Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

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For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

Yes, literally sat here waiting for my DH to bring my dinner through to me!

Yes, he can do pretty much anything, apart from bread. I hardly cook at all these days!

He regularly cooks a roast dinner but might struggle with a sticky toffee pudding. We're not really a dessert eating couple.

DH decide to make himself a bacon sandwich on Sunday:

is this bacon Ok, the pack was open?
How do you turn the grill on again?
Have we got any different foil (still using the turkey wide width one)?
the extractor isn't working, what do I need to press?
is this cooked?

Drives me absolute insane. If we ever divorce, the number 1 criteria for any man is that they are competent in the kitchen.

He definitely could, but he wouldn't wash up as he goes.

He does most of the cooking to be fair, and the dishwasher does a lot of the washing!

Yep he does all the cooking.

No way

When I say mine cooks every night that's what I mean. He's not cooking up a spag bot or something. Sausage and mash, microwave meal chicken and chips etc is his level.

Yes, we take it turns to cook.

Mine's a great traditional cook when it comes to savoury. Messy but great. He does a wicked roast with all the trimmings, full on breakfast for dinner, and really good curries. He is not a baker but he can rustle up a pudding out of cupboard surprise bits when the fancy takes him. I am a more creative cook, and when I can't be arsed cooking and he's up for it he often asks what I fancy - I normally invent something on the spot which he will then execute. He'll congratulate himself obviously if it turns out delicious, but I point out it was my idea so it was a joint effort, really.

No idea which way to vote as it isn't clear to me what your AIBU is.

But, to answer the question, yes he can.
I mean, in truth, I don't ever remember him making a sticky toffee pudding (indeed, neither have I), but he cooks without making a fuss very often. He's a better cook than me.

Doesn't ask for help but does take hours, uses every pot and occasionally get angry. He's a good cook tho.

I wish. I’m not keen on roasts but know how to make one. DH makes them since he is the one that loves them. He does cook, but bloody hell the amount of mess he makes for a single meal even when he is using a soup maker or a crockpot really annoys me.

He wants to cook, watch tv, mess with his phone, and be on his laptop when he could be cooking, tidying away (takes a few minutes), and then do the rest while or once he is done eating.

I’ve usually cleared the dish rack, the dishwasher, and the sink is clear, so no reason for stuff to be all over the place when he cooks.

Every partner I have had bar one has been an excellent cook and the main cook.

I cannot imagine lasting with a guy who did not share that load.

My DH can cook and cooks well. Some nights we cook together, some nights we cook separately. He isn't messy either. Last night he made spiced cod with lentils, homemade raita, and griddled veg. He makes loads of fabulous Norwegian dishes, and loves experimenting with Asian recipes.

I'd go bonkers if he was crap at cooking! Couldn't be with a bloke who didn't pull his weight.

Mine does 100% of the cooking and is really good at it!

No.
He does the laundry, dishwasher and bin.
I do shopping, cooking and most of the cleaning.
Mum cleans the kitchen, her rooms and does her own laundry
Kids keep rooms tidy, strip&remakes their own beds, feed cats and will cook a meal each a week. They will also clean if asked.
Everyone walks the dog
He can 'make' a dinner that involves oven chips and freezer food.
He wouldn't strop but would want detailed instructions

My exh did zero cooking, if he had to do something for kids if I was out always a big fuss, you’ll have to write it down. It was just another reason he’s an ex, a complete ick when he started asking me to write things down with instructions! You are a 40 year old man that travels all over the world and you can’t cook a meal? He just didn’t want too to do it but my now adult kids says he eats like a student!! 🤣

I do all the cooking and clean as I go, and leave the kitchen clean and tidy, I always have done. When my late DW was alive, we'd work together or take turns whoever was home first during the week, it was something we both enjoyed. I understand that for some people cooking is tricky, but I do struggle to understand how some can't put something simple together, follow a simple recipe etc, I do wonder if it's strategic incompetence sometimes! And there is no excuse for not being able to clean up either, that really is the bare minimum surely!

Although we don't live together, my DP and I love and enjoy cooking together when we can, we're both foodies (for want of a better term) and it's one of the many things we have in common.

I also think that despite it is 2025, it is important for my DC to see that a man is perfectly capable of running a household and all that it entails, and being able to prep and provide meals is part of that.

Yes. I couldn't though. I'd be ok making the roast, but not the pudding. And I'd still want (need) help.

Yes to the roast, no to the pudding. But tbh I don't think he or I have ever eaten sticky toffee pudding! Generally we take cooking in turns so we are both fine to cook dinner.

My DH can cook but has a fairly limited repertoire. Definitely not a full roast with all the trimmings (maybe a simple one with frozen spuds and yorkshires and one type of veg...) and he's never done anything involving baking/puddings. It's generally just things like traybakes with chicken/pork/fish and veg, steak with chips and salad, stir fry, stews, simple curries, spag bol - basic stuff but he does it well and without complaint so I don't mind! I actively like cooking and trying new recipes so I think we work well together.

Without a big fuss yes, without a big mess not really.

He can but he struggles with meals that need things done at the same time. So it was a roast we might end up with yorkshires coming 15 minutes late, and he will forget items that he deems less important like desserts and vegetables. His roast potatoes are fantastic though.

My partner is a great cook because he cooks rarely so can afford to cook in butter etc but it takes him forever and he uses every pot and pan in the place and I get to tidy up, so while he's better than me I do prefer to cook myself!