to start giving personalised gifts so they don't get regifted back to me?

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Firstly I have no problem with regifting. But the golden rule is you don't regift to the person who gave you the gift in the first place!

It is happening more and more often and it is just getting annoying and it feels so thoughtless that they didn't even remember that I gave it to them in the first place.

For example, I have a friend who is a coffee aficionado so bought him a coffee hamper. He regifted it back to me. I don't even drink coffee!!

My new plan is to give personalised gifts. Surely they won't get regifted back to me?

stop buying them gifts p or donate to a charity on their behalf - the Oxfam goat, The Sheldrick Trust is brilliant - adopt them an elephant
And an elephant never forgets - so they'll remember what your gift was.
Toto

I wouldn’t bother. If they don’t appreciate your gifts enough to keep or use them, a personalised gift is likely to end up in the tat drawer or just binned.

But it might be how YOU show people.that you care about them but it clearly isn't the way everyone does. It's the "love language" thing I guess. I wouldn't think of gifts and things as a way to show love at all. For me it would be about spending time with someone and for someone else it might be physical affection.
I really think you need to stop giving presents to the people who don't want them rather than try and think of ways you can still give presents but they'd be forced to keep them. Really what is the point of that?
Can you not see that to some people being given something (that they obviously dont want or they wouldn't be regifting) is an imposition. Everyone just has far too much "stuff"
I actually wonder if it IS way more about your need to give presents than it is about the person you're giving them to. Just stop?

Argh I want to adopt Toto now, but we already have an adopted elephant 😁

Just gift stuff you want as gifts! Then it’s a bonus if you get then back.

@FrustratedandBemused he's a real cutie isn't he🐘

So what's the point here? You don't want tatt given back to you, but it's ok for you to give tatt to people?

If you're receiving gifts back from someone you obviously haven't done your homework properly. People don't give away what they want.

A friend of mine was given an album by somebody consisting of holiday postcards that my friend had sent to that person. “Here you are Fiona, I’ve put this together for you. It’s all the postcards you’ve sent me, I thought it would remind you of your holidays”. “Oh thanks!”, came the response whilst thinking it weird at the same time. 😂😂

Why not just give it back to them when Christmas or their birthday comes up?

Another vote for stopping buying gifts.

They won't appreciate a personalised gift any more than they appreciate your other gifts. The only difference it will make is that your gift will end up on landfill instead of being regifted.

I’d regift the coffee back saying I know I’ve bought you this before but presume you must have thought it was a good gift cos you got me the same 😂x

This is the way..

But they can only give it away or sell it to someone with the same name as them. Since they're unlikely to find any takers, it'll end up in the bin.

So because they can't give it away easily, that makes me controlling?

The reason for the personalised gift is so they can't regift it back to me.

Landfill isn't the only option. Sell it, donate it.

To people with the same name as them?
You’re really doubling down on this aren’t you? Just don’t buy him a bloody present!

I am not giving presents to people who don't want them. They give me stuff for my birthday etc and I reciprocate.

Nobody is being forced to keep anything. When I receive gifts I don't like, I will sell or donate them. The person who gave me the gift is not forcing me to do anything.

I guarantee they’re far, far more likely to chuck a personalised gift in the bin than arse around trying to find someone else called Darren to give/sell it to. But your money to waste I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

Errr charity shop?

At least it doesn't come back to me to deal with 😂

If it were me I would be saying "I'm not doing gifts anymore, Cost of Living Crisis, and all that."

Where it’ll still no doubt end up in the bin, because very few adults, in my experience, want tat with their name on!
But crack on, you’ve made your decision. Baffling decision, but your decision!

It makes the gift a waste of your time, their space, and the earth's finite resources.

And yes, if the point of giving them a personalised gift is to restrict what they can then do with it, that is quite controlling.

Just stop buying them gifts. Be honest about the reason why. "Sally, I am upset that you regifted me the gift I bought you. Perhaps we should just stop doing gifts."

Maybe it’ll get passed between all the Garys of the world until the end of time…

I can assure you, charity shops don't want personalised tat that 99.9% of people aren't going to buy because their name isn't Fiona.

Don't make this charity shops' problem please.

Why is it tat if it is personalised?

Personalised gifts for adults is a huge market.