To think being single should be celebrated more than getting married?

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Marriage gets all the glory, but choosing to focus on yourself or remain single is just as valid, if not braver.

Because initially being single is not a choice it’s just what you are, until you’re not anymore.

You can only speak for yourself, you have no idea what “most” people think or even who they are. So best. Just share your own point of view really.

Yeah that would be great, they could all be bank holidays.

It’s a fairly safe assumption, to be fair.

Given most people don't celebrate it it's a fair assumption.

For the same reason we celebrate birthdays, even though we all eventually die?
Something coming to an end doesn’t mean it never existed.

Celebrations are about milestones imo, getting married or reaching the anniversary of that marriage is a milestone, the same way birthdays are, passing exams & graduation, driving tests, new jobs, promotions - single people are as likely to have those milestones as married people. There's no fixed point to really celebrate being single (though I have known people celebrate their divorce and subsequent anniversaries of it).

Now if you're talking about not being written off as a person because you're single, then I agree, because I have been. More so as a single parent. Being married or part of a couple isn't 'better' or less valid than being single, it's just a different choice.

Same, I'm not a single mum but I have a very active 10m old baby that hates napping and even with the support of my husband I'm exhausted. I often think about how much harder it must be for single mums.

Why does being single need celebrating? I don't get that. It's your choice, or the fact you haven't met someone yet. Neither need actual celebrating.

And the single mum celebrating is even more questionable. Why? Sympathy if husband has died. Why should it be celebrated if you had poor choice re the father you chose for your children?

It’s a very active choice for many people

Lots of single parents out there doing a better job raising children than 2 parents with a crappy relationship which they are modelling to their kids.

Indeed! Being single is massively underrated. Especially for women.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a single mother.

We live in a patriarchal society where marriage is designed to serve men. Lots of women are actually happier out of it and often better parents as a result.

Raising the next generation to the best of their ability?

I'm long term single and happy that way, I don't need celebrating.

Ultimately society needs healthy marriages and kids. If nobody has kids then either we die out or we just continue to import people from other cultures who do and generally the point of marriage (not always) is to have children together.

LMFAO I've heard it all now! 😂

It's not a forgone conclusion that a married woman has made a good choice for the father of her children either, or in fact that she's made a good choice to have children herself just because she got married. Both of them have just chosen to get and stay married, and there's more to having children and parenting than a marriage certificate.
Poor choices aren't just the remit of the single parent, though I get it's nice and comfortable to think that way when you're married.

NEWSFLASH! Married mums do this too! 😱

Someone's projecting. 👀

Yes but the question wasn’t about married mums was it?

Single parents cost the taxpayer a fortune, they absolutely should not be celebrated. Much of the financial/benefit crisis in the UK at the moment is caused by single parenthood and the huge amount of government subsidy it requires. Research also shows that its terrible for the kids involved too.

Celebrating damaging behaviour makes absolutely no sense from a social perspective. If anything, it should be stigmatised more. The normalisation of single parenting over the last few decades has been an unmitigaed disaster for pretty much everyone.

Women are better off out of marriage. Sorry if that’s difficult for you to hear but statistically it’s true.

Its not true, its an urban myth.

The celebration of marriage, is the wedding party couples CHOOSE to throw. If you want celebration of being single, throw yourself a party 🎉

Of course it’s always the single parents fault isn’t it 😂 only on MN