To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

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Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

Wait - there's a box room troll?

My mind is blown.

What can possibly go wrong on your holiday?

Answer. Everything

This is so funny, im howling.

I found it weird right at the beginning when OP said the place had "multiple bedrooms".

Surely four is an easily countable number - it's not like they've rented Buckingham Palace for the weekend!

Okay. Let's give this one more shot. Back to the opening post. Concentrate, people.CONCENTRATE.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead

Sibling. Box room. Gottit. 👌

......which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

You mean your DP? AKA your DH? Is he not your child's father? Or you mean your sibling's DP? Not sure why either of them would need to share with your child to be honest, but which one are we talking about here?

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

Whoah there Neddy. Back up. You need to split up with your DH and sleep in separate rooms because your sibling is going in the box room? Why?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

Okay so it's definitely their DP that needs to bunk with your child? So who is using the room that was earmarked for your sibling and their DP originally? And which room do you now imagine the DP will be sleeping in, with your six year old?

Maybe OP can put a blanket on the sofa in the lounge and rename this the new spare room where no one sleeps?

Did you miscount the number of rooms in your fake story?

My brain hurts. Can anyone please use little words to explain why OP’s sibling’s DP can’t just kip in the box room, and leave everyone else’s sleeping arrangements out of it?

I’m buggered if I know the answer to this as well. 😀

OMG @Hohofortherobbers, I'm crying with laughter!

I thought I was just being a bit dim when I thought the bedrooms were:
1 - OP and her partner
2 - Their kids
3 - Her siblings partner
4 - Her sibling, in the not-a-proper-bedroom/ emergency-room Box Room,
in which case there wouldn't have been an issue. How wrong I was, and how wrong we all were! How the fuck does sibling's DP end up with the OP's 6 year old?? Confused.

This is still clear than it was in the beginning! There are four rooms

1 - OP and DH
2 - the DC
3 - Sister’s DP
4 (the box room) - sister

How does this lead to a 6 yo sharing with the DP? It doesn’t make sense!

Why does a room need to sit empty?

OP, just explain why your child suddenly has to share with your sister's partner?!! We can't understand 😫

Why can't your sister use the box room and everyone else stay as they were?!

Also, if there is a reason why a child has to share with an adult and it can't be you or your DH, surely it would be your sister and not her partner?

Oh FFS. Just seen MNHQs update.

I've seen so many implausible, unbelievable or nonsensical threads over the last few days it's ridiculous.

a an of and to so but if and do all not..

shit sorry, doesn't really make any sense with little words.. big words won't help either though!..

So the way I see it. OP's sister has spare box room and her DP stays put. No one else is affected.

Four bed house - sister pays for two bedrooms, OP pays for two bedrooms.

Anyone who needs time out goes on the sofa.

This is the weirdest nonsense ever.

Best answer yet! (howls at the moon)

I'm just waiting for the OP to come back and ask....

"And so what was the colour of the engine drivers jumper?"

I passed that with flying colours.

This? Not so much.

Still makes zero sense. Either your sibling or their DP goes into the box room. Your DC don’t move, you don’t move, none of this makes sense. Maybe your sibling is being a bit of a prat but as it impacts nothing I’m baffled as to the wider issue.

Yes, yes, there was!! I'd forgotten. Was also equally annoying.

I'm trying to work out what happens if OP has a spare room at home. Obviously there must always be a spare room, so if some guest turns up needing the spare room then her children have to share a room so that there's still a spare empty room. If someone turns and needs to occupy the evicted child's room, both children bunk up with their parents, If yet more guests turn up, they go in the second child's room whilst OP and the rest of the family leave the main bedroom empty. After that, they probably abandon their house altogether.

We have rented places which instead they could sleep more as they counted the sofa beds in living room - so I think you've cracked it.

One strange house we rented - kitchen and living room ground floor - then first floor a sitting room open plan no door onto short landing with toilet off it - with door - also on landing then three bedrooms on floors above.

Eldest announced she could not share with her sister - she was 11 and already being a stroppy on hoilday - moved to living room and set sofa bed up - sister decide she couldn't sleep alone in a room went into brother's room and took spare bed - he was fine with it. Eldest refused to move back to bedroom - but it had nothing to do with living room having a TV in - nothing - she had her clothes in her case all week and made sofa bed up every day. Every morning they were all up early in the living room watching TV together - with eldest in charge of TV.

Fuck sake I’m well late to this one .What is the issue there’s enough rooms,or am I missing something.

Would the lounge be next to the downstairs toilet 'in which we do not pass solids' ?!