Page 12 | To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

jd206 · 2025-02-12T18:45:25+00:00

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous. We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it. Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well). I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?! DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue). So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here? *TL;DR:* Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

SoScarletItWas · 12/02/2025 19:36

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

But in your OP all the rooms had beds because you and DP in Room 1, kids in 2, Sib and DP in 3

even the spare with the single bed

WHERE HAS THE BED GONE? The plot thickens.

PandaTime · 12/02/2025 19:36

But where is the other DC supposed to sleep if DP takes their spot in the bed beside the 6 year old??

ValentineValentineV · 12/02/2025 19:36

Please explain what beds are in what rooms.

ModernLife1sRubbish · 12/02/2025 19:36

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

IF SIBLING IS HAVING THE SPARE ROOM WHY CANT THEIR DP KEEP THEIR ORIGINAL BED???

MonkeyHair · 12/02/2025 19:37

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

Ah get it now. Thanks for clarifying 😂😂

pictoosh · 12/02/2025 19:37

Is there not a bed in the third room? OP what are you talking about??

If your sister sleeps in the box room, her partner still has the original room they were going to share anyway.

HER PARTNER DOES NOT NEED TO SHARE WITH YOUR KID.

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 12/02/2025 19:37

I've read all your posts but I still can't understand how them wanting to have separate bedrooms affects your DC- you and DH in one room, your DCs in another and your sibling in the third room and their partner in the box room?
I think it does sound like you're being more inflexible here and making an issue out of a very much non issue.

Strictlymad · 12/02/2025 19:37

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

But we don’t get what you’re saying😂 there are 4 bedrooms?

Scarfitwere · 12/02/2025 19:37

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

Nah you must be a troll. No one is this stupid 🤣

aCatCalledFawkes · 12/02/2025 19:37

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

But as we understand it, your partner is sharing a bed with you or can't you sleep with your partner either? And her partner is sleeping in the bed they were going to sleep in???

flappingsoles · 12/02/2025 19:37

Still not making sense OP.

MathsMum3 · 12/02/2025 19:37

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

So your sibling takes the spare room and their DP stays in the room they were originally allocated. WHY DO THEY HAVE TO SHARE WITH YOUR DC???

Purplebunnie · 12/02/2025 19:37

It still doesn't make sense. Why has your sisters DP now not got a bed? He was sharing a bed with your sister, she's gone in a different room so now he's sleeping in the original bed on his own,

Your sister is being unreasonable for agreeing to go on holiday with you

PrincessSakura · 12/02/2025 19:37

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

You still aren’t making sense!

Why is siblings DP without a bed?

Your siblings DP stays in room 3

Your DC in room 2

You’re in room 1 and your sister is in the spare room with the single.

Your children only need to share a room with each other not an adult.

steff13 · 12/02/2025 19:37

Is your sister taking the bed from the room that she was sharing with her partner and putting it in the box room? Because otherwise her presence in the room is not required for the bed to still be in the room.

ValentineValentineV · 12/02/2025 19:37

Do all the bedrooms have beds?

Tiredofallthis101 · 12/02/2025 19:37

Who is saying your DP needs to go un with DC? This is very confusing. The spare room could surely be used by your siblings unless/until someone gets ill and they could go back in with partner?

TokyoSushi · 12/02/2025 19:38

But the DP isn't without a bed?! 🛌

Room 1 - You & DH
Room 2 - Your DCs sharing
Room 3 - Your sister
Room 4 (previously spare) - BIL

See? Enough beds for everyone? No men sleeping with 6 years olds required...

Fouradayistoomuch · 12/02/2025 19:38

Thanks for this OP, I needed a good laugh

ButtonMoonLoon · 12/02/2025 19:38

This makes no sense at all,L!

This is what you’ve posted-
We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

So
Room 1- you and your partner
Room 2 Your child/ren
Room 3- Your sibling
Room 4 box room- Their DP

So what’s the issue? Unless you’ve made a mistake in your OP I can’t see that there is one.

flappingsoles · 12/02/2025 19:38

Scarfitwere · 12/02/2025 19:37

Nah you must be a troll. No one is this stupid 🤣

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Mnhq are looking into it

Pinkywoo · 12/02/2025 19:38

This makes less sense than that bastarding Boswell riddle.

Twaddlepip · 12/02/2025 19:38

Why the fuck can’t the sibling/their partner use this box room? Why do they have to go in with your kid? What’s in the box room? Why must it remain empty?

Is it the Room of Requirement? Because even in this completely confusing thread, I expect it will still appear.

PrincessSakura · 12/02/2025 19:38

@jd206 are you saying your children need to share so there is still a spare empty room in case someone gets ill or needs a break?

sandyhappypeople · 12/02/2025 19:38

jd206 · 12/02/2025 19:34

I get what you’re saying, but the issue is that my sibling has decided they must have the spare room to themselves, which means their DP is the one left without a bed. The only other option is for DP to share with one of my DCs, which obviously isn’t ideal!

If sibling had flagged this earlier, we could have worked out a better arrangement, but changing it last minute just puts everyone in an awkward position. I don’t see why my DC should have to accommodate their sudden preference not to share with their own DP!

Why can't DP sleep alone in the original bedroom?

I take it you were planning on splitting your kids up, so the only option left is to put DP in with your 6 year old so the other child can have your siblings original bedroom?

You may as well be honest, it's all anonymous!