DH not happy

[Babyitscoldoutside1]

I have just entertained DMIL DFIL and all the family for a roast dinner. We had a bottle of bubbles when they arrived. I cooked and served a full roast. Then we went for a walk, we have 4 under 5.
When we got back I did teas and coffees for everyone. Cleared, unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher etc. As well as breastfeeding a baby.
Had a quick dance party to tire kids out.
during which DH commented I was drunk and should stop dancing.
We have now put the kids to bed.
Have poured a glass of wine out of what was left from DMIL and DFiL bottle they left with us. Fully thought I earned it but maybe not. Am I wrong.

I was about to share my technique for strawpedoing a bottle of fizz. You get completely wasted and will do the most painful burp of your life, but what a party trick.

Why? Surely she’d be able to hold a baby after 3 glasses of wine?

You know what else gets someone very angry and defensive?

When they do absolutely everything, the other person sits and watches and then dares to comment about a few drinks of wine when they didn't even lift a finger.

She's had the in laws there all day, cooked, cleaned, four kids, and a husband who seemingly is doing fuck all all day. I'd have a drink after all that, too.

Just for the haters. It's not the amount that f alcohol in your system that poses a risk to the baby, only minuscule amounts are found. The issue is being intoxicated and feeding a baby, the same applies if you are bottle feeding. I doubt very much due the the period time the alcohol has been consumed over that OP is drunk x

Or 3. 😂

Yes of course, the dh should have assisted. Maybe he did, we obviously only have the ops side of the story.

When someone says someone is drunk there is usually an issue.

Yes, I definitely get 6 glasses out of a bottle of fizz, 7 in fact at new year - I remember because I was expecting to need 2 for midnight but I didn't, one did 7 of us fine, and without being at all mean in terms of filling the glasses up.

Then I have some old cut crystal glasses, which means I tend to serve wine at about 150ml a glass, unless I don't give it any room at all to breathe.

Obviously if I had glasses that were the enormous goblets you sometimes get now, that might be easier to over pour, but it's definitely not a certainty that wine will get fewer than 5 glasses to a bottle.

Now OP is a liar too. Of course.

No there isn't. Especially if that person is an arsehole.

He sounds like a party pooper and you sound like super mum!

Likely.

But you’re not, and I have tagged you twice in a post doing the maths that you didn’t do, using the guidance you quoted, to show you you’re not right, plus highlighting the guidance you also quoted saying that social drinking (as described by the OP) doesn’t stop you breastfeeding as normal. I wonder if you’ll ignore this post as well?

Likely.

Or you could unclench occasionally.

Sorry, quoted you not @BatchCookBabe apologies

I've no idea if she is lying however you don't tend to accuse people of being drunk unless they are. She's said 3 glasses, people always underplay the amount they consume.

OP, I hope you can ignore the haters, both on here and in the form of your own DH.

It sounds like you've been incredible and your DH just couldn't handle you enjoying yourself at the same time as having fun with your DCs.

If it's a one off then fair enough - I suppose most arsehole moments can be contextualised and explained and maybe there is something else going on for your DH that makes his reaction understandable (that isn't to say it's excusable though and I'm glad that you seem to be holding your ground and enjoying another glass or two!).

If it's part of a pattern though, this could potentially be pretty shit. It sounds killjoy and possibly controlling of him. I hope it's not the way he usually reacts to you.

Btw, having a dance with your kids sounds lovely and I somt think you'd be entitled to criticism over this even if you hadn't been working your butt off for your family all day already!

Odd.
Usually if someone sits back and allows their wife to cook snd serve to the entire family, in-laws included, plus do all the cleaning up and looking after children there’s an issue.

Not if she's actually only had 3 glasses.

Sounds like her DH is just miserable and likely didn't want the noise of the kids dancing around. Of course some people will accuse others of being drunk when they aren't, especially if they are miserable, controlling etc.

has anyone noticed the hostess has left the melee ?

90 minutes ago

It’s uptight to think a bottle isn’t 3 glasses on a normal occasion for the majority of people? 👌 okay.

She's sleeping it off.

All 3 glasses.

@Babyitscoldoutside1 l don't know why people are so uptight about the breastfeeding. I was breastfeeding not that long ago and recent research indicates very very alcohol goes into the breast milk

With regards to your original question. Your husband sounds lazy and judgey. Why are you doing all the heavy lifting when him and his mother do side eye?! 3 drinks, large meal, exercise and donkey work doesn't make for a pissed up experience

With 4 under 5, a breastfeeding drunk baby, having single-handedly hosted her in-laws, cooked a roast, cleared up, organised a dance party and gone on a “Robbie at Glastonbury with Oasis” bender, I hope she’s in bed.

She’s probably down the park with a bottle of White Lightning.

*Joke. Just in case there’s any doubt.

I would assume OP, that he felt equally guilty and envious of the lovely afternoon you had planned and delivered for your families, and the only way he knew how to react to this was to sulk. Extremely childish and self indulgent. Rather than thank you and praise you, he has chosen to (try) and make you feel ashamed- does he often do this?
It sounds like a lovely afternoon for your family, well done you.