Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

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For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

Yes my DH cooks about half of all meals

No as he can’t cook, but he is a very tidy person, so if he did I imagine he would be quite tidy while doing it.

Yes
ever since I broke my wrist a few years ago
he took over and carried on

Yes he cooks quite a lot and does a lovely Christmas dinner, I can't go into the kitchen though when he's cooking as he uses every utensil in the house, and leaves all there until hes finished, whereas I'm a very tidy person and tidy up as I go along

Yes, he's a great cook - better than I am, if I'm honest.

DH does most of the cooking in our house. He can be messy and create loads of washing up, but he's a much better cook than I am. I'm the better baker though, so puddings are normally my domain. In the OP's example he'd do the roast and I'd do the pudding. DH could do the pudding, but he'd probably flap a bit if we had people coming over as he'd want it to be perfect. I on the other hand would massively struggle to do a roast, as I haven't done one in nearly 20 years!

No, but he has never been taught to cook or tried to learn so I do all the cooking!

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I haven’t read all the posts, but I have to just laugh at the thought of my DH cooking, he knows where the kitchen is because he does help with dishes etc, but cooking - he would burn water, he thinks he can cook, but he really can’t he would tell you he can do a fry up of something on toast might even push to pasta, but he’s the only one who would willingly eat it.

My DH does 90% of the cooking- we've just enjoyed a lovely mid-week roast chicken dinner. He also does the majority of washing up, does the laundry (including ironing), cleans the bathroom, mops floors, vacuums, puts the rubbish out, takes responsibility for our houseplants and will fight me to polish the small amount of brass & silver items that we have. He's not good at noticing dust & cobwebs, but no-one is perfect(!) 😉 He also does voluntary work for the local Hospice. I need to point out that he is retired (I still work part-time) so he doesn't have much else to do. The garden is mostly my responsibility though - I mow the grass, weed, take care of the veg garden etc.

DH does all the cooking because he's better at it than I am and he enjoys it, whereas I see it as a chore. He is also naturally much tidier than I am so cleans up as he goes along.

No, he doesn’t cook*. Instead he clears up the kitchen perfectly, loads the dishwasher, and puts it all away in the morning. Suits me fine.

*Dates back to him always working very long hours, far longer than I ever did, hardly ever home before 7. And for 13 years overseas, only ever having one day off a week, when we’d be off in our boat or at the beach.

I'm 40s and my dad cooked 90pc of our dinners when I was a kid as my mum's job finished later and she wasn't back until 6pm at best. He went to work early morning to finish in the afternoon so did after school pickup and dinner prep.

He had never cooked anything beyond toast until he was 21 (his mum did and then uni halls) but he learnt and kept adding new dishes, especially when my sister was diagnosed with Crohns and couldn't eat gluten which was even harder in the 90s than now, and now in his late 70s, he bakes a new type of cake most weeks for my mum.

Depressing that so many men still consider it beneath them to be able to cook competently for themselves and their families.

It's not a hard skill to learn for the basics.

Yes. I wouldn't be married to him if he refused to cook, it's a basic adult skill.

Your specific meal? Not a chance.
But an amazing dinner from the cuisines he grew up with? Absolutely.
The kids comment on how much washing up he creates compared to my cooking tho!

Mine does all the cooking, and he’s brilliant at it.
But he’s INCREDIBLY messy, makes the washing up such a huge job for me as he doesn’t rinse anything/wash as he goes…he’ll get the salt/herbs/spices/oils out and leave them on the side when finished, and I think, would it not have been just as easy to put them back in the cupboard?
And I always thank him for cooking a delicious meal, but never get thanked for doing the washing up after 🤣

My husband can make a roast no problem, but he would never cook pudding, it's not his thing. I wouldn't expect him too either. I don't like making pudding either.

I always think of Jay Rayner being asked if he can cook and saying "Of course I can-I'm an adult"

Nope my dh cooks zero in the house but I'm a good cook and shot it. But he does all the washing, ironing, DIY, Gardening and is responsible for cleaning the bathroom and doing the hoovering. So I'd rather do the cooking 🤣

Now there's a candidate for the Men We Find Attractive thread...

Not 10 years ago but he can now. It takes practice managing the timings of everything, managing your own stress levels etc

Can the man cook yes, does he make a fuss yes not in a messy or praise me sense but that its an experiment. He is a scientist and when he cooks he views it as such, so he has the scales out and likes ‘kit’ he decided he wanted to make an authentic Spanish tortilla. So that was a special tortilla double frying pan arriving via Amazon. The 50 quid omelette as I christened it. I’m keeping a tally as to the cost of the omelette with each use of his special pan.

I remember him cooking a big roast dinner when DS was a week old for when my family visited. DS is a very decent cook taught by me from age 12.

Nope😂 his time management skills in the kitchen are awful! Actually I remember when we were in our late teens I went over to his mums house so he could cook me dinner. It was steak and chips. He cooked the steak (which he has always been amazing at cooking btw!) and I got the chips about 25 mins after I finished the steak😂😂the mess gives me anxiety!! I'm in the kitchen behind him trying to clear as he goes and make sure there's a full plate of dinner all ready at the same time. Well we can't all be good at everything aye!

He will cook if I ask him too but I prefer to just do it myself☺️

My partner is an alright cook, he makes a pretty good roast and does it with no fuss. He really enjoys it and I don't so he mostly prepares our meals. I'm actually quite anxious and stressy in the kitchen so mostly he would rather not have my help and leave him to it. I tend to do all the washing up / clean up after as he hates that bit and I don't mind it so we've ended up with a chore sharing arrangement we're both quite happy with.

Yes, he does 2 nights a week (he's away in the week for a couple of nights so this is proportional) and does some lunch things . He can make quite a few decent basics and gets better with practice. His range is ever increasing although his first attempt at a pudding might be a bit stessful. He'd learn though.

The only thing I get asked to help with is chopping onions as he really tears up badly! I also occasionally grate cheese if he asks but he's getting better at prepping.

Yes. He particularly enjoys cooking roast chicken (he does tidy up too).

MIL was a single parent who worked FT, so DH and BIL were encouraged to cook for themselves as teens.