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cameheredor · 2025-02-01T06:07:02+00:00

It's my DD 5th bday party today. Huge party- 30 kids. It's at a venue with entertainers etc. Last night she threw up at around 6pm and then again at 10pm. No fever and has been sleeping soundly since. Would you cancel the party ? I'm thinking to see how the morning goes, as the party isn't until 2 and then, go from there.

Plaided · 01/02/2025 08:03

Fam23 · 01/02/2025 07:57

Me too 🤣

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Don’t worry, you would have all got a text at 6am and have text back that you have no problem at all with it!!

The host of the party sounds utterly delightful…

MyPearlCrow · 01/02/2025 08:03

cameheredor · 01/02/2025 07:48

So what ! We are having a debate ! What's the big deal ? I had my opinion to start, I suspected the outcome and wondered if there were any people I deem reasonable - there are actually a few.

My opinion hasn't changed.

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Have you told everyone coming to the party about the puke? That’s the only way to go ahead without it being a dick move. Let them make an informed choice.

Glitchymn1 · 01/02/2025 08:03

Spudalot · 01/02/2025 08:00

My 5 year old went to a party and during the afternoon he ate a fair bit of cake a couple of bottles of juice. Randomly at 11.30pm he woke up and was sick everywhere. Next morning and after that absolutely fine. I think he had just either eaten too much/was too rich or something just didn’t agree with him. I don’t know yours situation but our definitely wasn’t illness. Although yours was sick twice which isn’t a good sign.

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This. I don’t think posters have read the whole thread or are being obtuse. There are some very aggressive and nasty posts calling the op a twat and an idiot. No need. I wouldn’t be surprised if the thread gets pulled.

Norovirus floors you, it doesn’t just make you vomit twice and there’s no fever.

Doitrightnow · 01/02/2025 08:03

This thread is so pointless as you already know what you're going to do.

Fwiw, my DC threw up once, a very small amount, in the night once and was totally fine the next day. Two days later I was bedridden for days with something akin to norovirus and DH succumbed a few days after me. So I don't think anyone can predict whether a child is contagious based on how well they seem the day after being sick.

Househunter2025 · 01/02/2025 08:04

cameheredor · 01/02/2025 07:48

So what ! We are having a debate ! What's the big deal ? I had my opinion to start, I suspected the outcome and wondered if there were any people I deem reasonable - there are actually a few.

My opinion hasn't changed.

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I think as long as you are happy for people to know that your daughter was sick last night, it's fine to go ahead. If you were keeping it secret that would indicate you didn't really think it was ok.

In reality kids that go to your kid's school have probably been exposed to this bug already.

The 48 hour rule for schools is more about preventing the kids vomiting while they're actually in the setting with all the mess etc for staff to deal with, IMO.

My kid's school has a 24 hour rule anyway which surprised me but they're hot on attendance generally

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TaggieO · 01/02/2025 08:05

I had a friend like you. Her daughter was “only sick once and seemed fine” so she brought her along to my wedding rehearsal. Gave everyone norovirus. We aren’t friends anymore.

LivingOnTheVeg · 01/02/2025 08:05

Another child brought chickenpox into school, and I woke up on my birthday with them and had to miss my own soft play party. I think my mum was more upset than me as I got a lot of pity presents. She dispatched my dad and uncle to supervise as it was too late to cancel and other parents ended up offering to pay to recoup some costs (obv this was not expected nor asked for). If you aren’t going to get any money back from cancelling this late then I’d probably still see if someone else can plough on with the party so no one else misses out.

You will feel like a shithead if you cause another child to miss their party next week because your DD spread germs. And god forbid they live with anyone immunocompromised.

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cameheredor · 01/02/2025 08:06

think as long as you are happy for people to know that your daughter was sick last night, it's fine to go ahead. If you were keeping it secret that would indicate you didn't really think it was ok.

In reality kids that go to your kid's school have probably been exposed to this bug already.

The 48 hour rule for schools is more about preventing the kids vomiting while they're actually in the setting with all the mess etc for staff to deal with, IMO.

My kid's school has a 24 hour rule anyway which surprised me but they're hot on attendance

Yup they know and my DD is jumping up and down and eating and drinking completely fine.

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Flamingoknees · 01/02/2025 08:06

Was she not at school yesterday?

Glitchymn1 · 01/02/2025 08:06

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So is troll hunting - reported.

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Zanatdy · 01/02/2025 08:06

I’d see how she is this morning. It’s easy to say in a hypothetical situation that you’d cancel (just like everyone on here would leave a relationship at the first sign of trouble) but when you’ve paid out a lot of money and have a very excited birthday girl it’s a lot harder. Of course no-one here will appreciate that, as they all live in a perfect world.

MellowCritic · 01/02/2025 08:07

cameheredor · 01/02/2025 06:10

It might not be a stomach bug !!

Op why ask if you already know what you're doing... you don't want to cancel the party you're hoping she will get up and be better. You won't cancel the party if she is and ppl here are just going to have a go at you but most probably do the same thing as you if it was them so just leave it at that.

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cameheredor · 01/02/2025 08:07

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Read my posts, you'll find your answer.

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Iamoldandwearpurple · 01/02/2025 08:07

cameheredor · 01/02/2025 08:06

think as long as you are happy for people to know that your daughter was sick last night, it's fine to go ahead. If you were keeping it secret that would indicate you didn't really think it was ok.

In reality kids that go to your kid's school have probably been exposed to this bug already.

The 48 hour rule for schools is more about preventing the kids vomiting while they're actually in the setting with all the mess etc for staff to deal with, IMO.

My kid's school has a 24 hour rule anyway which surprised me but they're hot on attendance

Yup they know and my DD is jumping up and down and eating and drinking completely fine.

The 48 hour rule is set by Public Health England to prevent the spread of infection.

Ffs how cam you be so delusional

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cameheredor · 01/02/2025 08:08

Zanatdy · 01/02/2025 08:06

I’d see how she is this morning. It’s easy to say in a hypothetical situation that you’d cancel (just like everyone on here would leave a relationship at the first sign of trouble) but when you’ve paid out a lot of money and have a very excited birthday girl it’s a lot harder. Of course no-one here will appreciate that, as they all live in a perfect world.

Exactly.

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Readmorebooks40 · 01/02/2025 08:09

My child has thrown up from over eating a few times but never twice 4 hours apart. It's most likely a bug. You should let everyone know at least and then they can decide e.g. Good morning everyone, daughter was sick a couple of times late yesterday evening but she is fine this morning, slept all night, no temperature and has eaten her breakfast. Not sure if it was a bug or something she ate. I totally understand if you don't want to attend but we are going ahead with the party as planned. Let me know if you can or can't make it. Thanks.

Jk987 · 01/02/2025 08:11

I'd go ahead. The mums on mumsnet are risk averse to the absolute extreme.

Ponderingg · 01/02/2025 08:12

My dd is a random vomiter. You can tell the difference between something not quite settling right and a bug. She will be fine

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I couldn't care less about your daughter's party, however I'm intrigued in the 10 real life people you have asked between 10pm and 6am? Do you live with all these people, are some of the children? I can't imagine reaching out to 10 people during those unsocial hours about such a trivial subject 😆

Yogaatsunrise · 01/02/2025 08:12

All this pearl clutching over a bit of sick! More times than not, my dc have been sick once or twice and have been fine. I wouldn’t cancel a whole party if she is well!

The kids are exposed to germs all day long.

When this happened to us just before a long haul flight the GP gave us anti sickness meds! Most people do just crack on in real life.

mummysmagicmedicine · 01/02/2025 08:13

I’d cancel personally but I suppose if you’re adamant it is to go ahead then it would be polite to warn other parents so they can decide if their DC go or not

Dumbo18 · 01/02/2025 09:51

If my pretend daughter was pretend vomiting on the day of her pretend party then yes I’d cancel. Seriously OP there’s a big world out there, step away from the phone and go and live your REAL life 😂

Lorelaigilmore88 · 01/02/2025 09:54

Dumbo18 · 01/02/2025 09:51

If my pretend daughter was pretend vomiting on the day of her pretend party then yes I’d cancel. Seriously OP there’s a big world out there, step away from the phone and go and live your REAL life 😂

It does feel like a troll post, but MN hid it while they looked into it, then it reappeared so presumably op is a long standing poster....