While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

[Homeymum2]

We supply of course deodorant, soaps, shampoo, conditioner - and even fancy hair products - but I don't buy the make up - so I feel like the removal is also her responsibility -

I'm not opposed to make up - I'm just consider it a luxury to buy with her spending money - not mine

Give a sufficient budget allowance and they buy all their own toiletries
Gets them budgeting

Good grief, really? Seems a bit stingy to me. A cheap cleanser is hardly breaking the bank.

I'd consider an appropriate facial cleanser a standard toiletry (and for most teens dealing with hormonal changes to their skin proper cleanser is appropriate and nevermind any 'in my day we just had soap and water' attitudes), and a facial cleanser should remove makeup.

If she's wanting premium products or getting through gallons of the stuff because she's having to use loads to take off caked on foundation/waterproof mascara etc then there is an arguement she should be contributing, but a basic product in sufficient quantities to wash her face (including of light makeup) morning and evening should be considered an expected thing to provide, either buying it for her or included in the budget for her to buy her own toiletries.

Has she asked for this, how old is she, and what money does she have?

It all sounds unnecessarily adversarial is this normal for you? I would just buy my dc the things they need. It's a few quid.

no but a face wash is

Buy a big bottle of baby lotion and some cotton wool, total cost about £4.

If she wants something different, she pays for it (and it'll probably be covered by Boots points soon enough if she's a big spender on makeup).

I buy soap, shampoo, conditioner and deoderant -- my choice, my budget. They get pocket money. Anything else comes out of pocket money.

Just buy some Aldi Lacura face wash, it's less than a quid for 200mls.

I buy my pre-teens skincare, there’s certain ingredients young skin should avoid and I don’t want her buying things that may harm her skin. She comes with me and we choose together in a budget, teaches her budgeting and also buying appropriate products for the skin she has. Seems to work well. She’s only going to be 13 this year but skincare seems to be a bigger deal than it was when I was her age so I want her to learn and use it appropriately

I buy whatever they need

If she's in education (rather than full time work) then yeah, I think its reasonable to buy her a 2 quid make up remover. Not a £15 cleanser though.

God no wonder so many posters kids hate them

It's literally a couple of quid

I buy face wash for both my teenagers - my son rarely uses his 😂 and my daughter can use her own money if she wants something fancier. They both use Simple face wash.
I don't buy make up (unless it's a gift) but I do but then both pimple patches.

I got a massive bottle of Garnier micellar water the other day (700ml) for £5. I wouldn't mind providing that at all.

Unless money is very tight or DC is asking for something ridiculously expensive I would buy it. My teen DDs have a monthly budget for clothes, luxuries etc but if they asked for make up remover in the weekly shop I would get them a supermarket brand.

I'm sure the OP would be fine with it if it was literally a couple of quid and it lasted a reasonable amount of time ie weeks/months.

But no doubt the DD wants some premium stuff she's seen on Tiktok that's far more expensive and needs replacing a lot more frequently.

I'd buy make up remover myself but not make up. It's part of especial cleansing

M & S we're selling Garnier micellar water 400ml bottles for 1.84 instead of £5 a while back on clearance. I bought 4 and they lasted approx 10 months. I checked Boots and theirs were £7.99 at the time. Felt very pleased with myself.

I'd buy it if they put it on my shopping list (simple wipes or similar). Often get cerave for them too. My dds seem to prefer to use my cleansers and exfoliant stuff though which I don't mind about. I buy more expensive make up / skincare products as presents for them for birthday/Christmas.

Buying her a cleanser in her hormonal teen years is a basic - doesn't need to be flash and it will do the job of a makeup remover

I do buy DD La Roche Posay, despite being happy with Superdrug hot cloth cleanser for myself, but her skin is really bad and we are trying this before seeing the Dr and going down the medication route.

For other purchases of this nature I would usually buy something basic but half decent for her and if she wanted something fancier she could make up the difference with her own money.

But for the most part, I like looking after my DC and providing for them and helping them to feel that they are worthy of nice things and being treated/treating themselves.

Is this about your 14-year-old who you apparently believe to be demanding and entitled because she wants chocolate when she's on her period?

I personally would consider a facial cleanser to be a standard toiletry, not a luxury. At 14 a proper cleanser is a good thing to use whether she wears makeup or not. For a teenager I'd consider a cleanser and a moisturiser to be ordinary, everyday toiletries. They don't have to be expensive.

I can’t imagine penny pinching my child to this extent.

I buy Tesco micellar water for my dd. I occasionally buy Simple or Nivea cleanser too so yes I provide it as it’s a basic and they are a reasonable price.