Would you go ahead with birthday party today ? DD vomited

[cameheredor]

It's my DD 5th bday party today.

Huge party- 30 kids. It's at a venue with entertainers etc.

Last night she threw up at around 6pm and then again at 10pm. No fever and has been sleeping soundly since.

Would you cancel the party ?

I'm thinking to see how the morning goes, as the party isn't until 2 and then, go from there.

So what ! We are having a debate ! What's the big deal ? I had my opinion to start, I suspected the outcome and wondered if there were any people I deem reasonable - there are actually a few.

My opinion hasn't changed.

It 100% is a stomach bug.
I would be so pissed off if I turned up to a birthday party with my children to be infected by a stomach bug.

imagine if you were turning up unknowingly to a party where the child would infect all the other children with a stomach bug. Would you be happy?

The chance of it being something else is slim when norovirus and other stomach viruses are rife at the moment. And she was sick twice. Don’t be a twat.

I have family member immunosuppressed due to cancer treatment. Something like this which is completely unavoidable would wipe them out too.

Cancel the party OP it's just not worth risking people's health you don't know everyone's situation

What are you talking about 🤣 You're very dramatic aren't you?

Not go to school plays, not hold birthday parties, go crazy every time they're sick?

No, you don't take sick children to school plays or birthday parties. This is common sense and basic courtesy. It's a very easy, very obvious way to avoid spreading illness unnecessarily to lots of other people. You don't need to "go crazy". You just very calmly don't take a sick child out socialising. Easy peasy. No drama required. Most of us manage it fine. Not sure why it's such a source of drama and anxiety for you.

Have you let the entertainer know? Any other adults who are going to be there?

This can't be real!we've all seen motherland it's a definite cancelling situation,ive cancelled a birthday party on the day it's much better than the alternative.

I would wait a while. See how she is when she wakes up. It might not be a bug, maybe just something she ate yesterday, which is now out of her system.

Be a shame to cancel the party, and then by 2 pm, she's perfectly fine.

Maybe make the call at 11am. That way it gives the parents 3 hours notice if you do cancel.

This thread is quite entertaining for my morning coffee.

Agree that mumsnetters can appear overly anxious and cautious a lot of the time. I think that's because it's easy to be opinionated and sanctimonious about someone else's actions or parenting online. I don't think it reflects their own reality much of the time, it's just haughtily imposed on other people for a personal boost.

However, I'm with the crowd on this one. You are taking a massive risk with the party. The vomiting is fuck all to do with her lunch and you know it. You're crossing your fingers and jumping...and that is up to you.

I hope no one else gets ill. If they do, they've got you to thank.

I would still let my DC attend a party of a child who had been sick the previous day. I don't think the risk of catching anything would be particularly high.

My kids were never particularly sickly though so I'm not especially anxious about bugs.

I would cancel. You also have the risk your DD tells people at her party she’s been poorly, which would lead to potential disagreements. Well I know I would leave straight away and ignore the family moving forwards.

She may well just be excited . I used to be sick with excitement as a child. If she seems fine this morning i would actually go ahead with the party. You’ll know if she’s not right this morning .

No I wouldn’t cancel you monitor this morning and see how she feels. All these over the top reactions. Classic MN. Could easily have been the excitement plus big lunch that made her vomit.

I think you're very selfish. Very inconsiderate why ask if you're going to go ahead anyway ! I do hope it's a hall rather than a soft play where other members of the public will be ! Enjoy your party tho cuz clearly you're not fussed about anyone else at this stage!

Yes, I've had noro a couple of times and the first time I was only sick twice. It's the worst I've ever felt with a bug. It had gone round the family but the kids in the family bounced back really quickly and it floored all the adults.

Strange you have nothing better to do on the morning of your dds party than to post on mumsnet, about a potentially explosive subject, attempting to wind people up by being goady.

Me too 🤣

Debates involve back and forth. All you're doing is calling anyone who disagrees with you anxious fools. Not a debate.

Maybe you could send party bags to those who you "deem reasonable" as a prize.

Op let me tell you a little story from a long time ago. My son was at infant school. A bug was slowly doing the rounds. One lovely mum sent her child in because "he was only sick once". My family got ill (2 children, 2 adults). Over the Christmas break. The sickness started on the 23rd and finally finished on the 30th. They had to close the school and deep clean it. That's how infectious these sickness bugs are......do you want to be that mum???

It's not "classic MN" - it's parents with knowledge and experience who tend to follow healthcare advice to minimise illness, distress and inconvenience.
I understand that's not necessarily "cool", but it's practical.

Why bother to start a thread asking AIBU when you have already made your mind up and everyone else is wrong? 😶 Surely night/morning before party for 30 kids you have better things to do!

My 5 year old went to a party and during the afternoon he ate a fair bit of cake a couple of bottles of juice. Randomly at 11.30pm he woke up and was sick everywhere. Next morning and after that absolutely fine. I think he had just either eaten too much/was too rich or something just didn’t agree with him. I don’t know yours situation but our definitely wasn’t illness. Although yours was sick twice which isn’t a good sign.

The day before my child's 3rd birthday he felt quite hot. I could sense that a virus might be working on him and told my husband that if he was ill he should go and carry on with the party so that at least everyone can have fun, and I would stay at home with my son. We'd have lost the money anyway.

Fortunately he was fine, but we absolutely were prepared to do that. These things happen.

Second everyone on this who has said why did you start a thread on aibu if you are so adamant you are right. Its not a debate.
Also kids talk so your DD will probably tell people she has been sick, so you might very well have some pissed off parents

Or invite them for a piece of birthday cake after the birthday girl has blown out the candles and spread her ‘not sickness’ germs all over it 😂