Thinking it’s weird for kids to pay parents rent

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My friend has a daughter (17) she charges rent. My family did the same to me growing up? Am I the only one who think it’s setting your kids up for failure and greedy to charge your kids for staying in their childhood home. I’d want my kids to be able to afford their own place not make it harder for them. Only thing I would do was pretend to and then give it all back to them…

So if you have a child aged 30 still living at home, you would not expect them to pay towards food, gas and electric?

That's not rent, it's a contribution towards household bills. That would be normal if you had a much older child living at home but younger ones ssving up to get their own place is different, it would depend what they earned. If they earned quite a lot they'd probably offer to pay towards things.

Either way it's cheaper then renting a place where you'd not only pay rent but bills and food.

Rent ,Board,Contribution, it means the same thing it's just Semantics.

I have understood from this thread is ‘rent’ is any money charged, whether it’s going towards a mortgage, food, gas or rent.

Whilst I may agree on not taking any money for the first year or so many children are now living at home well into their 30’s and to not take any money whatsoever I’m not sure I agree with as life is not free to anyone.

Thanks random internet stranger. Text me. Oh right… you don’t know anything about me.

Okay. But child in this post is 17?

The bills aren't the same, though. Our council tax and wifi are the same (two adults, no discount) without DS1, who is 19. But when he's here and not at uni our water, gas and electricity bills are a bit higher, and our food shopping is FAR higher - one fit, active 19 year old eats a lot more than his mid 40s parents and ten year old brother! It's not a zero-cost thing.

Then I agree with you 😂

Oh I feel very strongly about this, of course our adult kids should be paying rent! How will they learn to budget & have responsibility if they don't pay rent? It's a very important part of life as far as I'm concerned. I wouldn't charge if my child was in full time education but he plans to have an apprenticeship so he will be paying rent. I will probably put it in a savings account for him without him knowing.

One thing I have to say on here because I cannot reply back to everybody: I am deeply sorry for people who have had unforeseen injuries, illnesses, deaths, loss of partners, loss of homes, and many other misfortunes which are out of ones control. I didn’t mean to offend you and I offer my deepest sympathies. Yes I understand your reasoning behind needing board or rent.

Parents who are well off charging their kids rent, doing it while they are in education or who do it just to teach them financial responsibility, I believe you don’t realise you are making your relationship transactional. And wouldn’t you think it’s fair when you get older for your kids to treat you the same? They shouldn’t look after you or care for you unless for a fee (although some parents, like myself, hope their kids put them in a home anyways so they don't disrupt their lives.) Families should help each other as much as they can. Family and business are two separate things.

Oh get over yourself, my very comfortable parents charged me minimal rent when I first started working I never resented them for it wtf would i ?
My mum died recently and both me and my sister are supporting my dad because we LOVE him and everything he's done forc( is spite of the rent )
If you think adult children won't love their parents because they asked to pay rent when they first started working then clearly you have brought up very entitled and selfish individuals.

Aww did you get my posts removed? You don’t know anything about anybody on here either but so quick to judge. Maybe learn to be humble.

Nope? Other people must see your posts the same way I do. What’s the word you used… nauseating?

I wouldn’t dream of charging my adult kids to live in their own home, unless my financial situation made that essential.

My kids are 7 and newborn stage… yes the newborn is very entitled sigh.

So you don't have an issue with adult DC paying towards household expenses then as families should help each other as much as they can.

Yes, incredibly nauseating.

Lol.thats very telling maybe come back when you have adult kids that are working and you have a bit of a clue of what you are actually talking about🤣
Also you have no idea what your financial.postion will be when you have adult kids as life doesn't always turn out the way you think it will.

Exactly that! She’s got such an entitled attitude..

I mean at 17 that child is not even an adult. Fresh out of secondary school and problem don’t even have a clue about finances. At 18-21 they are in education trying to get a decent career. Let them at least get a foot in the door.

Lots of kids have finished education by 18..

I charge my DS keep money as it teaches them that bills have to be paid and a sense of responsibility. Also teaches them how much things cost and that wifi, hot water and food isn’t brought in by the fairies!!

Not all 18-21 year olds are in education, which you might find out yourself when your DC reach that age. I hate to break it to you but not all DC want to go to Uni or get the grades needed. You've got a few years to prepare yourself for that possible outcome wrt your own DC.

As for a 17 year old not having any idea about finances, well at that age they should have at least some knowledge of it. Teaching them the value of money should start early and it should be taught by parents. At some point those young adults will have their own bills to pay and leaving them in blissful ignorance of what that entails does them no favours IMO.

How are parents teaching kids about finances? I’m curious. Many of my friends and I were none the wiser. We didn’t even know what tax was until a couple of pay checks.

I’m not sure if people are patronising me about my children’s ages. I appreciate the advice but trust me I’m sure I’ll be okay. I’ve prepared for many a rainy day.

They aren't all in education at 18-21.