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maryberryslayers · 10/02/2025 09:07

The level of entitlement is astounding. Why do you think it's acceptable not to pay people on time? You paid late twice in 6 months. The tutor is likely relying on this money to pay her own bills.

Your child is at a disadvantage because you didn't pay on time and seem to have little regard for others, not because of the tutor.

Hopefully this teaches you a lesson for the future.

thepariscrimefiles · 10/02/2025 09:07

So since September, you've 'forgotten' to pay the tutor twice? Why haven't you set up a standing order or direct debit?

She sent you a reminder and you still didn't pay. I don't blame her one bit. This is her income and is the same as your employer forgetting to pay you. As she is in demand, she can pick and choose who she tutors and quite reasonably has chosen a family that will pay her for her services on time.

TappyGilmore · 10/02/2025 09:07

For those saying that they don’t believe this … I definitely do. I have a friend who owns a dance studio and the amount of parents that enrol their kid in lessons, bring the kid along to every lesson but then never pay a thing is unreal. I have no idea why she doesn’t remove the children from class when it gets to a certain point.

The worst thing is that if it was genuine financial hardship, she’d be happy to work something out. But usually it’s not … it’s just can’t be bothered to pay.

Macaroni46 · 10/02/2025 09:08

It's you who's being unpleasant OP!
How was she to know that you were meaning to pay? How nasty to say maybe that's why she's not a class teacher anymore. You're coming across poorly. I'd start looking for a new tutor pretty quick as word gets round about parents to avoid ...

MayaKovskaya · 10/02/2025 09:08

If this is a reverse, no, you were not unreasonable at all to book another pupil in. Imagine thinking "it slipped my mind" as an excuse for non payment.

Grammarnut · 10/02/2025 09:09

grassisgreener2015 · 10/02/2025 08:13

AIBU to think our (now ex) tutor has behaved unreasonably?

Our 11 plus tutor charges monthly in advance and I stupidly forgot to pay for February's lessons on time. She did remind me once about the invoice but it just slipped my mind as it's been a really busy few weeks.

We turned up for our lesson on Friday and she actually turned us away and had arranged for another family to take our place! I feel really embarrassed as the other family are from our school and they were there when she sent us away.

We've been having lessons since September and I've only paid late once on one other occasion. We've cancelled very few lessons and we're really pleased with our child's progress.

I think the tutor has been really impatient and quite frankly, rude! Surely someone working with children should be kinder than this and could have given us some leeway?

You have not paid on time several times, and did not pay for February at all and you keep cancelling lessons - did you pay for these or expect a refund? This is your tutor's income and he/she needs it or they wouldn't be doing tuition. They have been very patient with you but I am not surprised they sacked you. Find another tutor, don't randomly cancel lessons and pay on time.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 10/02/2025 09:09

@grassisgreener2015 She's left our child with no tutor and they're now disadvantaged compared to their friends (grammar area). They are so keen to take the 11 plus and it seems so wrong for her to be punishing a child for my small mistake. This is hilarious!!! they are now disadvantaged compared to their friends??? that is on you OP! They are so keen to take the 11 plus?? I very much doubt that!! YOU AND YOUR DEAR HUSBAND are more keen than your child, of that I am very sure!!! 😂😂😂

lnks · 10/02/2025 09:09

TappyGilmore · 10/02/2025 09:07

For those saying that they don’t believe this … I definitely do. I have a friend who owns a dance studio and the amount of parents that enrol their kid in lessons, bring the kid along to every lesson but then never pay a thing is unreal. I have no idea why she doesn’t remove the children from class when it gets to a certain point.

The worst thing is that if it was genuine financial hardship, she’d be happy to work something out. But usually it’s not … it’s just can’t be bothered to pay.

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I definitely believe it happens.

I just don’t believe this particular poster. As others have said, it’s almost word for one the same as other threads there have been

Bonjovispyjamas · 10/02/2025 09:09

Good for her.

LuluBlakey1 · 10/02/2025 09:10

grassisgreener2015 · 10/02/2025 09:04

Why so unpleasant?

I'm a busy working mum who made a mistake.

I'll have to look for a new tutor.

I accept I made a mistake. It's a pity the tutor isn't more understanding but maybe that's why she's no longer a class teacher. I do understand that she has bills to pay and I wasn't planning to never pay the invoice, I'm not a thief and i wasnt expecting lessons for free! I do accept she won't be continuing with us though. Such a shame.

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I bet she is feeling well rid of you given your attitude.

MayaKovskaya · 10/02/2025 09:10

Some parents are very entitled. Just because someone is a teacher, doesn't mean you can't pay on time, or respect their schedule.

Quinlan · 10/02/2025 09:11

grassisgreener2015 · 10/02/2025 09:04

Why so unpleasant?

I'm a busy working mum who made a mistake.

I'll have to look for a new tutor.

I accept I made a mistake. It's a pity the tutor isn't more understanding but maybe that's why she's no longer a class teacher. I do understand that she has bills to pay and I wasn't planning to never pay the invoice, I'm not a thief and i wasnt expecting lessons for free! I do accept she won't be continuing with us though. Such a shame.

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If you started a new job, and your employer failed to pay or paid late for 2 of the 6 months you worked there, would you think this was a great and reliable job and stay? Whilst being very kind and understanding. Or would you look for another job and move on when you got it?

You only had her services for 6 months, and you missed 2 payment dates. That is not a small number. You’ve shown her that you cannot be trusted and she needs to fill your spot with someone who will reliably pay her. This is her job and she needs to be paid on time, just like you do.

We are all busy working mums. We still pay for services on time. You are not the main character, you’re not the most special and everyone else doesn’t have to dance to your drum. Pay people on time or find yourself cut from services.

Bingbong2024 · 10/02/2025 09:11

Unfortunately, having a busy few weeks isn't an acceptable excuse to the debtors when the tutor can't pay their bills because you didn't pay yours. You didn't pay the invoice, then didn't pay when they had to remind you. You should be embarrassed. Would you accept not receiving your salary because they had a busy few weeks? Doubtful. How dare you suggest that the tutor, who asked you twice to pay what you owed, is no longer a class teacher because they aren't more understanding!! The sheer entitlement of you! Give your head a wobble.

Toomanyusernamestochoose · 10/02/2025 09:11

grassisgreener2015 · 10/02/2025 09:04

Why so unpleasant?

I'm a busy working mum who made a mistake.

I'll have to look for a new tutor.

I accept I made a mistake. It's a pity the tutor isn't more understanding but maybe that's why she's no longer a class teacher. I do understand that she has bills to pay and I wasn't planning to never pay the invoice, I'm not a thief and i wasnt expecting lessons for free! I do accept she won't be continuing with us though. Such a shame.

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but maybe that's why she's no longer a class teacher

You are so unpleasant and unable to see it. I really pity your child having such a horrible parent as a role model.

This tutor has dodged a bullet by removing you as her client

roses2 · 10/02/2025 09:11

Had you paid by the time you went to the lesson on Friday and you are now due a refund?

Randomthoughts992 · 10/02/2025 09:12

sorry but people rely on that money, I had it once as a childminder and struggled with having enough food to eat that week because nearly every single person didnt pay me

honeylulu · 10/02/2025 09:12

Good tutors are in high demand and usually have long waiting lists. They don't want the hassle of chasing late payers or running the risk of non payment especially when they can opt for clients who will pay reliably.

She is making a living. There is no "be kind" about it.

Good luck finding another one
Don't take the piss next time.

CatMum27 · 10/02/2025 09:12

Wow, the entitlement is strong this morning! You forgot to pay (more than once by your own admission), have cancelled “a few” times since September and are now making digs about her professionalism and kindness on a forum because you can’t just admit you screwed up.

She obviously has a waitlist if she was able to fill the place that fast. She doesn’t need to chase people for non-payment when it’s clearly there in the terms you agreed to. Sounds like she’s well shot to be honest.

thepariscrimefiles · 10/02/2025 09:12

grassisgreener2015 · 10/02/2025 08:30

She was saying she's fully booked on friday, although I'm not sure that's completely true. I've suggested maybe she could offer us cancellation lessons or maybe squeeze us in as an extra but she's not replied to my emails sent over the weekend.

Yes, I can now see that her email reminder did say that if the invoice was not paid, lessons would be cancelled but I'd still expect a more personal text or phonecall before actually replacing us bearing in mind we've been with her since September!

I just feel that someone this unkind and impatient should not be working with children to be honest. She's left our child with no tutor and they're now disadvantaged compared to their friends (grammar area). They are so keen to take the 11 plus and it seems so wrong for her to be punishing a child for my small mistake.

You have no self awareness. She isn't 'punishing' your child. She isn't even punishing you. She just wants to be paid for the services that she has delivered. How on earth can you think that 'forgetting' to pay her, even after receiving a reminder telling you that if you didn't pay, lessons would be cancelled, is a 'small mistake'?

This is so unreasonable that I'm wondering whether this is a 'reverse' as surely nobody could really be as entitled as you.

RubyRedBow · 10/02/2025 09:12

You forgot to pay and ignored a reminder. What did you expect?

Pay on time in future.

Macaroni46 · 10/02/2025 09:13

If it was so important to you that your child is tutored you'd a) treat the tutor with respect and b) prioritise paying her. It does baffle me that time and time again, people expect those who work with children to be happy to be treated like shit. Either paid late or pittance wages.
You could always tutor them yourself OP? What's that? You haven't the time or the skills? Better employ someone who knows how then. Oh yeah! You tried that and f'cked it up!

McSpoot · 10/02/2025 09:13

I do accept she won't be continuing with us though. Such a shame.

I thought she was an awful person - not good enough to still be a teacher? Why, then, would it be a shame that she won't be continuing with her? Surely, you wouldn't want to continue with such a person.

Ceramiq · 10/02/2025 09:13

@grassisgreener2015 It is very wrong to assume that a tutor is a failed class teacher. On the contrary, being a tutor and running your own business is a (big) step up, not a step down, in the professional hierarchy.

GreenFingersHelp · 10/02/2025 09:13

grassisgreener2015 · 10/02/2025 09:04

Why so unpleasant?

I'm a busy working mum who made a mistake.

I'll have to look for a new tutor.

I accept I made a mistake. It's a pity the tutor isn't more understanding but maybe that's why she's no longer a class teacher. I do understand that she has bills to pay and I wasn't planning to never pay the invoice, I'm not a thief and i wasnt expecting lessons for free! I do accept she won't be continuing with us though. Such a shame.

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Wow!

So you're saying she isn't 'understanding' and that means she can't find work as a class teacher?

If that's what you do mean, words fail me.

She understood you very well. You are 'that' parent who takes liberties. You were unreliable. And even now you're trying to make out she was at fault by not being 'understanding enough' to work in a school.

You've got a blood nerve.

If you can't organise your life to pay bills on time after a reminder, this is what you get.

I'm not a thief and i wasnt expecting lessons for free!

But you were. You arrived with your child having not paid. Like taking a dress out of a shop and saying you'd pay for it sometime.

The 'shame' in on you for your behaviour and how it's impacting on your child.

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 10/02/2025 09:13

Thought this had to be a reverse as surely no-one could be so deluded as OP, but apparently they can! You're the MN CF of the day OP!