To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

[jd206]

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

Thank you @jd206 . This is the standard of bonkers Mumsnet of old. Brilliant 😂

Exactly what I was thinking … it’s SIMPLE OP, we can all see it except you!!

The horses name was Friday

If DP has to bunk in with the 6 year old (for reasons unknown) ....where is the other child sleeping?

Why is their DP without a bed? They sleep on the bed in the box room, everyone else sleeps where they’d planned to.

This doesn’t impact your DC at all, and even if it did, adults get preference. I fail to see what’s awkward about this at all 🤷‍♀️

Everyone and noone. Duh.

How has the OP replied so many times and still not explained what happened to the room sis and her DP were planning to sleep in originally?

Please don't be a troll, this is glorious!

😂

JFC!

The surgeon was his mother!

It’s tomorrow’s puzzle on the site.

I GET IT!!!!

It is because THERE MUST BE A SPARE ROOM! So the DP cannot sleep in the room originally allocated because it now must become the NEW spare room!

Am I right OP?

Has anyone ever complained that you are sometimes a little bit inflexible and unable to cope with change?

I think I’ve cracked it!

OP still wants a bedroom to be spare, therefore her DC need to share with the DP so one bed is still empty.

I think we're being teased.

Is there living room? Someone can sleep on the sofa!

Oh this has to be a wind up 😂

How did you divide the costs of this trip @jd206

And why can’t siblings DP sleep alone in the room originally allocated to them? And DC sleeps in the room originally assigned to them?

I've tried to make sense too much and now I'm not even sure I'm real anymore

Op you're just repeating yourself over and over and not explaining. This is the most confusing thread I've ever read.

@jd206 better come back this evening and make this make sense………. otherwise my adhd brain will be awake all night baffled and trying to work out what on earth is going on 🤷🏼‍♀️

Personally I think it is outrageous that you are making DH share with his MIL.

The craziest thread ever....OP makes no sense, numerous people question her, OP still makes no sense!!

I'm confused like everyone else. Room 1 - you and DH, room 2 - your DC, Room 3- your sister and dp, Room 4 - spare. So 1 person from one of the 3 other rooms can go in the spare and no-one else has to move or share with someone not originally planned.

You’re still making zero sense because your sibling can sleep alone in the box room if you don’t want them sharing with your kids. They do not need to share with anyone. As everyone has told you about 75 times.

You don’t need a ‘spare’ bedroom in an Airbnb FFS. And no, your plan didn’t work for everybody, or your sibling wouldn’t be asking to change it. You are being ridiculous and your mum is right.

Stop you have to be on the wind up.

Their DP stays in the original room. It’s literally so easy.