To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

[jd206]

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

Only here to bookmark the OP's next update, as I also want to know where one of the beds has disappeared to.

OP - you are being very very unreasonable. You do not need a spare bedroom. Let sibling/their DP use it.

solved

OP made her bed but fuck knows who is gonna lie in it.

Right.... I think I've got it.

You and DH go to bedroom 1
Your DC go to bedroom 2
Your Sis and DP go to bedroom 3

When everyone's asleep, Sis's DP sneaks to spare room 4 for a night-long 'break'

Every night.

Perfect.

But you said there was a bed in the box room ! How would the potential sick person supposed to stay there otherwise ? For each update I get more and more confused...

@jd206
Your last post still makes no sense! Your sibling can have the bloody spare room to themselves AND their DP can then sleep in the room they were originally going to use.

'The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.'
Your sibling needs it!
The only was this is an issue is if you had already decided your DCs would have a room each but without saying so and that's what's upsetting your plans, otherwise you're just proper bonkers!!!

Hundreds of posts and it's still as clear as mud.

My current theory is OP doesn't like her sister, regrets arranging a holiday with her, and is nitpicking about perfectly manageable things because she's annoyedf that she's book it at all.

Or OP was banking on using the empty box room herself because her DP snores and she doesn't want to admit it.

How does your sister moving from room C to room- the double shared with their DP ro room D - the empty spare - leave the person in room C sharing without a bed?

Is your sister taking the double bed in room C with her to the skate room?!

Oh and this thread is making me Ill and in the need for some space. Could I have the spare room? The 6yo is more than welcome to remain in room B the original room assigned to them!

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You are making no sense at all. The box room is spare. Your sibling and partner had their own room initially. Kids in another room. YOUR SIBLINGS PARTNER CAN STILL HAVE THE BOX ROOM AND YOUR SIBLING STAYS IN THEIR BED! Where the hell does this nonsense about bunking up with a 6 year old come from??

You are the one being unreasonable.

Plan is the same except your sibling or her DP has the box room.

If this is for real, I think the OP may now be unwilling to admit she wanted to keep a spare bed/room somewhere. That's why she's not answering the very obvious question as to what the issue is. Everyone's going to tell her not to be so silly.

@jd206 I SO wish you’d enabled votes because this would definitely be a 100% YABU 🤣

In answer to your question, you’re being mad!

I think I love you.

I think I lost the will to live about 3 pages ago....

Wind up thread?

You’re either on the wind up or monumentally stupid. Either way your sister should cancel the holiday because you’d be terrible to go away with

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😇

This makes absolutely no sense. So what happened to their original room????

There are 4 rooms, you and DH take one, your DC take 2, your sis and DH take 3 and one spare.

Now your sister has decided to take the spare which means we're now at you and DH room 1, your DC room 2, sis DH room 3 and sis room 4 box room. Why does your DC have to share with your sisters husband???

Why does this feel like another troll post 😂 or a bot.

You are not making sense.

You said

The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

So 4 rooms

Room 1 - you and your partner

Room 2 - the children

Room 3 - your sister and her partner

Room 4 - nobody. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

So now it's room 1 - you and your partner (no change)

Room 2 - the children (no change)

Room 3 - your sister's partner

Room 4 - your sister

I'm not seeing the problem.

That is genius

ITS NOT A PERMANENT BEDROOM!

Ah ha yes.
The snails shall soar with the morning lark when the milk cow sings her song....🤫

This is incredible. It’s like the essence of mumsnet in one diagram!

I honestly this this is a neurodiverse thing. There was a spare room and there needs to still be a spare room because that was the plan that suited everyone.

It isn't about beds or logic.