DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

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My 14 yo DD insists that all her friends parents buy them chocolates and pamper them when they are cycling -

I'm being told I'm a terrible mum and badgered for chocolates

Am I an outlier to not cater to this?

Does she have pocket money she could go and buy extra?
Do you not buy chocolate in the house generally?

She asked, like the OP’s DD asked, and made a fair point that she has deserved it. If I constantly said “No where the chocolate from 7 weeks ago” I would understand her being upset

This all day long.

Is she demanding it like in a spoilt way . Or just asking can she have chocolate and commenting that her friends have some during periods.
FYI it does help . My dd sometimes faints and gets very sick during her period . A bit of sugar really helps her feel better.

Asked not demanded

I do it for my daughter and she's in her 30s! If she's home then I'll buy it and when she's in her own home sometimes I can tell she's down and know it's because of her period and I use Co-op delivery to send her goodies! There is no harm in being kind to your daughter when she is having a period.

I agree. My periods are sometimes reasonable other times horrendous. My DD gets lots of sympathetic understanding and the best quality chocolate for her to help herself to if she feels the need. Sometimes it’s been a very much appreciated. I also think about meal plans a little bit more beforehand, to be sure she especially gets those foods that are supposed to be good for you. Everyone benefits from being pampered at times.

Op said her DD demanding chocolate.

If he’d said no I’d have certainly demanded it

Indeed.

We never buy any of that.

I've not had any of those for at least 35 years.

OP clearly is a tight arse with slight delusions of victimhood, all I can see is a teenager on her period who hasn’t made chocolate last 7 weeks

Also teenage girls can be demanding. So what. We probably were as teens. They don’t need to be on top form 100% of the time, they’re allowed to get pissed of at parental meanness

My ex H is a twat, but one of the good things he used to do (before the girls stopped seeing him) was when learning they were on their period, he’d slide a bar of chocolate under their door, usually with a note and a jokey thing written on it.
Was a bit of fun and made them feel slightly better about it all.
It’s one bar of chocolate, that’s given when they’re feeling low or hormonal once a month.

I always thought it was a nice thing. Shame he was a twat in all other ways 🤷‍♀️

Oh we’ve slid into competitive under eating. Hurrah!

research you say? interesting, do share

Hmm, have you ever had properly painful and debilitating periods?

As a teen I would vomit due to the intense pain the day before my period started. I went to the doctors many times over the years. Nothing much was done bar putting me on the pill. This at least meant I knew when it would happen.

After having dd I had no, or light, periods but with intense pain twice a month - the time my period was due plus also mid lot h. It took around 5-6 years to get a diagnosis and treatment to help. Even then, after treatment, I had some pain - just more manageable.

Not everyone is fortunate enough to have periods which are barely noticeable.

Not everyone can afford to pay to be seen by specialists quickly, so those that do suffer join increasingly lengthy waits or simply get dismissed by doctors,

Why does it have to be a special purchase? Can’t you just get some bog standard chocolate?

Christmas chocolate lasting till February isn’t so common as to be unreasonable hers has gone.

Thanks everybody -

We have lots of cookies and crisps and a few sweets almost all the time - kids (2 girls) are not deprived or restricted - we always have nice things and everything they need - which is why I feel a bit taken aback by being expected to supply extras on demand -

It’s just chocolate. Not that big a deal. Buy her a Dairy Milk

I'm surprised how many do TBH.

If I had chocolates, sweets, biscuits and cakes in the house I would eat them, so I just don't buy or make them. DH is prediabetic and I am trying to lose a bit of weight.

The only time we have chocolate in is at Christmas and birthdays.

It helps that chocolate is something I can take or leave anyway.

🏅

On Mumsnet if you don’t keep a chocolate drawer or treat cupboard then you must be a competitive under eater. No, how about trying to get chn into good habits and only having treats occasionally? Chocolate and cakes is not a daily food. It’s for occasional treats and should be in small amounts.

The chocolate/period thing is weird isn't it? I don't have a sweet tooth at all and don't even really like chocolate most of the time. But then every so often I will be out and about and think 'oh, I'd really like a hot chocolate' and sure enough the next day my period arrives. It's like a warning light. Then I go straight back to not even really liking it.

But joking aside, periods suck and though I'm not suggesting making a massive fuss... there is something lovely about someone making you a hot water bottle and bringing you pain killers and a cup of tea when you've got period pain. It just feels lovely to be looked after sometimes!

She’s 14 and you think her Christmas chocolate should still be around?? Good god, it’s a miracle any of it makes it to January here.

Of course she be should have chocolate on her period is she wants it.

Having read the thread where you are reluctant to buy her makeup remover in the shopping, I now think your idea of ‘pampering’ and mine are a world apart, OP.

Give the lass a Dairy Milk, a hot water bottle and some micellar water. Life is short.

Rationing is over.

I am sympathetic with my DDs at period time. I’ll make them a hot water bottle or a cup of tea. By the time they started, they were 14+ and able to pop into the shop for chocolate.