To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

[jd206]

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

@jd206 still doesn't make sense.
Why can't your sibling's partner just have the room they were going to share ?

You have a room
Your kids have a room
Your sibling has the box room ???

You said it's a spare in case anyone needs it. So she can have it surely?

Thanks Op, you have made a shitty day end by me reading this thread post by post depsite me only ever usually reading Ops posts on such a big thread.

My newish boyfriend is now wondering if I am OK with me sat here in uncontrollable fits of giggles and the comments!!

Wtf am I reading.
OP and her DH bedroom 1
OP DC bedroom 2
OP not so DSis bedroom 3
OP BIL boxroom ON HIS OWN!

This might be the fastest a thread has ever filled up

Pitch perfect wind up thread

Would seethe again

The bed needs to be kept spare in case of bed related emergencies 😬

You don't need a spare room. YABVVVVVVVU!!

I don’t understand either. There’s a spare room that has to stay spare because otherwise an adult has to share with your child? Why does the partner have to share with your child?

I have no idea what exactly the issue is based on the information you’ve provided @jd206 so for that reason alone you are most definitely the unreasonable one.

🤔🤣🤣🤣

I think the poster who postulated that the OP wanted to use 75% of the rooms for 50% of the price, to separate the children, but was pretending it was a spare to try not to look like a cheeky fucker was right. Only thing that seems to make sense of it.

Dear God is there no end to this madness? I feel as though I am living in an alternative universe.

What’s a DP please?

But your 6 year old wouldn't have to share with their uncle as the uncle could sleep in the box room and your sister could sleep in the one room with your DC if necessary, but why would it be necessary as you said all your DC will be in another room anyway. If one of the kids is ill then they come in with you. How were the costs split?

I can't read the whole thread. Can someone who has just tell me, did the OP explain properly why the spare box room wasn't spare and why her 6 year old had to share with her DP?

You can click on the 'see all' and just read OPs posts.

NO! I insist you read the full thread

Ignore my post - I thought we were still on about page 5! It is now 31, unbelievably so my post is irrelevant - I didn't RTFT, sorry 😆

It may not have been the original plan but the plan was that the box room be available and used as needed if something cropped up meaning it was needed - that is exactly what has happened yet you are now refusing it be used. They have just as much right to use it for their own reasons as you do.

Yes. I think we are all in agreement about this part and we all understand it. Thank the lord.

What we don't understand AT ALL is why the OP insists that this now means that the sibling's DP has no bed and will have to share with her 6 year old. Share where? Which room? The room with both the children in it? What is happening to the room the sibling and DP were originally going to go in?

It's really doing my head in. 😂

What??

WHY IS THEIR DP LEFT WITHOUT A BED?

Why can’t DP sleep in the bed they were going to sleep in all along, but now without Sibling instead of with them?

Why can’t everyone stay exactly where originally planned, apart from Sibling who is moving into unallocated spare room?
Please explain, this is driving me mad!

but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed.

OK, what?

Does this 'spare' room not have a bed in it?

We're all still in the dark!

Maybe OP has a spare bedroom at home for when someone in the household gets ill and she just locks them in there and seals the room up with gaffa tape until they get better.

You’ve literally said ‘There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.’

There you go, genius. Literally not a problem.

Yup. Several of us sussed this out from the first post.