To think my mum over reacted. Photo attached

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I was washing my hands at my mums, a bit of water went on the stainless steel bit where the pots dry. She got annoyed saying she’d spent time doing it today. It was only a bit of water. So threw. A piece of cutlery at my hands whilst they were still under the tap and said I was selfish. Haven’t done anything wrong I don’t feel

What a disgusting excuse for a mother. Who the hell throws cutlery at their child whether that child is 2 or 32? She's not right in the head.

That is so wrong, and very stressful for you even if you didn't get hurt.

While not saying she had a reason to show such temper, and there is no excuse for it, there is no doubt that stainless steel sinks are not the easiest to live with.

I think it would be a good idea if you helped her get rid of the stainless steel sink, because they are awful to clean and replace it with another type of sink.

I don't know why they are still being made, or why they like them in US.

It might be a good idea to make a note of other things which are making her lose her temper. It may be beyond her control. Was she inclined to being overly clean before, or is this fairly recent.

Unless you record the experiences, it will be very difficult to help her deal with the problem.

Run. And don't go back until she sorts herself out.

How are things today OP?

Same

Raising your hands to, or throwing sharp objects at your adult daughter is never acceptable.

Is this recent or escalating over the last few years (with perhaps an age related medical reason - menopause, dementia) or has it always been there?

Don't let her under play it, insist she accepts responsibility and/or speaks to her gp. If you have dc don't leave them alone with her or along it to continue let them witness her assaulting you with no consequences.

Your mum has mental health issues. Is she very depressed? Has she many friends? You need to persuade her to get help.

Damn right you do. Don't listen to the drip-wet snowflakes on here, the BEST answer to the bullies is a smashed nose. Always.

I lived with a psycho mother. A ridiculously pedantic neat freak. So one day I was sitting by my desk, doing homework. I drank some coffee and had an empty cup just by me, on a shelf. She came in and flew into an absolute murderous rage, as she 'just cleaned' and that cup had to be taken away and washed the very second after I finished my coffee. She came over, took the cup and hit me in the head with it, from behind. Hard. Then I stood up and decked her. She ended up on the floor, nose burst open, blood everywhere. I was a teen, but much taller than her and stronger.

The psycho bitch never dared lay a finger on me ever again. That's how you deal with the bullies. Not 'talking'.

Yea. If your husband ever throws a knife at you, you should feel sorry for the poor lamb, because he's obv very depressed and you should get him help. Or is it only when a woman is violent? What if it was her dad who threw the knife? Also depressed or would it be a 'call the police' situation?

Not in any way normal, you need to see much less of her- if you live at home you need to make arrangements to move out.

Yes, if a woman assaulted her husband by throwing a knife at him, I wouldn't be urging him to 'encourage' her to fix herself. I would tell him to get away from her.

Is she menopausal? Not excusing her behaviour, just wondering if there's an underlying reason

Okay then. Good for you. Out of character serious outbursts mean instant rejection. Let’s hope no one close to you develops a mental illness, has a nasty head injury causing neurological disturbance, or has serious hormonal problems. You do you.

I hope you wouldn't encourage a woman to stay with a man who threw a knife at her, no matter what excuse someone can dream up.

An explanation is not an excuse.

People are responsible for their own actions.

What on earth is wrong with your mum, perhaps she should see a dr?
she’s definitely got a problem…I wouldn’t want to be around her, and hope for your sake you don’t live with that woman. 😳

I don't live with her no.. she's always had a bit of a temper, she today said that she feels ashamed

She needs help. Hope you're ok.

I hope you're okay. This has been a really tough time for you. I hope your hand is not too sore too.
It is good your mum admits she feels ashamed (so she should) ..I really hope this is the start of some honest reflection for her and steps to learn how to better self regulate. There is some brilliant advice online via Instagram pages etc to help people
Good luck.

Perhaps she will realise now how silly her overreacting was, and not to go throwing things, good to hear you don’t live with her,..
Hope she gets help with that temper though
take care x

If she's truly sorry she should seek help with her anger. Otherwise there's nothing to stop it happening again next time she's in a rage.

Has she been abusive to your Dad / her partner too? If she's slapped you and thrown things at you, I wouldn't be surprised.

Either way, she needs some help or counselling. You might consider it too.

Just thinking...what is her age...early dementia??

''The psycho bitch never dared lay a finger on me ever again. That's how you deal with the bullies. Not 'talking'.''

Violence is never good. Laying hands on someone else for whatever reason is wrong.

Are you her daughter or were you adopted?

Late 50s. Possible but unlikely. Maybe menopause but still a bit extreme for that

I’d think carefully about continuing to see her in her or your homes. She’s hurt you twice now and the second time used an object. Weapon sounds dramatic but when you use an object to hurt someone that object becomes a weapon. She’s significantly escalated.

Just see her in public places if you want to continue seeing her at all. Regardless of whether her violence is caused by a health issue, she is not safe to be around