Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

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For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

Absolutely no chance.

Even Gousto recipes seem to be beyond that.

However, he is very dyslexic and struggles with the recipe cards. Plus ADHD and he just loses his temper.

It's deeply unattractive.

Yes, he is a good cook, but does make a mess as he goes

Yes. He loved to cook and was very tidy - cleaned up as he went along so hardly any mess afterwards.

Yes to the roast every few weeks. He has never tried puddings but nor have I.

Honestly surprised by the replies here. I'm a bit older so perhaps it's generational but I know very few men who cook day to day in my age band. Most can survive. cooking wise but some would starve or live on marmalade sandwiches. I've never cooked a sticky toffee pud as I don't have a sweet tooth at all. Never met a man who has either.
How lovely that younger people are sharing the culinary load better than we did.

I'm 52, as is DH (who does virtually all the cooking). Most of our male friends cook. My dad cooked too, and he was born in 1943. If you can read (or follow a Youtube video), you can cook. It's not hard.

I don’t have a husband, will a DP do? Yes he could, better than me. He does 99% off the cooking.

Yes, he cooks several times a week and also clears up. (We have the rule that whoever cooks also clears as it means the other person has a complete night off from kitchen duties.)

His meals are lovely, though tend to be much more elaborate than mine. Partly because he enjoys cooking (I'm less enthusiastic) but I suspect it gives him an excuse to do less child wrangling, hmmmm.

I would absolutely not have married someone who didn't expect to cook meals regularly. The thought of having to decide what to cook, and then cooking it, every damn day with no one ever making me a home cooked meal makes me want to cry! I would honestly rather be single.

He's never made sticky toffee pudding though neither have I!

My DH is in his fifties....he lived alone for many years before we lived together and didn't starve...he can prepare basic food. In a million years, he wouldn't dream of making a cake or pudding. I cook vast majority of his meals.

My friends are married to men who are a bit younger in their early forties and they all cook. It is partly generational I agree.

Going against the grain of the "generational" comments, my husband cooks several times a week and is 64 (I'm 50). So it's not always the youngsters!

I'm 15 years older than that. As I said, I'm glad the load is now shared, honestly. DD had a male housemate who was an excellent cook. She's not an enthusiastic cook particularly. I know a fair few people older than I am and I would say, far more of the wives/women cook. I'm glad the pendulum has swung.

Yes, he does at least 50% of the cooking, everything from ordinary weeknight pasta to a full Christmas dinner, and is actually more likely to also do a pudding than I am (because he's the one with a sweet tooth). We also share the shopping and meal-planning. Because we're both fully-functioning adults.

My DH didn't cook while we were working. I worked nights,so cooked left his in the microwave
He's started cooking since he retired. I have a hiatus hernia so I have to eat by 6, he wouldn't have been home from work by then. My late father never even made a cup of tea in his life. Born in the 30s..

He couldn’t bake but I can’t either. Some people hate cooking, there’s nothing wrong with that

Nope. He is absolutely useless in the kitchen. He can produce a decent chilli con carne, can do stir fry and scrambled eggs (which he does in the microwave 😖). And that's it. And he's messy 🙄

But he is a whizz at DIY once he gets going, whereas I am clueless, so we each work to our strengths.

My husband does the main share of the cooking. He's very good at it too.

Sure there's nothing wrong with it, but 'hating cooking' is a luxury you can't afford if you have a family who will insist on being fed on a regular basis.

If you're a parent with young children, you need to cook. Whether or not you like it.

My grandad was in the Merchant Navy so had learned how to cook and sew. Frequently used to cook.

My dad was an excellent cook. Had quite a repertoire of both Indian and Caribbean dishes due to having friends in bith communities. In the late 60s he would ask West Indian women at Shepherds Bush market "What do i do with this?" and lots would give him tips.

My husband can microwave soup.

Performative cooking rather than everyday cooking can be quite a male trait.

But to be honest, most of the blokes I know, of all ages, can cater for a family or their partner or themselves. I only know 2 really who can't, my FIL who I think has made a sandwich once or twice but I'm fairly sure has never been shopping on his own. And one half of a male gay couple who just doesn't cook.

Yes, he can cook perfectly well - though my criticism would be that his meals are low on freshness and veg, he’s very meat and carb, and then gets a bit frustrated when the rest of us aren’t keen, but dc and I like vegetables and salad.

And he does all the cleaning up from cooking and loading dishwasher and general sorting of kitchen every night anyway, so mess isn’t an issue.

Yes he can.

Although I don't think either of us would bother with a sticky toffee pudding. But he can make a cake/biscuits/brownies, as well as main meals without it being a big deal. He cooks frequently, but not as much as I do because I genuinely like cooking whereas for him it's a bit more of something you just have to do rather than something actually enjoyable.

Yes. I do most of the cooking because I’m home most, but on the day I’m at work and he’s home with our child he’ll happily cook and clean up along the way.

It’s not just men! I’ve known women who ‘can’t cook’ - to me it almost always means ‘I CBA’. I feel like saying, ‘Oh, dear, can’t you read?’ - because anyone of normal intelligence who can read, could teach themselves with a basic book such as Delia’s.

So many shit men on threads like this. And so many women who put up with it.

Just because someone is a shit cook doesn't make them a shit man. There a plenty of things I am shit at that DH takes responsibility for. Doesn't make me a shit woman