to start giving personalised gifts so they don't get regifted back to me?

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Firstly I have no problem with regifting. But the golden rule is you don't regift to the person who gave you the gift in the first place!

It is happening more and more often and it is just getting annoying and it feels so thoughtless that they didn't even remember that I gave it to them in the first place.

For example, I have a friend who is a coffee aficionado so bought him a coffee hamper. He regifted it back to me. I don't even drink coffee!!

My new plan is to give personalised gifts. Surely they won't get regifted back to me?

I would rather people didn't bother than regift something they didn't want just for the sake of giving a present. No thought or effort goes into that at all and it can actually be rather hurtful. I once received a toiletry hamper for my birthday that I had given to a relative several months earlier. (I knew it was regifted as I had put it together myself with items that she said she loved before I bought them.) The particular range had also been discontinued not long after I bought it.
Even worse when the sender overlooks checking an item before regifting and it still has the greeting message from the original sender. 😫

Do these people buy you thoughtful gifts, OP? I would sack it off, tbh.

I’ve never had anything regifted back to me, it kind of suggests that you are inadvertently getting things a bit wrong in your choice of gifts to people and they are passive aggressively trying to tell you?

Going forwards though start a one strike and they are out kind of thing, and if someone regifts you something, never buy them a gift again, or stick to an Amazon or wherever voucher..

I think that's completely daft - what a waste of money and resources buying someone a present that they are unable to pass on to someone if they don't like it . If your gift giving is constantly missing the mark, either stop trading gifts or give them an Amazon card.

If someone regifts something to you, just buy them something generic that you wouldn't mind getting back next time. Minimal effort for those who make minimal effort for you.

Are you trying to address the problem or express anger at your friends? because those are not the same things.

If you want to solve the issue, talk to your friends about doing no-gifts going forward.
If you want to express your sense of annoyance about this, talk to the blatant regifter and say you found it upsetting, but bear in mind you will probably lose the friendship.

Please don’t give people tat and clutter with the aim of making it hard for them to get rid of thing itself. It is very very PA and makes it sound as though you are well aware they do not want stuff and are trying to get revenge in a petty way.

Give something you love with your name on it. 😉

Or go with something like a cushion,cup, calendar with your face printed on it..then that's the end of gift giving and a fuck you too😀

I agree it is hurtful.

Especially when it wasn't a random gift that I gave. I try to give gifts that I know people will like or have mentioned they like or would want. When it is regifted back to me, it is annoying and shows thoughtlessness. I would prefer nothing.

Definitely stop buying gifts.

I’d just start buying them things you really like. Then if they regift it to, you get a lovely gift.

I used to get sent personalised clothing and bags with Disney princesses on for my two daughters and one of them wouldn't use them and they were all just hanging around my house until a little girl started DD's school with the same name so we gave them all to her.

But then just stop buying gifts for people, and save that money and buy yourself something nice.

God, this made me laugh. 😂👏

The issue here is that you are making a thoughtful effort and Colin is not. If you want to continue this charade, then stop the effort and just exchange notional trifles. I tend to give wine in these circumstances - I generally have some as we don’t drink much but get given it. It’s easy to shove in a bottle bag (which accumulate in a cupboard). The recipient can use it or pass it on. It solves the social problem of a gift.

Getting passive aggressive about personalised gifts is a bit pointless. I doubt Colin will care - he probably finds the gift exchanging ritual as tedious as I do.

I would buy fewer gifts also I don't see why your godson's parents get a say in what you buy him. Get him a voucher.

This. Did Homer Simpson once buy Marge a bowling ball with “Homer” on it?

Another vote for stop buying gifts.

People are telling you the gifts are unneeded & unwanted. You are just circulating expensive landfill

Mathoms. We are all hobbits really.

Ha ha great post…made me laugh 😆

Just try and cut down on gifts. Say please don't buy me anything for my birthday/ Christmas as I am stopping buying gifts from now on. Done.
Money and stress saved for everyone.

This

This!

I'm with all the other people saying "stop buying gifts". Treat them to lunch or a visit somewhere nice, if you really feel the need

Give champagne/good wine and write your gift message directly onto the bottle label with a Sharpie!