While I'm here - is make up remover a toiletry parents should provide?

[Homeymum2]

We supply of course deodorant, soaps, shampoo, conditioner - and even fancy hair products - but I don't buy the make up - so I feel like the removal is also her responsibility -

I'm not opposed to make up - I'm just consider it a luxury to buy with her spending money - not mine

How old is she though? If she’s 25, still
living at home then she can buy it herself. Anything under 18 then I’d just stick it on the family shop.

Also it depends how much money your daughter gets. It varies a lot from family to family.

Make up remover? Do you simply mean a face cleanser? Just suck it up and buy it.

She’s 14, OP recently made a post asking if DD was unreasonable asking for chocolate whilst on her period.

OP why don’t you just buy her a facial cleanser? You can get them for £3-4.

Well since teens gets oily spot prone hormonal skin I’d be providing a face wash, that face wash can then be used as makeup remover. I wouldn’t want my child buying into all these makeup remover wipes and other bits anyway. A proper face wash is all that’s needed

I’m quite into skin care so would want to provide an age appropriate cleanser etc for my daughter when she’s of that age.

It doesn’t have to be extremely costly to be good (eg cera ve) and will last ages.

I buy it with all the other toiletries. It doesn't cost very much and sits in the bathroom where any of us can use it.

Does she have an allowance to buy things or not?

But I'd say it a pretty basic thing for a teenager

Yes, I consider providing skincare including makeup remover pretty normal. An oil based face wash covers both

YABU if you mean a £3-4 facial cleanser.

YANBU if you mean your DD wants you to buy a £30 premium make up remover because it’s something she’s seen on TikTok

Oh god is it the chocolate period girl?

Do you resent your daughter op? Buying chocolate and make up remover for a 14 year old girl is pretty normal, basic parenting.

Perhaps a solution would be for the DD to get a decent but affordable allowance and for her to buy these things herself?

Then she will be able to see that money doesn't grow on trees and if she's buying fancy cleanser and expecting monthly pamper trays it will encourage her to think carefully about what she buys as she can't have everything she wants?

Reusable make up cloths.

If you don’t think it’s your job as a parent to purchase face wash and the odd chocolate bar for your barely teenage daughter you’ve got a really messed up idea of parenting.

Thank you! x

Micellar water from the supermarket in the shopping, usually. It’s not a big ask.

OP mentioned in first post that she has spending money so assume she does have some pocket money.

However, would you really not buy a facial cleanser or get a bar of chocolate for your young teenage daughter. It’s not exactly asking for a new car or iPhone is it. Come on, you’d actually begrudge your child of that?

I do buy face wash 🙄 - it's just not specific for removing makeup - more targeted for blemishes

That’s all that’s needed. Literally.

You’re the one who won’t buy her child a bar of chocolate ?

I assume money must be extremely tight ?

Because otherwise it sounds as though you don’t even like your DD let alone love her.

Oh for goodness sake. Are you talking about eye make up remover? Because soap will remove make up perfectly well. I can't believe this is even a question.

Crikey, then absolutely I would - I’d want to make sure she’s taking care of her skin and not sleeping in makeup. If she’s asking for some high end fancy brand then fair enough, but a micellar water or similar should be a basic.

How is this even a question? My DD is welcome to use my face wash that's kept in the bathroom, and she has her own micellar water that I bought.

Unless you're on a very tight budget, you're talking a few quid for months worth of product.

Oh so you're the OP of both this and the chocolate bar period thread?

She is asking you for basic levels of attention and concern and you behave like you resent her. You don't seem to show her kindness

Financially are you very frugal or something?

I feel sorry for her, I don't think she is asking for much actually

Why not buy the one she wants to use though? Unless she’s being specific about a mega expensive brand then it’s just annoying for a 14 year old to have to buy their own cleanser! They aren’t in supermarkets, they can’t drive, they probably aren’t often in shops. It’s an every day item.