To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

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Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

This!

I've just read through OPs posts and thought I was going mad but it seems I am thinking the same as the majority. There is no need to have a spare room. There are sufficient rooms to meet all needs. No one is without a room or a bed.

Maybe the OP was paying 2/3rds as they were taking up 2 bedrooms and their sister paid a third, taking up one bedroom. I think the OP was hoping to take up the fourth bedroom sneakily but not pay 3/4s.

I can't read the whole thread. Can someone who has just tell me, did the OP explain properly why the spare box room wasn't spare and why her 6 year old had to share with her DP?

It's worse than that i think. It's not even her DP, it's her sibling's DP.

Nope. Not a scoobie. Sorry.

I don't think I can on the App. Have never seen that feature

I still don't understand. Your sibling and DP were going to share a room and there was a spare room. Your sister now wants the spare room. Why can't her DP sleep in their original room?

Haha no chance 😁

No you can't. It's really annoying. You also can't vote on AIBU.

I must be having an off day. 2 out of 10 at best. -2 for effort for making the solution so obvious from the get go and lacking the obligatory drip feed.

I see we're still none the wiser as to why the siblings DP can't stay in the original double room and for utterly no reason would have to bunk in with the OP'S kid.

Uninstall the app and use your browser and click on mobile site.

I don't have the app because it doesn't have the same functionality as the mobile site.

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed

This is all a bit....well...

What's now going to happen with the room that your sibling and her DH were going to sleep in?

If your sibling is going to sleep in the spare room...
and her DH is expected to share with your DS...
surely the room they were assigned to sleep in together when first allocating will be left empty...

Edited to add...
Will your Sibling be taking the bed to the spare room with her?

And even if she didn't want to use spare room,she thinks sibling plus partner ought to have one room only as they paid for one. So sis takes the spare room which makes the DP roomless( in her head).

No, because even those of us who have read the full thread are confused as hell

Shamelessly placemarking as this has confused the bejeezus out of me. I thought I was missing something reading all of the OP’s posts but it would appear not!

I thought I was being cynical but that's how I read it as well...

4 bedrooms all have beds in them presumably.

So now your Dsis can't share with her DP - they get two rooms - you get two room.

So you can split your two rooms between you and DH and your kids however you want - and they can split there two bedrooms presumably both with beds however they want.

No kids sharing with a man they don't now and no -one without a bed.

I assume PP were correct and you had eye on spare room for one of the kids as that's only explination to explain why you are upset. Does your second bedroom not have enough beds in for the kids to actually share the room?

Well that's because it's a troll! Mission accomplished.

Thanks op, woke my dh up laughing at replies. He is thinking of sleeping in the spare room but then we won't have a spare.

I think I get it, sibling's DP has to bunk with DC to keep a room spare?!

What the point of that? It is worthless surely?
There's no money to be made from it, no point to it, is there?

This makes no sense at all!

Omgggg op your updates are worse!! Make it make sense!

Her dp will still have his original room that he was supposed to share with her, and she'll now be in the box room, how the heck is that making him suddenly share room with your child! You said ur kids are in one room.

Your post has irritated me, you seem hard work and no wonder ur mother is siding with ur sibling

i reached the end and can only hope OP will post again ... probably in vain LOL

Possibly because relative's partner is actually the one who's a woman? OP very carefully didn't gender either of them, it's other posters who have assumed.

(I love this thread. The Schrodinger's Bed Conundrum and EXPLAIN BETTER )