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AIBU to think family should wait for us to order

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CatherineRose16 · 08/02/2025 16:24

I am away for 2 nights in a hotel with my 2 sisters and our families to celebrate my oldest sisters birthday. I am the youngest sister. My older sisters are very close and I often feel a little left out with my sisters. Anyway we had a meal booked for 6.30 in the hotel restaurant last night. My kids wanted to go for a swim so we did that before the meal. My sisters and their families went for a drink in the bar. Anyway at 6.15 my sister texts me to ask were we coming for the meal. We were just getting dressed after the swim so I replied yes, we will be there at 6.30. We arrived at 6.30 and they were already seated and had ordered their food. So it ended up that they were eating their food and were completely finished by the time our food arrived. My kids had to sit and watch their cousins eat and it just made me very uncomfortable. My nephew told my kids that they were late (we were perfectly on time for the booking). If we had known sisters were going early we could have spent less time in the pool. AIBU to be upset about this? I obviously didn't say anything to my sisters as I didn't want to argue on my sisters birthday but it's just another time where my sisters have made me feel bad about myself.

OP posts:
johnd2 · 09/02/2025 19:39

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 08/02/2025 19:45

There's no unwritten rule about arriving at restaurants before the time your table is booked.

Never said there was, the op mentioned twice about concerns of unwritten rules more generally, hence my comment.

ridl14 · 10/02/2025 14:29

CatherineRose16 · 08/02/2025 19:05

The table was booked for 6.30, not eating time.

That's what I thought, I wondered if your family had some idea of beginning eating at the time it was booked for ..? As others have talked about getting there early to hang coats, have a wee etc.

Anyway I think you are definitely NBU and I've never heard anything like this!

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