Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

[Springsunshine123]

Whats the worst thing your in-laws have ever said/done to you? Long list of mine include:
MIL telling me on our wedding day “Did not expect this to be this nice from you”
MIL asking me how much my jacket was and when replying £50 she said (god are you sure, wouldn’t expect you to fork out that much!)
trying to feed my 9mo lucozade
wanting someone to blow smoke into my 7yo’s ear to cure his earache
telling me it was my fault her husband was coughing…. The list of gems is endless…GO!

That her son and my song should be Meatloaf, 2 out of 3 aint bad.

Didn't get it at the time, dawned on me a few weeks later, I want you I need you but there aint no way i'm ever going to love you

Split up not long after when I found out he was sleeping with half the town, got someone pregnant and the wedding we were arranging was because he thought he might get a flash life from my parents money. He still wanted to marry though, despite the baby - what a prick.

Shame smashing cake in each other’s faces wasn’t a thing back then. Between your mum and dad they could’ve suffocated her with it

Children are often so good at knowing who the wrong uns are 😀

Hours after finding out I was had a mmc, “Well it clearly wasn’t viable anyway so I don’t know what you’re bothered about. Not like you’ve had still birth or anything.”

I should have been 15 weeks.

I'd have paid the cunt with said frying pan. I hope you have nothing to do with him.

Telling my husband who had just tried to kill himself that he had no empathy for anyone because his sister had broken up with her boyfriend. No birthday or Xmas presents for my children with DH but calling for his DD with ex for her address because she “couldn’t bare her card and present to be late”. Telling DH that her other son was not joining the police force because it was beneath him (he was in the police force at the time). Constantly spending thousands on the other 3 children and giving my DH nothing. Telling us we were atupid for having another child because we couldn’t afford the ones we had (never had a problem with money at all).

If I remember correctly, my own DM tried to do this to my DS at his cousin’s christening… her thinking seemed to be, maybe if I just pick him up and get him near the font…

We got married at 12 noon in a registry office. MIL told husband, in front of whole room full of people, that if he thinks by the end of the day he has made a mistake at least he hasn't wasted the whole weekend.

"I have always been so disappointed in all three of my daughters in law. I wanted the sort of girl I could talk about girly things with and who would take me shopping". This after I drove her all over the place shopping when she visited us in the USA and I was 8.5 months pregnant.

Also, a few days before my due date "I am sorry, I have decided I can't look after my 4 year old granddaughter when you go in to have the new baby. I wouldn't know what to do if she was sick or something" followed by "My DS will just have to stay home with me and her. I don't know why you want him there anyway. My husband never came in with me. I wouldn't have wanted it".

She was an absolute monster, I put up with her for 42 years, she made my life hell on so many occasions. Nobody mourned her when she died at 96 last year.

Not IL’s but my uncle, who told me (after two miscarriages in the previous four months) that if I couldn’t cope with it I should’ve kept my legs closed.
Unsurprisingly we are now NC…

I’ve thought of another one… telling DD1 & DD2 that my beloved step dad who married my mum years be for either of them was born was ‘not your real grandad’. My dad was abusive to my mum and us, my stepdad was the dad I turned to for over 30 years until he died. MIL knew all of this and my daughters were primary school age. Yes he wasn’t a blood relative but he was 100% their grandad. I’m sure she thought I wouldn’t find out but it upset my eldest so she told me. Nothing I could say as it was the word of a 7 year old over MIL

This thread and some of the comments highlight how insensitive people are towards those who have miscarriages

Going to read rest of thread later to make me feel "better" that it's not just my PILs.
For context, both my parents passed away in the last 4 yrs, early 70s , both from cancer.
They were great GPs and adored and doted on our DS and DD.

My MIL once said about some acquaintances that they always raved about their grandchildren all the time. She said "we're not at all bothered". I couldn't believe she actually said this to me and DH!

Another time when DD was about 18months or so, not gaining much weight or bothered about food, I said I'd been reading a book for some advice etc. Her response was ' I never had time to read books!'.

She and FIL who are now in mid 80s are always clearing stuff out, gave us our wedding photo and photos of the kids back! Thanks then...

They didn't bother sending sympathy cards when my parents passed away.
It is a shame. Our kids basically don't have grandparents now. I last saw them over a year ago and have very little to do with them.

There are loads of other examples, but I have gone on long enough. Quite good to get it off my chest!

Ex-MIL - on my wedding day many years ago, when I was 6 months pregnant.

After arriving at the reception from the ceremony she said to me “you look like a beached whale in that dress”. (It was actually a stunning Benjamin Roberts gown from the era, chosen particularly so that it would flow over my beautiful bump)

During the meal EXH’s sister came up to the top table and said to her mother - in earshot of my parents - the champagne tastes like cats piss. It was not cheap champagne and clearly wasted on her palette. My Dad firmly told her to go and sit down. How he kept his cool, I don’t know.

The list goes on when I recall that day but not surprisingly I left him and his awful family after 3 months.

I’ve since been blessed with a warm, caring, compassionate MIL who has been there for me even more than my own mother. She restored my faith in mother in laws!

Baby bump is now in her 20s and never met her biological father or his horrible family. I dread to think how our lives would have turned out if I still had that MIL!

My ex MIL told me that job is morally wrong and she couldn’t possibly condone it.

You absolutely could have said something and I hope you did eventually have your DDs back as it doesn't read like you did.

My MIL sulked one Christmas Day because someone else had bought the pressie they had bought DD4 was happy with it thanked them and said something along the lines of “I’m so happy look what I have, I have two now I can have one at home and one at GP’s” anyway it was all my fault (nothing to do with me) and I kid you not she would not speak to anyone for 4 hours on Christmas Day, and turned her chair to face the wall and would not look at anyone, muttering nasty comments under her breath. It was at SIL’s house and I felt so sorry for her, both her DC’s had severe mental health issues and one ended up hiding under the table because of the stress. We never spent Christmas with them again, I just did not want to put my DC’s through that.

All MIL.
Im surprised she hasn’t had a baby yet, referring to my 16 yo daughter from a previous relationship
You’ve given my son TB when my partner got TB. He had it not me.
hes not talking yet because you must sit him infront of the tv all day, about my 18 month old
i remember you when you were 17 and you were a lot smaller, I worked in a shop way before I got with her son she used to come in
i don’t have a great relationship with my grandchildren because she won’t call me mum, referring to me not wanting to call her mum, because she’s horrible to me.
she also would watch my every move so she could criticise everything I did. My fave was why are you cutting their grapes. So they don’t choke. Ok but don’t stab him. He was miles away from the knife! I said I promise I’ll try not to stab my child!
I’m no contact now surprisingly 😂

Remembered one my aunt told me about.
She said to her future MIL , who had 2 sons, "I hope I can be the daughter you never had".
Future MIL's response was 'I never wanted a daughter" !!

Decided her ds shouldn’t be married to me anymore and bought him a property to get him away from me. I’ve done nothing but love that man but she just never liked me.
Shame Dh can’t stand up for himself!

Have always been fortunate with PILs but I remember my MIL (at the time) telling her niece in law that I had stayed overnight (no issue). The niece in law said ‘oh wow, I’d never let some little slag stay at my house’. I actually laughed, only met her a few times but she was utter poison. Had been with my boyfriend for about 2 years at this point.

When my now DH took me home to meet his parents, the only thing my FIL could say to him after I left was that I had nice teeth!

It’s not a dig though is it. Surely no one of that size isn’t aware that they are plus size

Good thing you’re making up for them being lovely. What do you want, a badge?

Nothing to my face…. 😂
They know (as DH puts it) I’m a fiesty one!