to start giving personalised gifts so they don't get regifted back to me?

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Firstly I have no problem with regifting. But the golden rule is you don't regift to the person who gave you the gift in the first place!

It is happening more and more often and it is just getting annoying and it feels so thoughtless that they didn't even remember that I gave it to them in the first place.

For example, I have a friend who is a coffee aficionado so bought him a coffee hamper. He regifted it back to me. I don't even drink coffee!!

My new plan is to give personalised gifts. Surely they won't get regifted back to me?

For buyers, not recipients.

Like I said, crack on! If you think your recipient is going to adore their personalised gift, there’s absolutely no issue is there?

I’ve never owned anything that I think would have been improved by having my name emblazoned on it, but everyone is different I guess.

I don't really understand how this works.

You buy him something he doesn't actually want - he puts it on eBay, he gets some cash and someone else gets the use of the item. Alternatively you buy him something he doesn't actually want, but it's now personalised to stop him from being able to sell it, so now he puts it in the bin!

how about buying them personalised gifts that you like, with your name on. Then they can re-gift it to you, and everyone’s happy !

Perfect plan!

I'd just stop buying for them! How unappreciative

Charity shops do accept personalised items.

Just because they accept them doesn't mean they want them.

You know what? I’ve finally figured this thread out! The OP makes personalised tat with a Cricut machine that she sells on Etsy, and in a minute she’s going to drop a link to her shop. This has all been a long winded and irritating advertising attempt!

I don't think all personalised gifts are tat, by the way. But these are people who have already shown you that they don't like or want your presents, which is why they have regifted them. Giving them something they can't easily pass on to someone else is just batshit. Just stop buying stuff for the sake of it.

Their role isn't to pick and choose what they want.

They can pass it on to someone else no problem, just not to me.

No they can't, because you've deliberately made it more difficult for them to pass it on.

Just stop buying them stuff, it's really very simple.

Their role is to make money for charity. People giving them loads of unsellable crap impedes them in that job.

No, but their role is to sell stuff for the benefit of the charity. And personalised stuff is automatically going to have a very limited pool of potential buyers. Why would they want it taking up space in their shop?

So when I give a gift, the onus is on me to make it easy to pass on?

They will accept pretty much most things. If it impedes them in their job, they should refuse but they don't.

No, if you’re bothering to give a gift then the onus is on you to buy something that they don’t want to pass on.
Or… just don’t give the fucking gift. Why are you so desperate to give them a gift?

They accept personalised items taking up space in their shop. My local charity shop won't take electricals but will accept anything else in good condition.

I am not desperate to give a gift. I am reciprocating because others give me gifts.

I do put thought into gifts - hence coffee for coffee drinking friend.

I don’t think I’ve ever conversed with anyone as stubborn and pig headed as you OP 😂

Yes, I cannot imagine why people don't like her gifts.

Aren't you lovely? 🙄

As a family we have stopped much of the ‘gift’ crap. I get a birthday/Christmas present for the DTs as theirs is in December. They give me a few suggestions, usually something like good chinos, shirt, coat etc. For the grandchildren it’s a nice toy and money in their savings. Sis, BiL, cousins etc, nothing. ( mutually agreed)
I only have one friend I regularly exchange gifts with and that is invariably something for the garden.
None of us want or need piles of !gift’ shite.