DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

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My 14 yo DD insists that all her friends parents buy them chocolates and pamper them when they are cycling -

I'm being told I'm a terrible mum and badgered for chocolates

Am I an outlier to not cater to this?

I really craved chocolate during my period, the chocolate drawer was under constant attack. I’d have been utterly miserable if I was denied it.

I feel rather sad for people who think taking care of an add on their period is laughable and are all “Haha just because you’re on your period it doesn’t mean you have special treatment, nobody looks after ME on MINE!”

Being a teenager is hard, and being a girl is hard, why on earth wouldn’t you want the opportunity to be nice to your kid and look after them rather than sneering at their discomfort? Why wouldn’t you want better for your DD than what you have?

I have lots of sympathy for your daughter and all girls and women going through rubbish periods, so get her some chocolate. I wouldn’t pander to it though with pamper trays or whatever. Unfortunately the reality is she has years to go of periods and work/college/life in general isn’t built to drop everything for us so a little mum hug and chocolate while she can get it is a show of love and solidarity…it sure as shit won’t be there for her in years to come.

I always kept ( small) chocolate bars and sweets in for the kids as imo it makes it a normal part of a balanced diet
All adults now none have a sweet tooth and not a filling in sight( unlike me)

She's not waiting for orders to go over the top in Ypres though, she's a 14 year old child who feels crappy.

It doesn't take much effort to hand over a bar of Dairy Milk, a fluffy pair of socks, two paracetamol and a hot water bottle for a couple of days a month.

Some women and girls have excruciating pain on a par with labour, some have endometriosis, some have PMDD.

If trying a bit of walking or rocking from one leg to another and circling her hips doesn't relieve it, then it's perfectly reasonable to want to curl up and eat something sweet whilst trying to ignore the sensation of her uterus wanting to escape through her spine and strangle her, especially as teenagers are still in the transition period from feeling fully loved children - why add to the 'Nobody gives a shit about you and how you're feeling because you're female, you might as well get used to it now' message?

Because some people learn empathy through these scenarios. Others learn bitterness. Unfortunately.

Periods are rubbish. I like to pamper myself when I'm on mine, I did the same for my daughter.
Why make a crap time even worse, let her have the chocolate and indulge her.

I really craved it too esp when younger and I had minimal PMS symptoms otherwise - never had a period pain or cramp for instance and couldn't even compare when in labour when asked. I imagine it/wonder if it can be worse for women and girls who really have a rough time when on their period.

Nothing wrong with a bit of chocolate and some extra rest and a hot water bottle.

I mean, all my mum did was hand me a box of tampax, and I was expected to get on with it, but there is nothing wrong with showing your DD some care and concern.

I think it would be nice to run her a bath, get an hot water bottle and get her a bar of choc. Doesn’t have to be a full on spa session, but showing someone you love some love never hurts

Why are you talking about Christmas chocolates? It is now February. Just get the girl some chocolate

It may surprise you to find out that research and innovation has happened in the last 50 years.

Nan always used to say chocolate is a food! Past periods now.but still have chocolate in the house! Why wouldn't you .out you go for emergency dairy milk .dm used to make hot chocolate and a day off sometimes

She is trying to manipulate you.

She’s 14! I used to crave chocolate on my period too…… I went to the shop and bought it myself!

Do you deliberately misinterpret messages on Mumsnet every day of the month too?

Do whatever makes you happy but I don't think we need to fuss over women specifically because they are having a period.

I only wear my sack on special occasions. Usually I just wrap myself in nettles.

I’m off to the shop now for my DD who wants a chocolate orange - she’s not on her period but she’s had a tiring day at school, is dealing with bitchy friends and got a load of merits last week so she deserves the £1.75 spent on her

At 14 years old she can go to the shop herself?

Are you insane?! How will she ever hold down a job? Don't you know you're ruining her future chances at a fulfilling and self reliant life?!

😉

Having a period is hard, painful and very uncomfortable especially for teens who are relatively new to it all. Why wouldn’t you take the opportunity to be a nice cool mum who gets it and makes the horrible days just a bit nicer?

Cant bear this “Don’t make a fuss!” Attitude around women’s issues, we need to stop doing it to ourselves, it only allows others to minimise our realities and is a round about way of saying STFU Woman

No chocolate kept in my house on a regular basis. Probably buy some every now and then. It’s not a staple.

Haha it’s ok she can grow up and be my slave instead I’ll pay her in chocolate oranges 😂

Did she demand you do that though? That’s the difference.

Oh thank the Lord. I was worried you had emotional depth for a moment there! 🤣

Really?

I was a bit under the weather at the weekend and asked my DH to go get me stuff from the shop. I’ve wasn’t being manipulated it’s called being nice