Being naked in front of DP/DH

[SnowflakeSmasher86]

Are you comfortable being visibly naked in front of your partner? Would you be ok with the lights on/daylight etc and walk around with nothing on?

Or would you have a towel/underwear/a sheet over you?

i’m not bothered about my wobbly bits on a daily basis, and felt just the same way when I was several stone lighter, so I don’t see it as a body image thing as such, I juat wouldn’t walk around naked in front of him. He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship.

YABU - I think its normal to feel 100% at ease walking about naked in front of my DP/DH

YANBU - I’d rather keep some things undercover and feel self conscious naked standing up and walking about the bedroom/house.

Not a huge fan of this because of putting on weight as the years go by. I still walk around naked from the shower to the cupboard, but I wouldn’t deliberately stand there and have a conversation starkers. DH covers up a bit more. I don’t mind that we are slightly less show pony than before.

My husband sees me naked all the time, I hate the way I look and I'm not skinny and I was very self conscious about it in the beginning of our relationship. I have no problem being naked in front of him now, he always smiles when he sees me and I know he loves me the way I am, and he made me feel comfortable early on in our relationship.

The nurse showered me after the birth of my baby... although I would have preferred my husband to do it!

I didnt know which way to vote. I'm perfectly happy to walk around naked, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to cover up. Everybody is different. Also - partners are different too!

Nothing bad would happen at all if he did see it. You have just been conditioned to believe you aren't beautiful. It's just a body.

Walk around naked no probs, no thinking about it

Very strict upbringing so very shy when we married. We shared baths but I liked pretty nightwear for a romantic night in. He could take it off of course. For the births he was resolutely at the head end.

I did go topless on the beach abroad because a friend did.

I've never been able to understand how anyone can have a partner, who they have sex with, often someone they have children with, and yet they can't be seen naked by them. My DH was 10 years younger than me, and not overweight, which I am, but him seeing me naked didn't bother me at all. It's sad that some woman feel they have to hide their bodies. I just can't imagine it.

I live on my own. I don’t walk around naked in front of me even 🤷🏼‍♀️. Honestly it makes me feel uncomfortable

I don’t think it says anything about your relationship with your partner if you do or don’t. In my case it massively proceeded my marriage, kids and all that. I was physically sick at thought having to undress and shower at school in front of other girls (50 plus years ago). I used to take sickies on games or swimming days. Till mum cottoned on and then I just found the whole thing mortifying and left me scared for life 😥

sometimes I wonder whether women that grew up with sisters are better at getting naked in front of other people? I just had brothers so didn’t share a bedroom or get naked in front of anyone except, in my own bedroom, with my mum if needed. Dad never bathed me as child, don’t think he changed nappies either according to mum (60 years ago and tbf he worked till past our bedtimes) Not that I was shamed or anything, brothers were older and by time I was reaching point of 5 or 6 I certainly was already deeply conscious of my body. Anyone care to comment on that- those that are more comfortable, did you have sisters growing up?

so nope, when married I did not walk around naked. If I was in mood for sex I might have stripped of in bedroom, but I couldn’t stand to be just looked at naked. And I certainly never naked in front of kids after I popped them out (2 boys tbf ).

oddly breast feeding I was ok with- I think I saw firmly that I was feeding kids and had job to do and, it wasn’t least bit sexy, and I used to be able to cover up most of boob anyway. Only time I ever got my boobs out in public other than with medical staff! Bloody hate doing it at breast screening now I’m old.

I don't like the idea that someone could be called "unreasonable" over something as personal as how they interact with their partner. But I'm really on the YABU side--I like the idea that people are going to be completely accepting of their partner's body, and of their own body when they're with their partner. That's because if you don't accept yourself, you're not giving your partner the chance to be accepting either. One doesn't wish to become all soppy about this, but there's something in the concept that "husband and wife are one flesh".

"He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship"--well yes, I'm afraid I agree with him. He knows there's something missing.

We were high school sweethearts and broke up in 1983, got back together in 2007 when my first marriage broke up. He saw me at my youngest, thinnest, finest and never saw me give birth. I've had open heart surgery and other surgeries (gallbladder, kidney stones) and he's been by my side all through. Everything on me is scarred, drooping, wrinkled and old and at 64, we still shower together. I am more comfortable naked than he is, but that's in general. Around just us, neither of us cares.

Don't be so hard on yourself 🙏

Married for 26 years, late 50s. I’ve always been happy being naked around DH, walking or otherwise 😂. We sleep naked too, can’t be doing with night wear.

Ha, the hardly any hair on pubes!
I deeply suspect that all my pube hair, eyebrows and head hair is migrating to my nostrils since menopause.

But at least I don’t need to shave my legs now.
just shaving nostrils is a bugger
And I do mourn my eyebrows- they were quite lovely once upon a time 😢

Disagree with this.
I have never felt comfortable with my partner seeing me naked and walking around. And I have what could be considered a decent figure.
Just not me and no reflection on my feelings for my partner 🤩

I'm always naked.

FYI, I grew up with sisters and don't feel comfortable walking around naked or letting my partner see me naked!

🤣well that my theory debunked !

Brilliant 👌

I don’t think anyone has seen my naked since I’ve have been able to have a say in the matter (so…I don’t know…maybe aged 4 or so?). I’m very private and feel uncomfortable with no clothes on, even when I’m on my own. It’s not at all about body image or not trusting my husband.

Every time I gave birth my husband was sitting, holding my hand and his face close to my face, I never had to say “don’t look at anything else than my face” as he knew how I felt about it.

I love and trust him - I just don’t like being naked.

Never occurred to me that people might judge our whole relationship based on that. 😂

ETA like a previous poster I was also 100% breastfeeding!

We’re pretty comfortable being naked around each other. I will call him in to bring me a towel for example, walk around naked sometimes if getting clothes etc and we get dressed in front of one another. I don’t love my body though and often feel a bit self conscious but he’s never made me feel insecure or uneasy.

Yup I wander about naked all the time that kids are about. I'm very proud of my body. It grew and fed two babies. DP loves it.

Haven’t you got threads about weight loss injections? Your name rather stuck in my head. You also weren’t kind to someone yesterday.

Anyway, with the WLI in mind, I wonder if maybe you’ve not got the healthiest outlook on body weight. As is suggested by the vitriol in this post.

This says more about you than the PP. Our children come out of our vaginas, FFS. Our naked bodies shouldn’t repulse them!