While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

[Homeymum2]

We supply of course deodorant, soaps, shampoo, conditioner - and even fancy hair products - but I don't buy the make up - so I feel like the removal is also her responsibility -

I'm not opposed to make up - I'm just consider it a luxury to buy with her spending money - not mine

I try to get my DD to double cleanse as I'm a big believer in it. I think instead she has a quick wipe with a cleansing wipe or a bit of micellar. The lovely cleansing balm from Body Shop is not used!! I love buying skincare. There's Cerave in the shower too

Unless you want her to have dreadful skin I’d probably stump up for it. I have boys but cover nice aftershave, hair styler etc.

If she's buying make up just say to her she will need to factor in a bottle of micellar water or similar it's not a massive deal .

My mum was always big on skin care so always got me my cleanser, toner and moisturiser and make up wipes before I could buy my own! I don't have daughters but it's not something I'd have hesitatied to get them if I did!

YABU

Just add in a micellar water or balm cleanser if you already buy face wash. It's not going to break the bank is it

So on the other thread I said I wouldn't automatically get chocolate and make a fuss of my daughter when she is on her period (as unless she is being angry or there are sanitary towels in the bin I wouldn't know straight away!). However, this one seems odd and I do wonder op if your mum either wasn't around or was lacking. But if she is saying mum the next time you are in town/at the supermarket will you get me some make up remover surely you'd just say yes, you seem to be asking for a rule book and there isn't one. Now, if you can't afford it that is different but you aren't saying that. It's all a bit petty as if you think buying her this is a slippery slope to something.

Jeez! Does OP hate her daughter?!

Jesus imagine being this much of a nit-picker!

I would buy a good value make up remover - Simple or similar. I see it as more hygiene than luxury.

Completely depends on age. If under 16 definitely. Mostly because it wll damage her skin scrubbing away with just normal face wash trying to remove makeup. You can buy makeup remover very cheaply.. so just get a cheap bottle.. if she wants something more fancy then she can save her pocket money. But yes I think some bog standard makeup remover is a basic necessity if you have a younger teen wearing makeup.

Is it that you don't think she should wear make up? And if you buy make up removal then you are endorsing it

Gods sake r u pals with the other poster who won’t buy their daughter chocolate when she’s on her period. Unless ur really hard up for money just buy it! Just seen ur actually that poster. Personally I don’t think she’s asking for crazy things ! Life’s too short to be tight. Especially to ur own kids for small things

Blimey I would but my next door neighbours kids chocolate and makeup remover, if I had your daughters details I would send her both. Your family act like it.

@Surroundedbyfools

It's the SAME poster! This resentment she has for her child has to have some backstory!!

I can’t imagine this ever being an issue.

Surely all household toiletries come from the central budget: medicine, sun cream, moisturiser, hand cream, nail polish remover, nail files, contact lense solution, tooth brushes, dry shampoo, shaving gel. Dont they?

If my DC politely asked ‘could you get me some make-up remover in the next shop’ that would seem quite reasonable to me granted it wasn’t a fancy brand.

Same with chocolate, I buy it for myself occasionally so I’d buy it for others too.

I’m hopeful that you are much more relaxed in real life than you appear to be here and it’s just come across oddly.

I want to thank you OP. When my 15 year old daughter inevitably moans about me not doing/buying enough I can use your threads as an example of how bad it could be!

Well she can use that to remove make up. That’s what face wash is for.

Basic makeup remover, yes. If she’s after clarins etc, she can save up?

When I was about 17 and my mum was frustrated with me (I had failed an exam - but nothing I ever did was good enough) she made an itemised spreadsheet detailing the cost of what it took to bring me up and stuck it to my bedroom door. I’ve never felt more of a burden and years later I still think about it and feel like shit. I am now very much a “do it myself” person even to my own detriment.

Chocolate on your period is a small indulgence and make up remover in my eyes is a basic toiletry, especially when it’s not something incredibly expensive.

Buy your daughter make up remover and chocolate! #teamdaughter

Yes of course provide it.

Ideally the one she wants as long as its in reason. If she wants a £50 one you can't afford then obviously a basic is fine.

Would you want her going to bed wearing makeup??

I buy decent skincare and she can access whatever she needs. Unless you're on an incredibly tight budget I've no idea why you'd gate keep that.

How old is she? I think caring for your skin is really important so personally would buy it to teach DD a good skin care routine. Doesn't mean it has to be majorly expensive. But I'd have my limits, when they get to a certain age and are earning then it's over to them.

What about getting a reusable makeup remover cloth? They work pretty well apart from with waterproof mascara

I've never thought about it. When dd was 14 I treated her to make-up and skin care stuff because I wanted her to have nice stuff, use it well and look after herself. I made a fuss of her when she had her period, her favourite dinners, etc.

It's called mothering.

She's 26 now and earning well. She's at home about half the week. I still ask her if she needs tampax when I go shopping. I often buy her something nice. The last time I went up to London I bought her three chocolate mice from Fortnums as a little treat. She was thrilled.

She never asks and is generous of spirit. She often texts me on her way home to say "hey mum, do you want me to pick anything up for you".

You reap what you sow @Homeymum2