This is too much cycling, right?

[Bananagirl23]

Husband goes on his bike the following:

Sat 9.30am-4pm
Sun 4pm - 9pm
Mon - Thu (after work) 6-8.30pm
Friday 6-7pm

its ridiculous, right? We have 1 DC age 11. It’s reached a point now where I don’t think I can carry on with the marriage

Snap to both.

Why isn’t he in the spare room (without the cat)? He is never there so it isn’t his home push him out, reclaim your bedroom.

Or can he sleep in the shed/ garage with the beloved bike?

He must have Strava or some other training app- see where he has been going and mileage- proof if cycling or shagging

He'll be happier if you divorce. More importantly, so will you. He sounds so unkind.

I've done mountain biking and road cycling since my mid teens so thirty years and that's an absurd amount of time to be out biking

The most I've done is twice a week for a few hours each time in my twenties. Something doesn't add up here

I would only say that those amount of hours would be for a pro and training. I'd hazard a guess he's doing something else for a lot of the time

Seven days a week cycling, when does he rest? I've never known anybody to be out on the bike for that number of hours and seven days a week. Is he Mark Cavendish?

A second family maybe? My grandad used to engineer arguments so he could storm out to be with his.

Time to think about you and your daughter and screw the B for every penny you can get.

Anyone else think of Howard in Last of the Summer Wine?
Seriously though, OP, I hope you get something sorted and get the life you want.

My DH cycles for exercise. A lot. Like 5d a week, so it can be a thing. Similarly ds though gym, running etc. The specific deal breaker there is all day Saturday, which is beyond unreasonable, and blaming you. 100% not ok.

Im really sorry but I dont think he's cycling all of those times. I know a fair few cyclists and those timings are odd. Most cyclists, and well, most people who exercise, have at least one rest day a week, i.e. a day completely without exercise or at the very least a different type of exercise like yoga or strength training. Even the pros in the Tour de France have rest days! I'm afraid it sounds like you might need to get your finances in order and get some independent advice in case you want out.

Ask your parents for help to get legal advice.
You're is beard.
I have heard this before...surprisingly common.
You owe him nothing.
Stop talking, get legal advice and fleece him.
Gather all financial information you can.
Take pictures of everything you can.
Is he open with the family finances?

Take his wheels off.

start booking your own hobbies and advise him you are going out and he needs to look after children prepare supper etc

My best friend split up with her ex for this exact reason. He wasn't cycling quite that much I don't think but he would cycle all weekend and she works Mon-Friday so wouldn't get any quality time with him

@Bananagirl23 what happens when you have your own plans, want to go out, do your own hobbies? Surely he lets you do things for you, even if you're not doing things together?
I realise that's not the point... but surely his cycling does not constantly trump your life?

That is crazy!!! DP goes cycling but only at the weekend and he gets up super early and is back by 11 or a bit before. If we have something to do he won’t go.

Haha love it.

See a solicitor your as good as a single mother so let him cycle away if your dc isn’t happy and your not ask him to leave.

Chuck em in a canal!

This is so true! Mine was out cycling but met his affair partner at venues at the end of his route.
Accused me of not being engaged with supporting his hoby. Well that would be because I had a full time job and 3 kids to raise.
What you say about being snappy with the kids etc rings so true.
Picking fights as an excuse to flounce off on his bike.
You'd think he was a professional cyclist the amount of time he spent at it!