Rude husband

[FrodisCapering]

I find my husband so rude.

We are making a plan to take our young kids away next weekend. I was just talking through what we might do on one of the days and he started gazing out of the window because he saw a fucking squirrel. He is often like this. If I start saying something he will interrupt, often second guessing what I am trying to say (incorrectly).

I wasn't droning on either. I'd said about two sentences.

I really starting to dislike him intensely.

Mine is the same, I really don't think some are aware they are being rude/ignorant.
If it happens all the time, and the OP thinks he is deliberately ignoring her, that's a different matter.

I have threatened to stop talking to my husband if he ignores me...and miraculously, that does work for a while.

I hear you OP. I listen to my DH and join in. If I want to discuss something all I get is “oh well”. I don’t think men want to listen what they consider trivia but the point is, it’s important to ME!!! I want to say it. It want to discuss it. It’s fucking rude and dismissive

I have ADHD and find it impossible to concentrate when im not interested in what the other person is saying...could this be an issue?

One trick the OP could try.
If his attention drifts off when you are talking to him, stop mid-sentence and glare at him.

It works for me anyway.😎

I say to him were you listening to me? Of course he says yes. Thing is, he might have HEARD me but he wasn’t LISTENING. Infuriating

I had one like this! Always had his head in his phone as soon as I began speaking and often talked over me or walked away without a word.
However, as soon as I began talking about how much I'd spent or sex or if he heard my phone ping with a message that he wanted me to tell him about, he hung onto my every word and immediately became the most attentive partner.
It was as though he tuned out of anything I said unless it was especially interesting to him.
I'm no longer with him because I felt hurt that he wasn't even briefly interested in really important parts of my life.
Much of what he said bored me to tears, but I would at least listen for a while.
Does your DH behave like this with anyone else?
Does he behave like this consistently?

OP, can I suggest you ask MNHQ to move this to the Relationships board, because you're just getting all the argumentative idiots on AIBU.

It sounds like this is just the latest in a long line of annoyances. What does he say when you raise it with him?

Will he be interested and engaged when you’re all on the trip? Interacting with the kids, coming up with ideas, discussing what you and he might do in the evenings.

Oh OP I know exactly what you mean, I can be in the middle of a conversation with my DH and then the cat will walk past and he'll start talking to it instead while I'm mid sentence 🙄 so infuriating, even more so that I don't think he understands why it's a problem to me. I love him but this drives me insane.

It's definitely a 'man thing'.

Please do not tar all men with the same brush as your husband and the ops. My husband is perfectly capable of engaging in conversation with me. Having a dick doesn’t make him one.

I knew someone would pick over that. Just because you’re offended doesn’t make you right

It's a shit man thing. Not something decent men do.

Now put that into Aberdeen slang!

I don't think my husband is 'not a decent man', because he doesn't hang on to every word I say.😆
Grow up.

There's a difference between hanging on to every word and simply listening when someone is talking, it really isn't hard and men are capable of doing it.

Um there is a difference between listening and hanging on someone’s every word/

I do it often .. l zone out..when someone is talking to me and another thing distracts me.. but l have ADHD.
Does your husband?.

You were making plans for your weekend out with the kids and making sure it fitted into his need to get the train home on time. He could have had the manners to listen to you.
You say this happens a lot and that if you left planning for the kids to him, absolutely nothing would happen.
He's lazy and he thinks organising the children and making plans for their entertainment is beneath him.
I would find this extremely irritating and would start making plans with the kids and leaving him at home to see if he even noticed.

The rock bottom standards some women have for men on here never ceases to amaze me.

Was it a red squirrel or a grey squirrel?

If it was a red squirrel, I'd stare too.

Anyway, you should advance search because someone posted very similar just the other week. Your kindred spirit is out there in the ether waiting to commiserate.

My rose coloured specs re men came off long ago.

Many decent, loving men, seem to lack the ability to listen to everything their partners are talking about, some women waffle, some men don't listen.

Vive la difference....and if you doubt there is such a thing, watch the average man try to multitask, something women do without thinking.😏

I don’t see why he can’t look at a squirrel at the same time as listening to you. Also, a squirrel doesn’t hang about so he had to seize the moment.

I often get sidetracked because I’m looking at animals so it isn’t a man thing, it is a finding animals interesting thing. I can listen at the same time though. I actually find it easier to listen when I’m doing something else.

Eh? You are saying your husband is rude but you refer to a squirrel as a "f*ing squirrel"? Hmmm it's plain to see who is the rude one.

Must confess, I now have a mental image of OP's husband as Dug the dog from Up. 🐶