes all the way to sexual abuse and rape in marriage- number of men who think,it’s acceptable to grope or penetrate a sleeping partner.

I seem to be in the minority here but I hate being naked and definitely don’t walk around naked in front of DP. He hasn’t seen me on the loo, saw very little exposed during labour, definitely wouldn’t dream of him tending to any medical needs down there, washing me, checking bits or shaving or whatever everyone else seems to do and def wouldn’t shower or bath with him either. Very conservative upbringing and feel exposed and embarrassed naked, even when younger with great body (still slim but stomach skin is ruined after kids) (also def wouldn’t sleep naked, young children who play musical beds and I’m often up in the night to check on them etc)

He sleeps naked and I do too when it's warmer. I'm entirely comfortable with being naked in front of him and often am, but in general I don't have body insecurities luckily and he's always been very complimentary. So I guess it's easy to feel this way. I can't imagine hiding myself from him tbh. Feeling comfortable with being naked in front of each other is just part of us, not something we think about a lot tbh.

No problem with nakedness, I've slept nude for years. When I was a size 20 and now at size 14 or when I was heavily pregnant. DH has always liked my body even if I didn't feel comfortable in my own skin.

He sounds a right fucking arsehole OP. I hope he is actually a "boyfriend" rather than a partner, i.e. a recent casual thing you can quite easily put in the bin. He is making you feel insecure about things you (a) have never felt insecure about before and (b) have no reason to feel insecure about at all. He is being manipulative and cruel. I'd be telling him that he could kiss my shapely arse goodbye. Be glad you're not the poor OP who is currently pregnant by one of these pricks and therefore in a real bind. He's not improving your life and you are not tied to him = off he fucks.

your kids probably hate seeing you naked. Just cover up ffs.

@thesoundofmucas Yeah, maybe they do! How is it that you manage to cover up your fucking horrendous personality? Do you like, pretend to be nice? Or does everyone just know that you're an irritating, annoying dick?

How do you have sex? How could he never have seen your stomach?

I’ll let hubby see my boobies because they’re fab, I try to hide my down below when getting dressed after a shower. I don’t want to inflict that on him. 🤣