While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

[Homeymum2]

We supply of course deodorant, soaps, shampoo, conditioner - and even fancy hair products - but I don't buy the make up - so I feel like the removal is also her responsibility -

I'm not opposed to make up - I'm just consider it a luxury to buy with her spending money - not mine

What do you wash your own face with? Surely not ordinary soap? It'll sting like fuck.

I buy my 14 year old skin care including make up remover, why wouldn't I? If she wants something fancy off tik tok etc then she uses her wage from her part time job.
I also buy my 18 year old son face wash even though he's earning reasonable money as an apprentice.
Do you actually care about this girl?

Between this and the chocolate you’ve got a really really bizarre approach to parenting that I find baffling and I’ve never encountered before.

Did you buy her nappies when she was a baby? Did you buy her pencils for school? Why bring a child in to this world that you don’t want to provide for? She’s 14 what do you want her to do to buy these things for herself? Get a job sweeping chimneys?

Yes, of course but I'd buy the chocolate. I don't see the issue with either. I'm setting the standard for what my teens should accept in future relationships, caring, kindness, compassion, occasional nice gestures/treats etc... I also work with a lovely group of women and we all buy each other chocolate when it's needed, so I would 100% do the same for my own child.

FGS, just pick up a £2 bottle of make-up remover and a bar of chocolate from Tesco for your poor daughter, or you're on a fast route to becoming Whydomykidsnevercomehomeymum2.

Me and DD (14) share facewash, cleanser and other bits and bobs. She also used spot treatment stuff which thankfully I don't need. She's quite happy to equally "borrow" my rings, scarves, jumpers and whatever she fancies. I don't mind - it makes me think (ha!) I'm pretty cool.

Put a bottle of something like simple cleanser in your trolley with her monthly bar of chocolate!
I'm actually wondering if you even like your DD!!

Just buy her a bottle of micellar water and some cotton wool pads surely. Why are you being unnecessarily tight?

Another one who has come from the chocolate thread and feels incredibly sorry for your DD.

And yes, you should provide make-up remover as part of her skincare routine. She's 14 so can't earn money to buy it herself.

As others have said, there must be some serious backstory to your own childhood here OP....

Mind you there was a post yesterday by someone asking whether they should be obliged to buy chocolate for their 14 year old when they had period pains!!

I haven't RTFT, nor the chocolate one, so this may have come up already - but I'm beginning to wonder if these threads are reverses...

It's the same woman.

Isn't a make up cleanser the same as a fash wash? I would buy that.
How old is your child?

I buy all decent standard toiletries. Skincare specific for spots/dry skin etc if needed.
Including makeup (basic kit from secondary school age, I had spots and remember how much a little concealer and blush helped my confidence)
Anything fancy or extra expensive is Xmas/birthday/buy it yourself, so yes I’d buy make-up remover 🙂

I think it depends how old the person is. If they're old enough to buy their own make up then they are old enough to buy remover but if this is for your school age child it isn't a hill I would die on.

Is your daughter actually a step daughter that you don't happen to like

Careful with that reach, you might topple over.

Is it ? I hadn't even noticed poor girl imagine craving a bit of chocolate and mum says no !

I can’t imagine having such a cold and transactional relationship with my own daughter!

Resenting buying them cleanser and a bit of chocolate when on their period. Calling it “pampering”.

Do you not love your child and want to demonstrate that at all?

Op you sound like my mother we wasn't allowed anything unless she wanted it.
As you can tell i went NC with her.
Just the basic things a girl wants or needs.
Your parenting is very odd.
She just a kid and wants to be like her friends.
No chocolate no make up remover what next the cheapest sanitary towels.
Washing make up off with just sope can dry the skin out not good.
Calling basic things pampering is out of line.
Op ine day your daughter will be old enough to leave and at this rate i dont think she will come back.
Tbh i think theres more going on what else is she not allowed to have but can.
Shameful.

The Tesco micellar water is less than £3. Just put it in your trolley next time you go shopping. It lasts ages too.

I think a standard cleanser from a supermarket is easy enough to pop in the trolley and not worry about. If she wants a £40 bottle of some specific brand then she should save up for it herself.

Face wash isn't very good at removing makeup, especially if it's a blemish-targeted one. You certainly shouldn't be scrubbing your eyes to remove mascara etc with a face wash, especially not one that's meant for acne.

Remove makeup with cleanser, then wash your face.

Same poster. Poor girl!

My daughter is 14 she has a go henry with an allowance and I give her a bus pass so she buys her own toiletries but I have a stock she can help herself to aswell , makeup remover is a basic so is skincare ..