Thinking it’s weird for kids to pay parents rent

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My friend has a daughter (17) she charges rent. My family did the same to me growing up? Am I the only one who think it’s setting your kids up for failure and greedy to charge your kids for staying in their childhood home. I’d want my kids to be able to afford their own place not make it harder for them. Only thing I would do was pretend to and then give it all back to them…

Izzy you really aren’t busy lol. You’re so mad you’re replying back to every comment that’s criticising me! The persistence is incredible. I’ll give you a tip. Put that passion into something that’s going to make you money. You wouldn’t have to charge rent whatsoever.

Adult DD pays £50 a week, which just about covers what I lost in CB and tax credits when she went into full time work. She clears £1500 a month in wages and her only outgoings are the board and £10 a month for her phone. Anything else she spends her money on is through her choice.

My adult daughter was paying £300 a month. She is staying at her boyfriend’s parents house most of the time so I’ve let her drop it to £150 as she wants me to keep her bedroom for her. As she’s officially living here I have to pay full council tax rather than reduced one adult rate so part of the £150 covers that and I lose some UC for rent so the rest she pays covers that. Basically I’m charging her what it costs me to have her here in official terms.

I don’t charge my 19yo anything but once she finishes college and I lose the child element of UC for her she will need to pay that much in board so I can afford to keep her here. I’ve basically just asked the to replace what I lose through UC alterations. I can manage the household on my current income and UC top up but not if they don’t help.

Well, lucky them

You do appreciate not everyone's circumstances are the same?

'Get over yourself'? The op has been polite throughout.
It is ok to disagree you know.

I was taught from a very young age. I was encouraged to save half of any money I was given for birthday/Christmas. When I was 12 my dad went through his wage slip with me, explained what tax and NI was all about how interest rates worked and by the age of 16 I knew about rent, bills and the cost of running the house. My dad was a humble HGV driver, not some "city type" and knew how difficult life could be financially and so wanted all his DC to be prepared.

Excuse me but I started work full time in the Civil Service when I was 17!!!!

I worked the same hours as my colleagues over 17, I earned the same as those of my grade over 18.

I wasn't treated like a child nor did I consider myself a child. Of course I paid Board to my divorced Mum because I was earning an adults wage and using utilities and eating food provided by another, so paid towards those as an adult.

I was not a child legally or morally.

yes it is. It’s smug arseholes versus people living in the real world.

I think a few people have learned, and changed their opinion, that yes, some times it is absolutely necessary for adult children to contribute. I hope the OP has changed her opinion.

I was 17 when I started paying ‘digs’ to my parents. I don’t think it’s being greedy but more teaching teens how to budget. How are they expected to manage in the real world when they can’t manage £100/£200 to their parents.

Me too. I started working full time in the Civil Service when I was just 16 years old. I got my first wage packet to myself and then after that I had to hand over some to my mum every week. I can’t remember how much but the wage was actual cash in a little brown envelope every week.

13 ?
Who said anything about 13 stop making things up.

I’m wondering how old they actually are. No one over a certain age says “Wait, What?” That’s a fairly modern expression that i first came across from my kids.

Ah, come in, it's been around forever. I used it and I'm 43.

He sounds great. I like the idea of showing them a wage slip, going to keep it in the locker for when I teach my own.

BunnyLake
I remember I earned £15pw...........and considered myself very well paid indeed!

When I started taking home over £100pm net I thought I was bloody MADE and went on at least 2 holidays abroad each year!

I had never heard it till my son used it on text. Maybe it’s a text saying.

We're all living in the real world. Why are some of you so very angry about other people's opinions?!

What age will you do that do you think?

She really hasent and neither have you
Neither of you appear to understand people live very different lifestyles to you.

When the baby starts nursery 😆

Secondary school.

Yet you don’t know any of us?

You've no idea about my lifestyle.