Would you go ahead with birthday party today ? DD vomited

[cameheredor]

It's my DD 5th bday party today.

Huge party- 30 kids. It's at a venue with entertainers etc.

Last night she threw up at around 6pm and then again at 10pm. No fever and has been sleeping soundly since.

Would you cancel the party ?

I'm thinking to see how the morning goes, as the party isn't until 2 and then, go from there.

Yeah it does randomly happen to my DD and actually, me, sometimes. ( entirely separate occasions ). Weeks apart. Especially after eating out. It's just one of those things.

It presents differently when it's a stomach bug - the vomiting goes on for longer, there's also diarrhoea after this amount of time. Sometimes a fever too. She had an actual bug at the beginning of the month and I kept her off school. This thing hasn't presented the same at all.

Anyway, people know and that's that. Party is going ahead because she's fine.

When this happened to us just before a long haul flight the GP gave us anti sickness meds! Most people do just crack on in real life.

I guess mumsnetters would think this is extremely selfish, to spread an illness on the plane etc. but I agree, in real life, people do just crack on.

No - would NOT go ahead with party

OP: should I cancel the party ?

A deafening unanimous chorus: yes

OP: hm how about I don't cancel it and then rudely abd aggressively tell everyone why they're wrong

Biggest waste of time thread I've seen in a while

lol I’m emetophobic so I’d be thrilled … 😭

Me too

HUGE HUGE phobia

I personally wouldn’t cancel if the child was fine the next day. I most definitely would not come on to mumsnet and ask for an opinion!

Id keep quiet and hope dd didn’t say anything. Pretty slim chance of that though!

@Sometimeswinning do you use that criteria for attending school or visiting elderly relatives in care homes?

I see you the op has been reporting lots of us who don't agree with her

The arrogance of you is astounding op. It's all about you and yours isn't it? The 48 hour rule is there for a reason but somehow your family are special and exempt from this. As selfish as it comes!

And as if you are going to be coming back when lots of your dd's classmates and their families come down with it. You probably won't even feel embarrassed

Wow. You actually went on a long haul flight with d & v? You selfish selfish person. You probably ruined so many other people's holidays but I bet you don't care about that do you?

Fair enough (but still somewhat selfish) if you are honest with your guests that your child has been sick multiple times - give them the choice to cancel themselves. I wouldn't bring my DD.

God no. But I wouldn’t go to my elderly relatives if my child had a really bad cold. Child would still go to school and parties with a cold. Obviously if they felt well which is what the thread is about.

I literally didn't report one single person 😂

I had the same situation with one of my daughters when she was 5 or 6. She also had a bit of a temperature but wasnt noticible ill otherwise. The party was being held at our house and there were about 20 kids.
I was friends with the other Mums and knew them well. I messaged and phoned everyone and told them exactly what the situation was and the party was going ahead with just my kids if needed and they could decide if they wanted to come or not.

Everyone came. The kids had all been at school together so people felt that if there kids were going to get it then they would get it anyway. I don't think that's true but it was up to them.

Yup the response has been very similar in our case from the parents.

IF you have been totally honest with the parents and they want to risk it, fine.
I don't agree that they may have all been exposed at school because your DD could have picked it up somewhere else that wasn't school.

If you aren’t going to cancel, you at the least need to notify other parents. I’m going through cancer treatment and I’ve had appointments and operations that literally probably were the difference between life and likely death. If some little runt’s parent gave mine a vomiting bug that infected the whole family and my lifesaving surgery was cancelled, I’d be more than a little pissed off at your entitlement.

Your ignorance about the whole situation is mind blowing but you are completely wrong about the 48h rule.

I'd be not attending your party. We had a dose of Noro just before the last summer holidays as some fuck wits decided the 48h rule was nonsense and sent ill kids to school.

Norovirus floors you, it doesn’t just make you vomit twice and there’s no fever.

This is completely incorrect.

I have a child who does vomit randomly. Even the school now won't send him home because it's as a result of anxiety then a bug, he was missing two days for no reason.
However I also attended a party where one child had been sick but apparently was well afterwards. The whole party ended up going down with norovirus. It was hideous.
Hope you don't have the second and that you got the attention you wanted from starting this bizarre post.

My DS was sick twice recently and then wasn’t sick again. He’s got 3 siblings and nobody caught anything. Edit: I think he was tired/full of sweets etc and it was the come down from his birthday.
When I last had an upset tummy and was sick, it was a few hours after I had a McDonald’s at 10pm.
My DD is sometimes sick when we go on long car journeys.

Not always a sickness bug.

Cancel. I wouldn't want to go if I knew. She had/has a bug and shouldn't mix with other kids till 48 hours after 10pm last night. Also often kids get sick again a day or so later or when they first eat less easily digestible food.