to start giving personalised gifts so they don't get regifted back to me?

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Firstly I have no problem with regifting. But the golden rule is you don't regift to the person who gave you the gift in the first place!

It is happening more and more often and it is just getting annoying and it feels so thoughtless that they didn't even remember that I gave it to them in the first place.

For example, I have a friend who is a coffee aficionado so bought him a coffee hamper. He regifted it back to me. I don't even drink coffee!!

My new plan is to give personalised gifts. Surely they won't get regifted back to me?

I would prefer nothing.

Maybe they would, also!

Maybe your friends are trying to tell you something with their obvious regifting.

Don't buy more stuff for him. Just keep the coffee set and give it back to him next time! See how long you can keep it going. He can hardly complain.

Charity shops are full of crap with people's names on. Everything that has a name on is just tat, absolute tat. Stop buying gifts. My friend often mentions how sad she is that Debenhams and BHS went bust because they were so good for gifts for nieces and nephews. I dare say the recipients of all the tat are very relieved that sources are more limited

Barbara Streisand and Maria Carey give their staff silver frames ( with the celebrities face in) every Christmas. Perhaps you could give everyone a photo of yourself in a frame that says " special memories " or "friendship is so precious" since you are determined to keep gifting. .

Sometimes people buy similar gifts back as they think it’s something you like (I have been guilty of this).

Just buy them something you’d like to be given back to you!

Definitely sounds time to move to cards only for birthdays, with zero expectations for gifts on either side.

The problem is, then the people will just have something they don’t want, but with their name on 🤷🏻‍♀️.
Time to knock the pointless gift giving on the head.

Is it happening a lot?

Give something you'd like back? 

I would call them out on this and just say 'as you re-gifted the gift I got you back to me how about we don't no longer exchange gifts?' Just be pleasant about it. There's no point you wasting time and money if they can't be bothered to put the effort in

I'd be telling people that "it's difficult to get gifts people like and I've been gifted back various things I got various people so I'm no longer buying gifts. Please don't buy he anything for Christmas or birthdays as I won't he reciprocating. I'm telling all my friends and relatives the same thing. Instead lets go out for coffee/lunch/dinner. How does that sound?

Personalised gifts are a waste of money (and resources!). Useless to pretty much anyone else.

Just put forward the idea of not buying gifts any more.

Give fewer gifts.
People obviously don't want or need them.
We all have too much stuff.

Yabu. Personalised gifts are more likely to be thrown in the bin if unwanted.

Unwanted personalised gifts are far, far more wasteful than unwanted generic gifts. For this reason I'd say YABU. It's making it about the giver, not the receiver.

Maybe just agree not to do gifts?

There's a group on FB called "crap you find in charity shops". So much of the stuff posted on there is personalized tat which wouldn't appeal to many people! Who wants a set of champagne flutes with "Mr & Mrs Smith, 5 March 2013" engraved on them?? Not even Mr & Mrs Smith want them.

This is a really bad idea. Just because you like something or think something is useful, it doesn’t mean everyone else feels the same way. You’re just lumbering him with shit he doesn’t want that will ultimately end up in landfill. either don’t get him anything or ask for a specific gift to get him.
As someone who is often the recipient of shit other people think I’d like, it’s incredibly annoying to have to act so grateful when all I thinking is why do you keep giving me this stuff and how can I offload it without being offensive.

Who are these people to you? Family or friends?

not that it makes much difference, but just say to them New Year, new plan, no more gifts. Less wasteful and no unnecessary spending

charity shops are full of personalised gifts no one wants.
besides if they know someone with the right name they will have it instead
no if its important why not ask them if instead you get a day out? an afternoon tea? Spa day?

I wish!
There is a particular item I quite like the look of but have never got round to buying for myself. Twice,though, I have bought it for other people who I am pretty sure it would appeal to.
Neither of them have bought it for me or regifted it!

I always re-gift alcohol.
I'm not tee-total, but pretty close to it, and keep getting alcohol as presents. I just re-wrap it, and pass it on to the next person! Most recently was a bottle of Disarono liqueur.

That’s only really relevant to this thread if you regift it to the person who bought it for you in the first place, as is happening in the OP.

That sounds ridiculous to me. Stop gifting at all unless you're absolutely certain that person would want whatever it is. Adults buy their own stuff.

I have a friend whose family 'swaps' money every Christmas. It's crazy.

Buying personalised stuff will just mean that it ends up in charity shops where it will stay for a while before landfill. Don't do that. Stop buying 'stuff'.

No issue with that but I am sure you don't regift it back to the person who gave it to you?

I have said I don't want gifts and if they really want to buy me gifts there are low price books which I would love. I think it is just habit for some people and a way of decluttering stuff from their own homes.

How is a personalised gift more for the giver? If I am Mrs Taylor and I give Mr and Mrs Smith engraved glasses, how is it about me?

Should I only give non personalised gifts that people can easily regift to someone else?