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To be really glad I don't live in America right now

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AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 09:57

I really feel for ordinary Americans. It's bad enough on this side of the Channel, hearing daily about Trump's latest petty, spiteful, idiotic bullshit - that rant against the Bishop who asked him to have mercy on immigrants, the ridiculous and insulting attempt to blame 'diversity' for the plane crash - but living under it must be so much worse. And heaven help you if you're LGBT or a woman. Or an immigrant. Or not white. Or poor. Or anyone else Trump and his freakshow of a government despises. I moan about the UK all the time, like everyone else who lives here, because god knows it's far from perfect, but at least we don't have a government in charge who is trying to strip huge swathes of the population of their rights and citizenship.

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derxa · 31/01/2025 13:57

OP do you know anyone who lives in the USA ? Have you visited? It seems a bit arrogant to be so upset at democratic choice of another country. I’ve been on MN for years. Posts like yours generally push me the opposite way.

lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 13:59

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 10:12

100% agree. I think it's deeply depressing how the hard right have managed to weaponise identity politics and get women voting for them against their own interests.

How was it in a woman's interests to vote Democrat in the Biden/ Harris incarnation?

They destroyed women's sport on the first day of their administration.

They fawned over males who identified as trans, one of them received a Whitehouse Letter for 100 days of 'being' a girl. This is a fully grown adult male.

Another transwoman fondled their breasts on the Whitehouse lawn, which I assume would have been a felony if any female woman had done it.

And don't come back at me with reproductive rights, this has merely been a carrot dangled by the Republicans at election time. The Democrats have spectacularly failed to codify Roe v Wade even when it was obvious that the Supreme Court was building up to overturn it. Obama even failed to meet his pre-election promise.

So clearly having a 'pussy grabbing' President is bad for women but he at least is restoring sex based rights and is protecting children from the harms of gender medicine.

The Democrats need a rethink. They failed women. They lost the election.

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 14:00

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 13:53

How am I refusing to engage with the opinions of others? I'm engaging with you right now. I don't agree with you - not on any point you've made so far, including how valuable it is to engage with Trump or Farage. The latter wouldn't have got the traction he has now if institutions like the BBC hadn't insisted on 'engaging' with him - in fact, disprortionately so, given his minor status as an ex MEP, particularly during Brexit. He was given a platform he hadn't in any way earned and exploited it.

You're entitled to your opinion, obviously.

The BBC is not the main source of news for most people anymore.

In your opinion what does a person have to do to "earn" a platform? Farage seems to have found his platform mainly on twitter, which is busier than ever despite some predictions, and he has 2.2 million followers there.

"As of January 2024, Twitter is ranked as the 12th most popular social media site in the world. In 2023, Twitter was ranked as the 14th most popular social networking site worldwide" https://www.searchlogistics.com/learn/statistics/twitter-user-statistics/#:~:text=under%20the%20spotlight.-,In%20The%20World,2%20spot%20within%20a%20year.

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lifeturnsonadime · 31/01/2025 14:01

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 10:45

That's not bodily autonomy, that's privacy. Bodily autonomy is what YOU do with your own body, ie, carrying a baby, consenting to sex etc.

His executive order defines sex as beginning at conception, which means that life also begins at conception. Here's an anti-abortion organisation claiming it as a 'huge win' for them. www.ncregister.com/blog/laffin-trump-executive-order-20250122

Sex IS determined at conception.

This has nothing to do with reproductive rights.

HRTQueen · 31/01/2025 14:02

America is a country of extremes some wonderful positive aspects of living there and some not so wonderful

I wouldn't waste too much time on worrying about the people there, most are just getting on with their lives like we are here, mostly getting by without any of the hardships that many in the world are suffering

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:04

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 12:59

Are there? I haven't seen anyone making that suggestion.

Would you mind quoting those posts?

Suggesting as much

It's not said in those words but it's there. "Saved women's sports" for example

Christmassoxs · 31/01/2025 14:06

If people seriously think the UK is that bad, they could always fuck off to America to live.
Even though my dd lives there with her American husband, I know where I would rather be living.

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 14:06

derxa · 31/01/2025 13:57

OP do you know anyone who lives in the USA ? Have you visited? It seems a bit arrogant to be so upset at democratic choice of another country. I’ve been on MN for years. Posts like yours generally push me the opposite way.

My best friend is a gay American (and very upset about the new president, although thankfully he currently lives in the UK) and yes I've visited many times.

It's a big deal as it will affect the UK, not just because of the inevitable damage it'll do to any global attempt to roll back climate change - which will leave us with a massive refugee problem at some point in the not-too-distant future - and the fact the tariffs Trump is threatening will negatively impact our economy, but because Trump will doubtless meddle in UK politics and try and get his mate Farage into power (with the help of his other mate Musk). He's hardly going to be a fan of our (democratically elected) Labour government. America is a global superpower. Of course this impacts on us and we're entitled to have an opinion on it.

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Lookjaz · 31/01/2025 14:11

Better to live over there, at least Trump is doing what he said, not like starmer over here doing the opposite of what he said

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 14:12

There is a thing called Theory of Mind. "Theory of mind is typically defined as the ability to understand the thoughts, beliefs, desires, and emotions of other people. This understanding allows individuals to predict how others will feel, act, and think in a given situation"
www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/theory-of-mind

Accusing people who disagree with you of being bad actors or bots shows a lack of theory of mind.

Anyone capable of utlilising theory of mind could see that Trump was going to win. I strongly predict that the right will win the in the UK next election and in Australia this coming election. This might change, of course, over time, depending on how badly Labour continue to read the room. I think it's all over in Australia though, their election is coming soon and the country really loathes Albanese.

I base this on listening to the fears and complaints of normal, ordinary, everyday people without demonising them.

A good place to find those ideas is Twitter.

Despite what you may have been told, there are people from every imaginable demographic and political belief on Twitter. It is the one place you can really read people's true opinions, unfiltered by the mainstream media or the government. I lurk there, I never post or like, I just read. And what I read is that the right is on the rise, at the grass roots level, everywhere.

On that, I will bow out of this discussion, and wish you all well, whatever your political views.

towelsandsheets · 31/01/2025 14:14

Pretty much like in the UK the US is quite split so lots of people there are not at all happy with the current direction and leadership. On average these are more likely to be ones that brits know

Plus the US has huge international influence so what happens there matters even if we don't get a say in it

And you can feel sad for any group of people who you believe have voted against their own real interests- just like you can feel sorry for anyone who does something stupid or doesn't take care of their health

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 14:14

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:04

Suggesting as much

It's not said in those words but it's there. "Saved women's sports" for example

One person said he saved women's sports in response to an argument that he was harming women's rights.

I think it is disingenous to imply that people are implying he is saviour to women. They just see him as less damaging and dangerous to women than the Democrats were.

BruFord · 31/01/2025 14:17

username299 · 31/01/2025 10:51

He's trying to amend the constitution. Birthright citizenship is in the constitution. He also wants to strip citizenship from immigrants.

A quick correction @username299 . Yes, via Executive Order he’s trying to force a change the Constitution re. birthright citizenship- which he absolutely can’t do.
But, as far as I’ve heard, he’s not trying to strip naturalized citizens or people who currently have citizenship as they were born here, of their citizenship. He wants to end birthright citizenship starting on Feb.19th.

As a naturalized citizen myself, I’m paying close attention to this issue.

username299 · 31/01/2025 14:21

BruFord · 31/01/2025 14:17

A quick correction @username299 . Yes, via Executive Order he’s trying to force a change the Constitution re. birthright citizenship- which he absolutely can’t do.
But, as far as I’ve heard, he’s not trying to strip naturalized citizens or people who currently have citizenship as they were born here, of their citizenship. He wants to end birthright citizenship starting on Feb.19th.

As a naturalized citizen myself, I’m paying close attention to this issue.

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Tucked among the priorities listed in his Day 1 executive orders was a one-line reference to enforcing a section of immigration law under which the government can revoke an immigrant's U.S. citizenship if it was "unlawfully procured."

The directive is listed in the order called "Protecting the United States from Foreign Terrorists and Other National Security and Public Safety Threats." It's an indication that denaturalization will be part of his crackdown, said Amanda Frost, a University of Virginia law professor and immigration attorney.

Protecting The United States From Foreign Terrorists And Other National Security And Public Safety Threats – The White House

PROTECTING THE UNITED STATES FROM FOREIGN TERRORISTS AND OTHER NATIONAL SECURITY AND PUBLIC SAFETY THREATS By the authority vested in me as President by

https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/01/protecting-the-united-states-from-foreign-terrorists-and-othernational-security-and-public-safety-threats/

Sausagenbacon · 31/01/2025 14:22

expected the Reform/Trump lot to be all over this. They seem to have a lot of time to go onto forums and argue that Trump is great and everyone is going to vote Reform in the UK.
Do you realise how arrogant you sound?
Yes, some people disagree with you, surprise!

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 14:23

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 14:12

There is a thing called Theory of Mind. "Theory of mind is typically defined as the ability to understand the thoughts, beliefs, desires, and emotions of other people. This understanding allows individuals to predict how others will feel, act, and think in a given situation"
www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/theory-of-mind

Accusing people who disagree with you of being bad actors or bots shows a lack of theory of mind.

Anyone capable of utlilising theory of mind could see that Trump was going to win. I strongly predict that the right will win the in the UK next election and in Australia this coming election. This might change, of course, over time, depending on how badly Labour continue to read the room. I think it's all over in Australia though, their election is coming soon and the country really loathes Albanese.

I base this on listening to the fears and complaints of normal, ordinary, everyday people without demonising them.

A good place to find those ideas is Twitter.

Despite what you may have been told, there are people from every imaginable demographic and political belief on Twitter. It is the one place you can really read people's true opinions, unfiltered by the mainstream media or the government. I lurk there, I never post or like, I just read. And what I read is that the right is on the rise, at the grass roots level, everywhere.

On that, I will bow out of this discussion, and wish you all well, whatever your political views.

I can't be bothered to argue with you about bots, it's not what this thread is about.

Recommending X as a place for unbiased truth has made me smile though.

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FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:23

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 14:14

One person said he saved women's sports in response to an argument that he was harming women's rights.

I think it is disingenous to imply that people are implying he is saviour to women. They just see him as less damaging and dangerous to women than the Democrats were.

Which is worrying in and of itself

Trump is a sex offender who is putting sex offenders in positions of power

He has complete disregard for women and will actively push for abortions to be outlawed

He is removing protections for women

But hey, he's making transpeople's lives harder so he's here for women

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 14:24

While I am against Trumps position on immigration I can see why people support it.
While he does have ideas that make sense some of the time he veers into crazy territory every ducking day.
Annexing Greenland, renaming the Gulf of Mexico, pulling out of the Paris Climate agreement when half of a bloody state burned down is something a five year old drawing a map of the world would come up with.
It's like he's coming up with some crazy statement or idea every day. Today it was the link between diversity hiring and a national tragedy because "common sense" tomorrow it will be appointing someone as a health secretary who believes that vaccines cause autism ( oh my bad he already did that).

And no I don't believe that the average American supports unless they hate poor people and "common sense".

And for his views on abortion:
https://www.whitehouse.gov/fact-sheets/2025/01/fact-sheet-president-donald-j-trump-enforces-overwhelmingly-popular-demand-to-stop-taxpayer-funding-of-abortion/

Abortions yay unless you're poor than you can bloody pay for them yourself.

Fact Sheet: President Donald J. Trump Enforces Overwhelmingly Popular Demand to Stop Taxpayer Funding of Abortion – The White House

ENFORCING THE HYDE AMENDMENT: On Friday, President Donald J. Trump signed an Executive Order to end the use of Federal taxpayer dollars to fund or promote

https://www.whitehouse.gov/fact-sheets/2025/01/fact-sheet-president-donald-j-trump-enforces-overwhelmingly-popular-demand-to-stop-taxpayer-funding-of-abortion

MaggieMistletoe · 31/01/2025 14:24

The Americans I know all feel sorry for us over here in the UK. Many US citizens who have spent their working lives visiting the UK reguarly are appalled at what it has become.
Save your pity OP, we have enough problems of our own.

snugsnug1 · 31/01/2025 14:26

kattaduck · 31/01/2025 14:24

While I am against Trumps position on immigration I can see why people support it.
While he does have ideas that make sense some of the time he veers into crazy territory every ducking day.
Annexing Greenland, renaming the Gulf of Mexico, pulling out of the Paris Climate agreement when half of a bloody state burned down is something a five year old drawing a map of the world would come up with.
It's like he's coming up with some crazy statement or idea every day. Today it was the link between diversity hiring and a national tragedy because "common sense" tomorrow it will be appointing someone as a health secretary who believes that vaccines cause autism ( oh my bad he already did that).

And no I don't believe that the average American supports unless they hate poor people and "common sense".

And for his views on abortion:
https://www.whitehouse.gov/fact-sheets/2025/01/fact-sheet-president-donald-j-trump-enforces-overwhelmingly-popular-demand-to-stop-taxpayer-funding-of-abortion/

Abortions yay unless you're poor than you can bloody pay for them yourself.

Abortions yay unless you're poor than you can bloody pay for them yourself.

Because it's so great for kids to be born to people who can't afford them, and those lawmakers are always very, very helpful to women and children in that position.

But, hey, he hates trans people, so all good!

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 14:26

MaggieMistletoe · 31/01/2025 14:24

The Americans I know all feel sorry for us over here in the UK. Many US citizens who have spent their working lives visiting the UK reguarly are appalled at what it has become.
Save your pity OP, we have enough problems of our own.

What do they think it has become? And when did it become it?

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likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:27

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 10:09

"The majority voted for this"
The American election system is different. It doesn't work like ours does. It's not really "the people" who vote in the president.

It's terrifying to see what's happening. And the scarier part is how far he wants to go outside America. Threatening to take Greenland by force for example. It will gave effects far beyond America if he really does attempt some of the things he's said.

Labour are absolutely NOT anywhere near as bad.

Trump didn't just win the majority of states, he also won the majority of votes. Most people who voted, voted for Trump.

snugsnug1 · 31/01/2025 14:27

AnonymousBleep · 31/01/2025 14:26

What do they think it has become? And when did it become it?

If you really want to know, as an American in the UK, I saw an awful lot of decline under austerity and 14 years of Tory rule.

meh2025 · 31/01/2025 14:28

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 31/01/2025 14:23

Which is worrying in and of itself

Trump is a sex offender who is putting sex offenders in positions of power

He has complete disregard for women and will actively push for abortions to be outlawed

He is removing protections for women

But hey, he's making transpeople's lives harder so he's here for women

He is not removing protections for women. This is simply untrue. And if you believe this to be true you must provide citations and links.

Anyway, gotta go. No point to this.

snugsnug1 · 31/01/2025 14:30

likeyoubut · 31/01/2025 14:27

Trump didn't just win the majority of states, he also won the majority of votes. Most people who voted, voted for Trump.

49.7% of the 64% of voting-eligible population that turned out.

So, yes, more people, but hardly the overwhelming mandate he claims.

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